Someone once told me good women marry jerks, because they have to balance each other out.
I know of 4 couples, where the women are good and hold the marriage, and the guys are jerks.
In another marriage the guy is super good but the wife is : no further comment........
2007-06-01 12:36:42 · 13 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Myth: Two good people cannot hold a marriage. True or false?
Can 2 bad people hold a marriage?
Your thoughts and advice. THanks.
2007-06-01 12:37:47 · update #1
Most of the unbalanced couples I know split up. The longterm couples I know compliment each other but neither are jerks or crazy. What one is weak in the other balances them out with their own traits. And all of them are good people.
2007-06-01 13:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well! Let me try, this is a hard one.
Lets put it this way, we have five fingers in a hand and none of them match, same thing, we may have six or eight siblings, yet they all can be world apart, when we as brothers and sister can't get along, and we have differences, for example no two kids are alike, so how do we expect that our partner is going to be "Perfect"
Yes! Majority of the time, when you see husband and wife together they are smiling look happy, which they are faking and pretending.
In this battle of getting along, some get tired and burnt out, and then they give up, and get divorced, others are week and try to hang in and put up with all the crap, for different reasons, some do it for kids, some because of insecure feeling, but then there are some genuine couple that are really happy by all means, which is incredible and perhaps they should get a medal or an award.
Very simple "marriage is a two way street" "give and take".
2007-06-01 12:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by Naaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of these are generalizations, or just people that you have come into contact with.
There are all sorts of matches for marriage. I think that true, good, solid, loving marriages have a man and woman who were just the right match - in the soul and in the spirit. That they had something that each other needed. In our marriage, both my husband and I are good people, of good character, intelligent, great senses of humour, kind, fun, loving, share the same religion and similar ethnicity -- but we are as different as it's at all possible. He's all logic, problemsolving, math and science, and I'm into the humanities and social sciences.
It's the best possible fit - we do each other good! It's worked over 17 years!
2007-06-01 13:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have personally known different. I had a white teacher at school who had a black Husband and 3 children with him. Their marriage was just like any normal marriage and they had been together for a long time. A male friend of mine from school is also black and has a white fiancée. The friend was and is kind of the sweet and nerdy type, and I don't think he would do anything to hurt anyone. Maybe these girls just ended up with bad men. I have met women with bad white men as well. On the other hand, it could be to do with where you live.
2016-05-18 23:30:48 · answer #4 · answered by benita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, now I'm saying this just because I've been with a few jerks. I think women love the fact that they're exciting and most of the time (not always) the jerk knows how to make a girl feel special and loved. Women love excitment and when a women dates a jerk, she hopes to God that she can change him (because she WANTS to change him). I know it sounds confusing but (long story short) jerks can be romantic and mysterious(you never know what they're gonna do next).
2007-06-01 12:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do believe in balance, I think opposites truly do atract and make good couples. I am one half of a couple like this, my husband says I have no fuse, the match is lit and the bomb goes off, whereas he can be pushed and pushed and never looses his cool, I dont think if I married someone like me my marriage would be in tact, we'd kill each other and the home that would be created for our kids would be so volatile, it wouldnt be good.
I wonder if people think I am a jerk and my husband is good?
2007-06-01 13:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The myth Ive always heard is that women are attracted by the bad boy and marry the good guy. So, I guess that these women married the bad guy, (you know, mister dangerous). AS FAR AS THIS WIFE GOES, SHE MUST BE LOOKING FOR MISTER DANGEROUS.
2007-06-01 12:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do god men land in jail?
Why do we make idiots our leaders?
Why ask why....try bud dry!
Good women marry jerks because they wanted too...or in my family's case...they got knocked up and had too....its all good.
2007-06-02 09:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by Experimental876 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they cant because they will always be fighting about what the other does. Like my mom and step dad. My stepdad is an alcholic and my mom isnt. My mom is always fighting with him about his drinkg. so i say false.
2007-06-01 12:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess, it is the hope that somehow you can save this person. Make him change for the better.
2007-06-01 12:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by Azil-em 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋