My (now) exboyfriend didn't call me or answer his phone for 5 days. This has happened several times so i decided to end it. I left him a voicemail and broke up with him. Now he is calling me back crying, saying that he had an anxiety attack and was in the hospital. He has emotional problems... i keep talking to him cuz i'm worried about him, but i keep on accidentally telling him that he has a chance.. when he doesn't. I'm scared i am leading him on. Should I just quit talking to him? or what? i just give in, when i hear him crying... what do i do?
2007-06-01 14:20:35 · 11 answers · asked by k8r9i8s8ti 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't break up w/ him bcuz he has emotional problems.. i would love to be there for him. I broke up w/ him bcuz he is giving me emotional problems because he doesn't call me for days.
2007-06-01 14:30:03 · update #1
Quit leading him on if he doesn't really have a chance. You're just causing more anxiety. Even if he doesn't like your final answer, it's better than being led around like you are doing to him.
2007-06-01 14:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Simmy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not lead him on. I know from experience how hard it is but if you don't plan on battling through this with him, you will do more emotional damage to him if you make him believe in something that is not true. Tell him that you will do whatever you can to help him (if that is true) but you are not able to be in a relationship with him anymore. Hopefully he is getting some professional help, too, so that he can pull himself together. I know it's hard but stay strong.
2007-06-01 14:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by JerseyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have Anxiety, make sure he sees a doctor, it can be controlled. The worst thing you could do is break up with him. Be there for him as a friend, help him out. You may be rewarded with a great friend or boyfriend later. At the very least, it will be good Karma.
2007-06-01 14:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by Hambone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely keep talking to him, but make sure that you aren't leading him on by telling him he has a chance when you know he doesn't.If you keep playing him and he finds out he cam kill himself, because you said he has emotional problems he might take it to seriously.
2007-06-01 14:26:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you care about him but can't be with him anymore because you're not happy. Let him know that maybe down the road you two can be friends, but right now you need your space to work things out on your own.
2007-06-01 14:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by jgarcia62780 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know there are things at my work that has caused me anxiety. do youself and him a favor just be honest and break up if you need to. stop leading him on. he's got way too much going on to depend on someone that dont really want him as he is.
2007-06-01 14:25:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ida 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to understand where hes comin from...mybf always holds me n helps me thru it when i have an anxiety attack i can imagine how it would feel it u would lose ur gr bc of it...just comfort him but tell him u want to be alone for a while
2007-06-01 14:25:36 · answer #7 · answered by cutiepi0306 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his emotional situation is not your responsibility. obviously he is bringing you down. i think you should cut him off. you deserve to be happy. once he gets his mental health under control, maybe then you can be friends. i thnk that's what you should tell him.
2007-06-01 14:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by jmprince01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be there for him if this is true about the attacks but he just wants you back if its not true about the attacks
2007-06-01 14:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by Katie Noble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more you drag it on the deeper than hole that you're digging for yourself. because he has emotional problems you shouldn't be mean about it, but you have to be truthful to yourself and to him.
2007-06-01 14:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by 6468 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋