Rules for 16 and 17 year old girls?

Question

What are some good basic rules for 16 and 17 year old girls?
Should they be allowed to come and go as they please, do what they want, etc? Treated as adults?

Answer 1

my child will be 17 in 6 months. she is to be in at 11 on weekends, 10 on weeknights. she is to call us and let us know if she leaves one place to go to another. she is to let us know before she leaves our house. its called being respectfull. if we dont know where she is we will worry. we have taught her to treat us with respect and we will do the same. that she has proved to us she is trustworthly but if she lies and be disrespectfull then we will lose the trust we have in her... but my daughter is a good kid. dont smoke, drugs, or drinks. it depends alot on the parent. if u can trust them then u have to give them some room. if u cant trust them then they have to earn the trust..

Answer 2

Rules For 16 Year Olds

Answer 3

I have five girls ages 21, 18, 17, 15 and 12.
It depends on their personality and maturity. I was always a little more strict with my oldest than I am now with 17 and 18 year olds because she was and still is the "wild child". Some can be treated as adults and some can't.
Common rules in my house when my girls were going out was to answer these questions:
Where are you going?
Who are you going with?
How are you getting there?
What time will you be home? (Had to be at or before curfew)
They also had to call me when they left each place and before coming home.
They also had to not go anywhere without telling me or to random people's houses and call me if there were any problems.
At 16 and 17 you need to prove you can be treated as an adult by behaving maturely, making the right decisions and being responsible. If you can do that, I have no problem giving you a little freedom and treating you as an adult.

Answer 4

Personally I think that 16 and 17 year old girls want to be treated like adults but its a right they have to earn. Which (in my parents house) meant I had to earn good grades, obey curfew, avoid trouble and keep up with my chores. Curfew was 10pm, as time went on it moved out to 10:30 and then 11, eventually I was allowed to stay out later as long as my parents knew where I was and what I was doing. Same rules held true until I moved out for good when I was 22.

I didn't like it at the time but I turned out alright.

Answer 5

you should treat a 16 or 17 girl like an adult but dont give her too much freedom. but some basic rules down.

Answer 6

It all depends on the person, the family dynamic and the parents.

Curfew should be discussed with each of them and you should have a reasonable time set for each depending on the situation. It also depends on what you're OK with your children doing and what you're not OK with them doing.

I don't think they should be given complete run of their lives, but definitely give them some space and freedom (more so the 17 y.o than the 16 y.o) and allow them to make some of their own choices. It's the only way to know whether they've learned right from wrong and if they're trustworthy.

Hopefully you know your children well enough to determine what's best and what is too much leway. Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

I think it depends very much on the girl.

If you have a girl who is very upfront and honest with you and gets good grades whom you trust, then maybe it's okay to let her "come and go as she pleases" as long as she tells you when and where this would be. My husband and I are responsible adults and we would never ever go out without telling each other where we are going and when we would be back, so it would be unreasonable for a teenage girl to expect not to tell people these things.

If she's not this responsible, then you definitely want to set firmer rules. Establish a curfew, restrict where she can go, and so on. Remember, she's only got a short period of time before she's an adult, so you want to make sure she learns to be responsible so she does well when she's out on her own.

Answer 8

My 16 yr old daughter was hell on legs and believed since she was 16, she could run her own life and maker her own rules. I am divorced from her dad who did not help me with anything, so she pretty much didnt obey anything.
I waited till she turned 18 to let her get a drivers license on her own. I did not buy her a car. I did not get her a cell phone and she was supposed to be in the house before kerfew as determined by the law in the state of Illinois at midnite.
She stole my car, my money and about everything else, so I bought a safe for my personals, and kept my keys under my pillow while I slept at nite.
She kept telling me she could not wait till she turned 18, and I told her I couldnt wait either because I would not be responsible for her shinnanigans anymore.
A lot depends on how mature your daughter is. I would highly suggest getting her on birth control.
No boys in the house when you are not home and certainly none in her bedroom when you are. Boys get horny and can manipulate innocent girls into anything.

Answer 9

I always knew my daughters' friends which was a big help and a prerequisite. If they were good people then I felt better letting my girls be with them. If I felt iffy about them then I had the girls have them spend more time at the house with me and my husband so they could get to know us better and we them. If I was unsure of letting my girls go to another person's house, I called that parent to make sure they were going to be home and were expecting the kids and what was planned. I kept a pretty tight rein on them. If I couldn't reach the parents then the girls didn't go. When they both had jobs I always knew their schedules and they had to come straight home from work when they worked late, even when they had their own cars. I always figured my house, my rules; if my gut didn't feel right about something I acted on it. Keep the lines of communication open and a watchful eye on your precious ones.

Answer 10

There is no definite right or wrong way to raise a child/young adult. You should really think aboutwhat the adolescent needs in order to grow in the child that you want it to be raised. At that age, yes we wanted to treated as adults but we need adults to let us grow in small steps, not all at one time. You also have to remember you are responsible for her life physically and emotionally. If you feel that they may be too out of control for you to handle, then to a certain extent let them be how they until they understand why you establish the rules you have.

Answer 11

I dont think you should give them that much freedom, i dont think should be treated quit so much as children but not given the freedom of an adult, i would get them to tell me where they are going, always have a phone or leave a phone number(in case of an emergency/and you need to tell them)
I also think 16 is a bit young, especialy for girls, they can get themselves into alot of situations that they think they can control but turns out they cant.
I would basicaly have a bit more of a hold on them, dont give the freedom of a adult, mainly becuase of the dangers that are out there.