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whenever i look in the mirror i just want to cry and break the mirror. i have acne that just never goes away(not the occasional ones that lucky people have-in other words i ALWAYS have acne). then i look at my hair and i usually hate how it looks. then i have dark circles under my eyes..

what can i do to make myself feel better about these flaws? ive tried everything to make my acne better (i TRIED proactiv). and i straighten my hair everyday, i know its bad but i have no other choice . it would be all frizzy and poofy.

2007-06-01 12:06:31 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style Skin & Body Other - Skin & Body

im bothered so much by my acne that i always put my hair down so it wouldnt show as much..i wish i could put it up b/c it feels better but when i do i feel so insecure

2007-06-01 12:09:27 · update #1

29 answers

You can go to the dermatologist and if nothing else works they can give you prescription pills or topical creams that will help your skin. As for your hair, just play around with products. If frizz is your issue try Herbal Essence spray gel on you hair when it's wet. Let it completely dry then scrunch your hair. It will be soft and smooth.

2007-06-01 12:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

aww... sweetie... times can be harsh but
if u try these steps everything'll work out
they did for me atleast- I went from being an
ugly, unattractive, overweight, pizza face to being voted as
hottest asian in my school- no lies

1.add skinny or flare jeans~ not high waters
2. Wear shirts that look natural not as if somebody threw paintballs at you
3. Shop at AE, Hollister,Wet Seal, Deb, 5-7-9, and Abercrombie
4. do something nobody has every been corageous enough to do- a dress on a shirt or dress-shirt with leggings
5. Be bold and be heard
6. Accessories- either if its big braclets, chunky shoes, rings or neclaces, or huge shoes accesories make a huge difference and make it colorful!
7. Hair- get a descent haircut with short choppy layers and side bangs... Try to keep it like that and ask ur hairdresser for the type of products that'll work well with ur hair... dont straighten it too often and always keep a hair tie handy if its needed
8. Makeup- u dont need much, just gloss, mascara, and foundation... dont cake it on just to cover up the blemishs and make it look natural
9. Acne- use equate or cetaphil facial cleansers... they're basically the same things just different brands... they are huge and not expensive whatsoever... so this will clear them up and make sure to keep oil blotting pads and antibacterial pads with u at all times for one of those days where ur skin is a little wack... and trust me- THOSE MEDICATED PRESCRIPTIONS LIKE PROACTIVE AND NATURES CURE AND THAT SH!T THAT U BUY AT CVS ARE A WASTE OF UR $$$
10. Dark Circles- on the weekend devote at least one day to sleeping and try to go to sleep earlier- about an hour- each day. That way u'll have more sleep and less marks... If it doesnt work then soak in the bathtub 4 about an hour possibly two and that will decrease them tremendously!

Note- u have a great personality just afew appearance flaws so keep ur head up and always hope for a better day tomorow and trust me- it'll work! Im 12 so i no how hard life can be at school...

2007-06-02 00:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You should really try the Murad skin care system. It is really good, and it doesn't over-dry your face like ProActive.

Don't try to cover your face with your hair because of your acne, either. Hair has oils and dirt that it catches during the day, so you don't want to add to your problem.

Watch the foods that you eat, especially foods to fat/oily, salty and sugary...and drink lots of water, sweetie. Keep you a good skin care regimen as well. Sometimes, though, acne can be a thing of heredity and other physical problems, so definitely go visit a dermatologist.

Definitely try the Murad skin care program, though, and wash your face in the morning and before you go to bed.

For your hair, visit a stylist who can give you the perfect hairstyle for your features, and for the dark circles under your eyes...I really don't know how to "cure" those, but you can definitely keep them from getting worse by keeping your eye area hydrated with toner and eyecreams. The delicate skin around your eyes does not produce oils, so the skin loses elasticity and starts to stretch, get dark and wrinkle. You can definitely slow or even stop the process by being an avid user of eyecreams. And there is always concealer for your eye area as well. If you use concealer and eye creams, be sure not to tug at the eye area, but apply both with your ring finger gently.

2007-06-01 19:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Valerie C 2 · 0 0

The main thing to remember is that it's not other people thinking you look horrible, it's just you. And making yourself worry and worry about it is just making you feel worse, when other people won't really think it's that big a deal. I am no expert on acne, but if it's not going, then just relaxing and knowing that it will eventually go is the way forward, rather than spending most of your waking day worrying and trying to get rid of it, scrubbing and massaging, instead of just enjoying yourself and being with your friends.

There is no point stressing yourself out on something that just can't be helped. I realise that you are not happy with how you look, but you just have to tell yourself that it could be so much worse, as it really could. Your acne will go; there are people who have things that just won't go, and would give a lot to only have your acne.

It is very upsetting to have something the people around you do not, especially when it knocks your confidence so badly, but you'll have so many lovely qualities and so many beautiful parts to your body (acne certainly won't take away the beauty of your eyes and smile), so just concentrate on those and know that you do have wonderful features, ones which other people will be jealous of and people find very attractive indeed!

As for your hair and circles under your eyes, well like everyone you'll always find faults with themselves, and what you see will stand out to you even though other people will never even notice. You prodding and poking yourself to try to make things look different will just worry you even more and make things worse when they most likely don't look bad in the first place (only to you).

Just enjoy yourself and don't let your acne or any other features you are not keen on rule your life. People get by and find love with a perfect partner with far worse, so you'll be fine (and it will go in time anyway).

Be happy with yourself and your body; you are unique, with qualities and features that no one else in the world has - be proud of them :-)

2007-06-01 19:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

For your acne.. go see a dermatologist ASAP!!!
If your acne is that severe then they will be able to prescribe you with medicine. A dermatologist will be your best bet to get rid of your acne!

Stop straightening your hair ASAP!! In fact don't let a blow dryer, straightner, any hot styling appliance near it for a couple of months. Every time you wash your hair, after you shampoo use a deep conditioner and leave it on there for 5 minutes. After you rinse it out and are out of the shower then let your hair air dry! You could do this during the night while you sleep as it's a lot simpler and you wake up with dry hair. Then just put it up in a pony tail.

Dark circles? Use a concealer and a circle made to help your dark circles.

2007-06-01 19:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

omg i have issues similar to this. there has never been a time where my face was clear!! eternal acne!! DAMN IM CURSED!
dont worry EVERYBODY has dark circles it seems like, you only notice it becuase you look in the mirror for too long! longer than anyone would ever look at someone else!
hair..straightening it is a no no. even though i have naturally very straight hair, i
okay, hair: shower at night first shampoo and rinse with HOT water...then squeeze out all the water, and apply a conditioner either specified for defrizzing (like straightening) or maybe even for curly hair.
leave in until desired! (mean while you can shave a such)..and then rinse out most of it with cold water!, i usually leave a bit in on the ends. and sometimes i put leave in conditioner in. COMB your hair not brush. and then sleep sleep sleepp. in the morning, comb some tangles and style it using some silkmilk or other products, keep it off the heat for a while. why not try half up hair down, or pinned back, or even braided?
Acne: no idea, sorry same prob
dark circles: i use covergirl liquid concealer in a wand-bottle thing, works great!. ........makeup i know makes most every one look better, but dont succumb into heavy loads of it! make up just hides who you really are, and once you dont wear it, people will be either grossed out or weirded out. BUT, its good for enhancing beauty such as eyes or lips
only way to feel better about flaws is to enhance your greatness!
flaw of mine: little chubby
enhance: my tallness!!
flaw: braces
enhance: beautiful lips!
flaw: acne
enhance: healthy hair!
flaw: sort of flatchested:
enhance: my bootay!

get the drift???
oh and people are ALWAYs harsher on themselves, don't worry your eyes are playing tricks on you! you are so hot id date you!. JK i dont swing like dat.

be you, be beautiful, and dont try to impress anyone or yourself, be what god made you to be. a happy, loving person thats so pretty shell be prom queen

2007-06-01 19:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sorry you feel that way...usually were always way to hard on ourselves and it really isn't as bad as you think. First concentrate on your good qualities. Look in the mirror and find something you love. The idea is to help yourself feel good about something and enhance those qualities. When your shy and withdrawn about something people notice that more. Trust me everyone wishes they could change something about themselves!
But if you want to help the acne, I like you tried everything! And spent tons of money doing it. What seemed to help me is birth control pills. I use orthocyclene. But talk to your doctor and tell me specifically you want it for acne, they're all different. It took about 2-3 months but it did me wonders. Before it I tried proactiv, chemical peels, pills, lasors....
You hair you can't change, but can change the cut. Sometimes the cut and the right products can calm the frizzies helps. I use soft silk serum. I put it on when it's wet and dry, it helps with the frizz.

Good luck and remember your beautiful no mattter what!

2007-06-01 19:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by yo? 5 · 1 0

You don't say your age. I know what you're going through is really hard. It's hard to be different than the way we (and stupid judgmental people) think we "should" look.
It takes mental strength and discipline to think positively about ourselves. So here are some mental exercises to help you feel better about yourself.

1) Remember your acne is only one small part of you. You have a brain, thoughts, feelings, skills, talents, interests, and a completely unique personality. There is only one you!

2) Remember that you have physical beauty as well as physical flaws. We tend to focus on the flaws and ignore the strengths. Okay, your don't like your skin and hair. Do you have pretty hands, a pleasant speaking voice, are you graceful, or athletic, or attractively shaped? Ask your friends and family what your best feature is. You'll be amazed.

3) Remember that we don't always have an accurate picture of ourselves, especially in the teenage years. I bet you know a dozen people who think they are fat, or ugly, or unattractive in some other way, even though you and all your friends know that these people are perfectly fine-looking. You may be very conscious of your acne, but most other people won't be. They see the whole you.

4) Remember that people like to feel good. If people feel good when they are around you, they'll never even see your acne or hair, and if they do, they won't think about it. If you are kind, encouraging, supportive of your friends, positive about situations and events, if you make people laugh, and if you are cheerful and happy yourself, people will feel good around you and seek you out. Focus on other people. Really listen to their problems, find ways to mention their good points or compliment their good actions, tell them what you like about them, instead of worrying about how you look. It really works! No one can resist a person that makes them feel good about themselves. It might be awkward at first, but you'll get the hang of thinking positive and focusing on others pretty quickly.

Hang in there, things will change before you know it.

2007-06-01 19:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 0 0

Sound like you are a woman of color. There are products out there for you. I don't want to name them all because I am not familiar with your skin. I will say that alcohol based products work very well on extremely oily skin. Cleansing the face at least twice a day and using a product will improve your skin a great deal. Talk to your physician and have him/her recommend a product or ask a pharmacist at your local drug store. Find yourself a good beautician for your hair before you burn it out. Summer heat and hot combs are a bad combination. Try a perm and keep your hair oiled. I am sure you are a beautiful person and you should not have to hide your face. Life isn't always about how you look, it is about you putting your best foot forward. YOU GO GIRL!

2007-06-01 20:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by flirty30 3 · 0 0

Well, lets see. On skin, Well I'm one of the fortunate few. But that's because I recently started using AcneFree, a "cheaper" version of proactive. But I've tried both. And it works so much better. And if none of treatments are working, You can cover them up using make up that doesn't clog your pores. I.e Bare minerals (it's pricey, but it gets the job done).

As the hair love. We are in the same boat. But recently (once again) I've discovered, that when you have dry frizzy curly hair, let it be curly, get it wet in the mornings, and scrunch it with moose. It hides all the damage, the frizziness, it makes it shiny, and it looks beautiful. Straightning it will make it look even more frizzy, dried out, and not so nice. Eventually, You may have to cut off a lot of your hair to make it look alright again. (personal experience)


Good Luck.

Hope I helped. =-)

2007-06-01 19:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No one wants to hear this but here it is.

Every one is insecure, we fake it and try not to show it. Some of us are mean and pick on those who doesn't know how to express their insecurity, but hides instead. They make everyone around them much more insecure, thinking they are confident, but it's all lies.

Everyone is lonely, but some of us fake it, by acting out in a way that gets attention , negative or not, to try and make the pain of loneliness go away for a moment.


You are at a gae that will define who you are for the rest of your life.

Look into your self, what we see is an illusion, reality is what we create for ourselves.

What are your hobbies? Future plans?

Ever notice some of the popular pretty girls are the ones that get pregnant right after school, get fat, or become the town whore?

So you take longer to blossom. This way you don't rush yourself into what's ahead for you.

What's wrong with that?
Nothing!

Take your time.
Your beauty will catch up to you when your mind is ready.

Everyone feels the way you do. No matter what they say, we are all insecure and self critical.

2007-06-01 19:20:53 · answer #11 · answered by Himiko 4 · 0 0

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