He has been like that a couple of months after we got married. I have been asking him respect and talk our marriage problems in the room where nobody can't hear but he just don't care and keep shouting and shouting. I do not want this for my baby, and i am a catholic woman i don't know if i should get divorced or not. Our communication and intimacy are not good, and I am at the point where I just let the days past because he does not show any interest in solving this situation. when he is mad, I stay quite, to avoid him shouting but I don't like it either.
2007-06-01 15:03:50 · 9 answers · asked by Koranay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get counselling - if he refuses, leave and mean it. Unless you think that you are in danger (are you afraid of his outbursts?), then you should seek the help/advice of some one who can help you leave safely.
This kind of behavior is abusive - just because he doesn't hit you or the baby doesn't mean it is not abuse.
You deserve better for yourself and your baby. If for no other reason, ask yourself this..."Is this the kind of life I want for my child?" Remember, kids repeat the patterns of their parents, if your child is a boy he will grow up to treat his wife and child this way, if your child is a girl she will grow up and let herself be treated as poorly as your husband is treating you.
2007-06-01 15:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by ShellyC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouting is not a mature or respectful way to communicate with anyone - let alone someone who you love.
If you don't like that and he's not willing to change, then you should free each other up, via divorce, to find happiness in life.
Of course, you will still have to communicate regarding your child, but, at least, you will be able to find some happiness and self respect in other aspects of your life - some confidence that might carry you and your child through the difficult times as you try to keep civil and dignified when dealing with dad.
2007-06-01 16:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in order to have him repect u u must shout back or talk o him calmly but staying quite is not the way or itll will contune dont let him get the best of u it might get worst iam not saying he will hit u or anything but u have to seperate not divorce but let him know your puting your foot down and lets hope he will change when hes missing u so good luck and hope everything works out for u my prayers are with u
2007-06-01 15:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fight fire with fire yelling back is not the thing to do. However you have the right to be respected, it seems the problem is really his. Tell him you want to work it out but you will not be treated this way he must stop! Let him know you have to much respect for your self to allow some one to treat you badly.
Get counseling and try to work it out, but if he refuses to work things out, do what you must.
Good luck!
2007-06-01 16:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Daman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shout right back at him, of course not infront of the baby, you tell him if he can't talk to you showing respect don't say nothing at all. Don't pay him no mind.
2007-06-01 15:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 09:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine does the same thing and that is why i have 1 1/2 feet out the door
2007-06-01 15:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel and that it is not good nor healthy for the child... if he doesnt want to hear that, you might need counsiling
2007-06-01 15:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raise so much hell with him that he'll know better than to ever do that again.
2007-06-01 15:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋