How can I go about this in a subtle way so that she will be curious or better yet, want to let me tie her and see where it leads to?
2007-06-01 13:16:18 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow - how to get her into it? Personally, I'm very into it and noone ever asked me how I felt about it. I think my first time (if I can remember that long ago) my fiance just left a long satiny scarf on the dresser where I could see it. In the course of our "session", he picked it up and blindfolded me with it, jokingly saying something lame like hmmmm , let's see what happens or something unimportant. He did not make a big deal out of it, just sort of worked it in. After the blindfold, he took another scarf and tied my hands, then my legs. There was never any pressure or really any discussion. It was like foreplay.
I think that the surprise and the lack of expectation made it erotic, not creepy. As a woman, I think it is totally hot. My husband was a little wierded out by it at first but he really likes it now.
To the people who are going to write things on here about how this is degrading to women, let me just say that doing this act of submissiveness is very powerful - it is a powerful thing to know that what you are doing can be such a turn on to someone else. I have never felt like I could not just say stop and be freed.
Make sure that you assure her that she is safe, she can trust you and that you'll stop whenever she wants. If she trusts you, this could kick down doors to deeper intimacy for both of you. I don't think I would start out with any heavy bondage gear for that reason. Start out with something safe and unintimidating and work up to whatever you two are comfortable with.
I wish you well! I hope it works out for you.
2007-06-01 13:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Army family. 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tie Up A Girl
2017-01-13 16:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bondage eh!!! well, BD is a game of thrust. You have to thrust the person and vice versa. It all depends on how adventurous she is. Some people find it exiting and some don't. I think the first step is to talk about it. Once you convince her to do it then start slow. One way is that instead of tying her wrist have her just hold the rope. Always make sure she feels comfortable right. Then just keep adding. Also, take turns. Have her tie you. Like I say you have to feel comfortable with the person. You just can't jump on top of a person with all your equipment and expect the person not to get scared.
2007-06-01 13:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is something too serious to do in a subtle way. You have to have a discussion with her and see if it is something she would be willing to try. Hold her hands over her head while you are having sex and see how she reacts to that. If she fights you off then she's not into it. I also think the more comfortable someone is with you, the more open they are to new things. Also, you could rent movies regarding bondage and see if those turn her on. There is never anything wrong with discussing your sexual interests with your partner. If there is, then the relationship hasn't matured enough. Good luck.
2007-06-01 13:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ok this what you do pull her over like you are a cop then arrest her HAHAHAHAHAHA Good Luck! Or you can ask her out then tie her up or better yet just lead up to what you want
2007-06-01 13:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mary M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what??? Think about her.Do you want her to be a victim??? do you care so little for her that you need to do this.Some guy just tried to tie me up and I was all alone in a cabin.This guy was 75 and going through his sex fantasy phase but that doesn't mean I want to be part of it. I had to escape as it was really creepy and my son is thinking to beat him up. The police are also involved and he's in big doodoo. So think that over carefully . Are you headed for Ted Bundy, Robert Pickton, or Clifford Olson.? Criminal sex charges are the worst there is .... Tieing up may only be appropriate for married consenting adults who trust each other totally and are looking for something new or hired professionals in the sex trade business. If this girl isn't into it you should go hire out someone at a brothel and get that out of your system.
2007-06-01 13:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by jan d 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Wrap your wrists in her panties and put your arms above your head (as you're laying down) and tell her she can do whatever she wants to you. Believe me, you will know if this turns her on.
If so, gently do the same to her after she finishes. Use something soft like a silk tie or scarf. This can progress if she's into it.
2007-06-01 13:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kia A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why would you even went to do that to a girl you like? it's just sick and wrong. but some people are very kinky so to each their own. but if you are serious about this then you should start off with some bondage video's or some bondage magazines. watch the video together and show her the magazines too. so she can get an idea of what you went to do to her. this might help her understand what you went to do to her and she might then be into it or not. never force her into doing it. but then you can also tell her that she can tie you up first if she feels uncomfortable with you tying her up. It would be fair that way. so good luck with this little s and m game of yours.
2007-06-01 13:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Let her tie you up first
2007-06-01 13:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by JimBob from 'Bama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, so not cool. You are so far out of line your GPS is gonna blow. If it's a girl you "like," you're indicating that you have NO clue about what you need to do to develop a trusting relationship in whch sexual exploration can grow. Back up and take it down about a million. If this "girl" isn't a whore by trade, you are kidding yourself and scaring everyone else.
2007-06-01 13:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by rb29440 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋