do you think that is logical or healthy?
do you think that forgiveness works?
:)
2007-06-01 15:09:05 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
both, but i now realise that gets me nowhere, im working on that... any negative towards me shouldnt affect me....
2007-06-01 15:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By someone on this forum? Naah... I blow it off.
By someone in real life - well I sincerely try not to hold a grudge and for the most part I do not. However, there are maybe two or three that I still do not like for their past offenses against me. I think if one day we met and actually talked we might be able to make amends - at least meeting might aid me in forgiving that person 100% instead of the 90% I have already.
2007-06-01 22:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by aali_and_harith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If one is insulted, that means one took offense; if not, there wouldn't be an insult. The problem is how to deal with it.
To not recognize anger is a problem. None of us can be a Vulcan; we're not made that way.
Holding a grudge is something else altogether. One can become angry and decide to let it go; that's healthy. That's the point behind forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't mean that one has to like a person, or spend time with them; it simply means that you don't allow yourself to focus on the things that make you angry. Let them go and be yourself. That's the point of forgiveness.
2007-06-01 22:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot to offend or insult me, and when it does happen I'm upset for about 5 minutes. I choose to let things like this go, there's no point in fretting about it. Occasionally, it'll really sting and that's when I choose to talk about it with whomever it was that may have done this.
I don't ask for apologies, but I forgive them in my heart, and if the situation calls for it I offer forgiveness aloud. For me, forgiveness works because I would be a bitter old shrew if I held on to any animosity. Some have called me a doormat, but I'm happy as I am.
I think it's logical to forgive so that both parties involved can move on, and I think it's healthy because it instills in you a sense of peace rather than anger.
***There must be something wrong with me. I'm reading that forgiveness must be asked for. I can't do that, I offer it freely. To wait until someone humbles themselves to ask is something I wouldn't expect another to do.
2007-06-01 22:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hold a grudge. Let that be a warning.
It's not logical, nor is it healthy, as I'm finding out.
I don't forgive anymore, because it doesn't work.
2007-06-01 22:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have been known to. Don't know about logical, but it probaly is unhealthy, so I try not to. Forgiveness - that has to be asked for. I am always willing to forgive anyone who asks me to, if they appear sincere. Otherwise, I just try to forget about any injustice in the past. Some keep coming back to haunt me, like festering sores. Sometimes it don't come easy. Lately I have tried sending thoughts of love and blessing to those who have hurt me in the past, living and deceased.
2007-06-01 22:15:48 · answer #6 · answered by harridan5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither insulted nor hold a grudge. I just look at it as me and the other person just don't agree.
Peace, Love, and Blessings
Greenwood
PS - forgiveness definitley works....
2007-06-01 22:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by Greenwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both! I'm offended so I hold a grudge!
It's not healthy, and it's hard to forgive!
Forgiveness can work, if its genuine and if the person APOLOGIZES. Otherwise, forget it!
2007-06-01 22:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually do both. Of course, I defend myself first and will hold a grudge until my defense is heard and ... understood ... and we both can see our differences. PS. I have a lot of grudges! Just kidding.
Forgiveness works with someone you love. Outside of that, they can move on!
2007-06-01 22:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by nancie_usa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I do either I am allowing someone else to channel my thinking. As soon as possible I ask forgiveness for my part. After that I seek restitution. If that fails or is successful is in Gods hands.
Allow God thoughts to rule your life and don't allow others to rule your thoughts-----that is difficult in a marriage
2007-06-01 22:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by j.wisdom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I may hold it for a season.
Hmm; having said that, I'm immediately struck with a current family whom I'm feuding with...
It does serve my emotional health to keep distance from this person.
Yes; forgiveness works, but I won't sacrifice forgiveness for wisdom, either.
2007-06-01 22:12:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋