cuse 1 time my boy friend came up and said do u want 2 have sex but i said no cuse a wastnt ready
2007-06-01 13:59:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, you have a lifetime of sex and making love ahead of you. You won't even peak sexually until you are 30. That's a lot of time...and a lot of time to THINK about what you are talking about. Look, I'm no prude (check my profile). I lost my virginity at 14. But I was very much in love with this girl. I think I'm STILL in love with that girl.
When I read what you wrote, I don't get the feeling like he is interested because he LOVES you. Wants you, yes, but love, no. If he were in love, he would be so damn worried about you and your future together. Having sex for the first time should be about mutual love, respect and understanding. If he dumps you because you won't "put out", then he doesn't care for you at all.
Sex is something that should be ramped up to slowly. There are 1,000 things you should be doing together BEFORE you lose your virginity, and I'm not sure if you have done the things that some would consider foreplay. You only get to fall in love for the first time and you lose your virginity ONCE. Don't let him talk you into anything...
Doing it for the first time should be slow, at your pace and not in the back of a car at the drive-in. You will remember your first time for the rest of your life. If it is traumatic, it will take years to feel comfortable about it again...
And if you're not sure what love is, people ask the question on this site all the time...do a search and make sure you have found love BEFORE you find sex. Lots of love...Kes
2007-06-01 14:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kes 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
thats the best thing to do never let someone you dont love push you into it. You will end up regreting it later on when you do find someone you love. And when you do find that person it will be alot more exciting and more emotional than to have anything with no real deep feelings.
2007-06-01 14:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by greydirewolf89 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good for you, you'll know when the time is right.
2007-06-01 14:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Fuzzy Bottoms 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you aren't ready don't rush it. you'll know when its the right time.
2007-06-01 14:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by jessicamichelle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your not ready then ur not ready
2007-06-01 14:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by GiorgioArmaniRules 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋