Alright well I'm a 20 year old sophomore incollege. I just came home from college about 2 weeks ago and I live with a family who is insane. I've NEVER EVER lied to my parent's about where I was going who I was with etc, back in high school I NEVER got drunk, I smoked pot twice in my life and did not like it. And I've always even now in college been an honors student. I don't feel I have a reason to have my parent's concerned.
Yet...they are. I'm 20 years old they set a curfew of 12:00 for me and my 2 younger sisters whom are 17 & 18!! I am not allowed to stay at my boyfriend's house and my parent's flipped out the night I was out until 2:00 because of a concert.
I understand it's because they care but they need to give me some slack I'm not my sister's and I'm not 17 & 18 years old. I have tried to explain this to them and they say "your only in college sweetheart"
Anyways I plan on lying to my parent's tomorrow night. For the first time ever and I'm not exactly sure which lie to tell them PLEASE HELP!!!!!
2007-06-01 13:30:32 · 16 answers · asked by LiL Chrissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please note: I have tried to explain to them this situation of staying at my boyfriend's or being out past 12:00 and they tell me "I'm still in college" and they don't want me setting a "bad example" for my sisters. They also said if my sister's can't stay out past 12 then I can't!
my sisters are17 and 18!!! They are barley legal! I'm going to be 21 in 3 months!!!
2007-06-01 13:31:33 · update #1
which would work better...I have NEVER EVER lied to my parent's before!
A) I was planning on telling my parent's I was going to a concert tomorrow night and would be home around 2:00 A.M. Since I've been to a concert before and got home that late I know they'd agree to it. Instead of going to the concert I was going to hang out with my boyfriend until 2:00 or 3:00 in the morning.
B) I was going to tell my parent's I was staying at this girl's house and park my car where I work and stay at my boyfriends house
please help!
which one would work?
how do I lie?
2007-06-01 13:32:02 · update #2
If you are staying in their house, then you need to respect their rules, bottom line. If you don't want to do that, then get your own place. I don't care if you will be 41 in a few weeks...this is a respect issue, plain and simple.
Deal with it or stay at the local hotel when you get out on summer break. Being home at midnight will not kill you. It will give you more time to spend with your kid sister's. Because believe me, once you all grow up and move out, there is no time for each other. Take advantage of it now while you can.
Don't lie to them. Would you appreciate it if they lied to you????
2007-06-01 13:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26 and my mom still sets rules for me when I'm in her house. Her house, her rules. I've lied to my mom a million times but honestly, I don't recommend it. I know you think you're all grown up because you're 20 and in college. Trust me, your parents are still a hell of a lot smarter than you are and as hard as it is to admit, they do know what's best for you. If I had listened to my mom and followed her guidelines, I bet you anything I wouldn't have gotten pregnant and had a baby when I was 20. Don't worry, life doesn't end at 20 (unless you have a baby). There's plenty of time to stay at your boyfriend's and do whatever you want to do, when you have your own place. In your parents house, respect their rules, follow them, set the example for your younger sisters. Honestly, you'll be glad you did in the long run. Oh and, your parents being smarter than you and all, will most likely know you're lying anyway. Good luck.
2007-06-01 13:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of your solutions are bad. First, you have set up your own standard of behavior and you will regret making changes.
Second, if you don't like their 'rules' you can always move out and do your own thing.
I raised 4 kids and we had rules. I didn't think one size fits all, but I am not your parent.
Bottom line, trust is earned and easily lost. It isn't worth the risk for just a longer time out. Besides, what are you doing after midnight anyway? And who is paying for your education? Is it worth the price you may have to pay?
2007-06-01 13:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by charliehc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family therapy is needed immediately. If mom and dad refuse, you MUST move out. However, they still have to pay for college, and if they refuse, take them to court. They are overbearing, control long, and hat you said about they are using you to set an example for the other two means you are not being treated separately. They are, frankly, unreasonable, and very controlling.
Part of the problem in modern life is late night bring out guns and big creeps. They are trying to protect you., However, when a Sat night starts at 9 PM, and you must be home at midnight, that is a total joke and is unreasonable. I'd stay at someone else's home for good and do odd jobs for a bed.
2007-06-01 13:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're lucky your curfew is at 12. That's late enough. There's nothing useful you could be doing with your BF after 12 other than getting yourself in trouble by getting pregnant. As long as you still live under their roof, you go by their rules.
2007-06-01 13:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by evilman_chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 08:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered getting a room somewhere else? You could simply not live "under their roof" and do whatever you want. In the mean time what will they do if you simply don't tell them anything except that you're going out, and come home when you want. You can always tell them Oops I forgot to tell you "I'm moving out" or that you were somewhere else. Make sure to clue your alibi in though.
Get a job and sublet a room somewhere. Move out.....Grow up and make them see that your are.
2007-06-01 13:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by burninspike 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tough question. If you are really that certain that you are right then be honest and tell your parents the truth. It may be weird at first but if you don't set boundaries with your parents then they will always be living your life for you.
2007-06-01 13:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember their house their rules. It sucks I know I been there. Just think about the future and the nursing home you'll pick for them. I tell my mom shady pines, the name of the nursing home on golden girls.
2007-06-01 13:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by spfldcardinal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you lie and you get caught...how will your parents trust you then?
As far as the curfew thing goes..its their house right? You don't like it then don't live with them.
2007-06-01 13:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋