I'm a young doctor at a prestigous hospital and he's the top chef at a mediocre hotel.. But I don't look down on him for it.. he makes great dinners and packs me lunch for work. What do u guys think?
2007-06-01 10:05:19 · 46 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't lie to her about his income because she demanded a W-2 form of the last few years.. she knows he only makes 25% of what I make
2007-06-01 10:08:59 · update #1
if you really love him you wouldnt care where he worked at.........
2007-06-01 10:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by bust15nutz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your mother is domineering and rude.
She should never ask for proof of his income.
Money is not the most important thing in the world.How would SHE feel if you rejected her love and demanded to know why she didn't buy you more things/send you to a better school when you were younger?
Besides, he might earn that now, but being a chef, and a good one is a wonderful gift for life,and if he were to branch out/open his own restaurant/write cookbooks,make a range of signature ready-to-eat meals be could become a billionaire.Also,your partner sounds very caring and good to you,even though he probably works long hours.And passionate to boot.Have faith in him and support him as he supports you. He will move up in the world and so will you.I can't know what he is really like,only you know that, but I wouldn't give up a chance of happiness with someone because right now his income was less than mine.Things change, but people don't, so I would put your foot down with your mother and tell her to stop being such a Capitalistic dominatrix and leave you and him alone! Honestly!
2007-06-01 10:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by luby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and you feel he is a good person inside, the fact that he's a chef shouldn't matter at all. There is much more to a person than their salary and their career. A person can be the highest paid famous doctor, but be a HORRIBLE person. And besides, a chef is a great career! It's not like he's a bagger at Ralphs. Tell your mom to not be so shallow.
2007-06-01 10:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Out of work all people are equal it was something I learnt many years ago when I was 16. You may be the best and most important thing at work but the minute you leave the work place you become just an ordinary person again thats the bottom line. You arent what you do at work
2007-06-01 10:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by Magster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There comes a point in your life when you have to decide who's going to live your life. You or your mother. With all due respect. It's your boyfriend, it's your choice and it's your life to live in the way that you so choose. (Illustration) Remember when we were younger and we didn't eat a certain food because everybody said it wasn't good for us? For instance, I personally don't like liver. But some people do. So the point I'm making here is.........Just because Mom doesn't like him now, doesn't mean she won't grow to like him later. Mom needs to accept the fact that her taste in men and your taste in men won't always be the same. Just like trying a new food. Sometimes once you get a little taste of what it's really like, you find out it really wasn't so bad after all. Hang in there!!!
2007-06-01 10:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by clabou81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chefs are the new celebrities. She should rethink the prestige part. There are all sorts of opportunities for chefs.
But much more important that that, she should be glad that you have someone in your life who is able to do something to pamper you and support himself. I would love it!
*****Megan N is right. TrojanGirl is a scam along with her/his alter ego Bust5nuts.
2007-06-01 10:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by Spice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore her. You didn't HAVE to give her the W-2 form, she could demand it all she wants, you just should have politely not given it to her. Just keep your mom out of your business for a while, its your relationship, not hers. Tell your mom that this hurts your feelings and that she should be happy to see YOU happy and thats all that should matter. As long as your boyfriend is doing his part financially it shouldnt matter how much he makes. Your mom should actually be proud of the fact that you don't need a man to get by!
2007-06-02 08:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Aerial 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hotel Chefs make great money! They also can cook very well. Your mom needs to taste his cooking. Have him make your mother some Chili Chicken Noodle soup.
2007-06-01 10:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by mikeydonatelli 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's important to maintain a good relationship with your mother, but, if you are an adult, then don't worry too much about what she thinks of him. If he is a good guy, and only you know, then, eventually your mom will come to like him. If he makes you happy, then stick it out. If your mom sees that your are committed to this man and he makes you happy, what CAN she say??? She will come around in time.
2007-06-01 10:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by BLM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know of a couple almost exactly like that who were in your situation about 15 years ago.
They are still happily married with 4 kids.
You pick your mate...not your Mom.
I will say that his earning potential is not likely to be as high as yours but if that doesn't bother you 2 then who gives a damn what anyone else thinks.
"For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh"
2007-06-01 10:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by Daddy'o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom obviously doesn't know how much money a top chef can make. It's a shame she feels the need to define him by his chosen career.
2007-06-01 10:08:58 · answer #11 · answered by kj 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋