What should I do If i want a sweet 16 but cant have it because..?

Question

My mom and dad are divorced, and my mom doesnt want any of my dads family to be there or him! Should i just have My moms family and friends and then do something with my dad and his side of the family?

Answer 1

Personally, I would ask each of them, separately, what is going to happen when you graduate school? Will they both attend that? And when you get married and ask your Dad to walk you down the aisle, is your Mom going to miss your special day because of him being there? Get this settled now before you get any older and your mother continues to act childish. Maybe you can discuss how to behave - you as well as her. That you are not going to hurt her feelings by being with your Dad all during the party (or any celebration) and that she put you first by being happy for your celebration! If she stays firm to her decision not to have him and/or his family, do you have a special Aunt or your Mom's best friend that you can talk to? Maybe they can talk some sense into her. Maybe they can remind her she loved him once and that you love him, still. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well honey I am sad to see that your parents are not adult enough to put their own foolishness aside and put you first on such an important day.

If you want to have both sides of the family at one party then you need to talk to them. I would say that you understand they were unhappy with each other enough to get divorced, but they are still your parents and you love them both equally. You want to share this moment in your life with all your family, and would like the two sides to burry the hatchet long enough to let you have your moment in the sun.

I hope it works for you. I hate my ex but would never start anything that would hurt my kids. Just because I don't like him does not make him less their father.

Answer 3

First, show this answer to your Mom. It's a shame that a 16 year old has to be the ADULT in this situation. Your idea about doing two seperate events is probably the only way you can go. You didn't say how your Dad feels about all of it. Good luck to you and you should be proud of yourself for being so mature.

Answer 4

Your mom is being immature, you have to respect her wishes though is your fathers family and he dangerous or something ask her why nicely and if she wont answer than fine shes an adult, but ask your dad, sinces she paying you must abide by her rules but tell her it is your birthdays and you would like your dad and all family to be presesnt. Me personally I would ask my dad to throw me the party and invite your mom and family to that one

Answer 5

perfect.
your birthday is your day not your parents, so don't feel bad about disappointing anyone of them who isn't willing to see your happiness as the main thing in your happy birthday.

if your dad is going to be more accommodating on your birthday, then have ur party at his place. invite your mother and beg her to come whatever. Divorce is tough but the rest of us must get on with our lives.

Answer 6

thts too much money. Just simply have either a party or a get together at ur house and invite ur friends. family just too much they'll come over and give u presents later

Answer 7

u cant have a sweet 16 b/c thats child preditory

that is illegal it is 18 is the legal age 4 stuff related to anything

Answer 8

Just have 2 sweet sixteens. 2 cakes, 2 parties, if you have friends at sweet sixteen, make sure they know that you don't want gifts at both.

Answer 9

Don't have two birthdays.... thats bad! Just tell your parents they need to suck it up and get along, because this is YOUR day, and your parents had their own, it was the wedding. If it didn't work out, its not your fault, and they shouldn't ruin yours.

Answer 10

Yes.. look at this as your gain.. now you get two sweet 16's. Not something most girls get!