We've been dating now for 6 months,& I willingly do absolutely anything that he asks me, which is often strange,& at times slightly painful)whenever he wants to.But if I feel like making love, he'll say 'no, not now, later'. I might be fine with that as I am a patient person,but also when we (or rather he) has finished, he runs away to have a shower, or just stands up because he's hot, and I ask him to please stay in bed with me, but he won't. All of this I could handle if it weren't for the fact that what I would really like him to do is talk to me sometimes while we are in bed,as I like hearing his voice and it brings me closer to orgasm if he does. I don't care if he doesn't really know what to say, but this is a man with a substantial porn collection, and a way with words(he can write poetry), so he must have some idea of how to. Why won't he indulge me and talk dirty to me?Or see the experience through until we are both satisfied?Does he have the right to be this selfish?
2007-06-01 14:45:06 · 18 answers · asked by luby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he does NOT have a right to be as selfish as he is.
2007-06-01 14:50:55 · answer #1 · answered by hopeful2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your the mistress. I mean i don't know what your relationship around sex is, but you sound like the girl he does after he leaves his gf. The Italians have four women in their lives. Their mother which they hold above all else. Their wife , which they pick to resemble their mothers. their GF that they use as an outlet to keep that new feeling in their life. and their mistress, she does the things that He could never see his mother doing, the things that he won't ask his wife to do because she will be the mother of his children, the GF: because he holds her to a standard in his head that if she did do it or not do it that they would lose the loving feeling and it would all become about the sex. Luckily in America, we have only three choices. The witch that gave birth to me and ruled over me. The wife that knows self-worth and will only do things when put under strain. And the GF/Mistress The woman i can go to when it has been too long in-between when she put her own discomfort to the mans's own. The fact that at 6 months you have seen the porn collection means that that is what he is to you. you might actually skip the wife side, and still end up the mistress. He may just see you a place to put his peter in. I could be worng. but give it a little thought.
2007-06-01 16:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welll Im 14 So This Might Not Help Any
But I Would Talk to Him About How You
Truely Feel! And Second Of All I Would
Tell Him The porn's Gotta Go No Guy Im
With Has Porn I Wont Let Them..Hope
I Helped...xx-Rachel Ashleigh!
2007-06-01 14:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most stupid stuff happens when people are drunk. You're just lucky it hasn't got to the violent stage where he beats the cr@p out of you and then doesn't remember a thing. Of course, when you are drunk, too, you might not remember anything either and be puzzled how you lost your front teeth. Then when you're old & he's in jail again, you'll be all cross-eyed & scarred, with no front teeth, wondering, "I thought he loved me. What happened?"
2016-03-13 04:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he does not!!!
You need to find out what it is that he wants out of yall's relationship? Weather its just sex or does he actually love you and wants a long term thing or what. This is something you need to know. This is from a mans point a veiw. It sounds like he just wants sex. If he cared about you he would make sure you get saticfied as well as he. Thats the way I am with my wife. I LOVE her to death its not about me all the time. You have to alienate that is a true relationship
2007-06-01 14:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by bite me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be like this with my ex wife..she would talk and want me to talk..she even asked intimate questions at a time when i was really getting into making love....most guys like the fantasy..like the action they see in porn..but they don't want the women to break their concentration as it kills the feeling...sometimes i would tell my ex=wife to shut up and be quiet...it was not the nicest thing i did..maybe this is why we broke up..but i did not want her to ruin my concentration...also when the act is over..a lot of guys hate clinging women who smoother them...also we sometimes get moody after the act of making love..my ex wife would always complain that i was a different person after sex then before...i guess i am guilty as charged..sorry.
2007-06-01 14:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is selfish in bed, and no he does not have the right to be. I don't think it has been a good session unless both parties are satisfied.
2007-06-01 14:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by Brian D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he doesn't. He sounds pretty selfish to me..gets what he wants then he is outa there...You are being used !! A relationship should not be so one sided...It is s'posed to be give and take...not all give. I would be lookin for someone that wants to make you happy not just pleasure themselves.
2007-06-01 14:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by DyShaNic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuo can't make love if you aren't in love! You can't make love if one person is in love and the other isn't!
A pair of lips will tell you anything, body language and actions will tell you everything!
There is something wrong with your relationship. Find out what it is! And find out quick!
2007-06-01 14:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL him it turns you on and you will have the best orgasm ever if he just talks a little... suggest he say stuff like " mmm, that feels good"... or "are you getting there?" anything... if he cant DO that, he doesnt CARE whether you orgasm or not.
2007-06-01 14:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋