Girl I am head over heels for just broke up w/ long term bf. I ended up being the rebound guy, though we have somewhat of a history together. She was very affectionate and dropped a lot of I love you and how she wished we could be together (don't live near each other). Since we parted she has kept in contact but has said she needs to clear her head of the old relationship. Will continuing to flirt with her and being affectionate just push her away? I want to be respectful of what she is going through, but it is hard to act like nothing happened.
2007-06-01 10:03:27 · 9 answers · asked by george1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would back off for now, you will wind up getting hurt if you don't. She id coming off of a bad breakup and probably just wants to be alone, try to be there for her as a friend at first and give it time to see if it develops into something else. In the mean time date other people and move on with your life.
2007-06-01 10:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if she has been going through that 4 a while ...she is already ready for a new relationship. if a woman is a moral person and waits for it to end ,and that timing is a long time ... She will not be on the rebound. Whats done is done and she is ready for a new life. It depends on her strength as a person . Was the relationship a bad 1 all along ? If it was she will be more than ready to find a new future... She may not be ready for another marriage but she will want a new guy ....one NOT like her ex husband...... Being w/ her & supporting her could be very good b/c she has been rejected for so long. If you have future plans w/ her then the worst thing you could do is reject her.....
2007-06-01 17:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever sell yourself short by being the rebound. You deserve to have someone that is going to give themselves to you 100% no questions. She needs to clear her head and that's a good thing. She is looking to take care of herself and at the same time keep you from hurting. Don't play head games with her and just leave her be. Start looking elsewhere cause you never know what you are going to miss. Who knows...she might just come back looking for you down the road. Good Luck! :o)
2007-06-01 17:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by !~!~Edward~!~! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being respectful is for losers. You are going to wait around and some other guy is going to swoop in on her and you will be on the outside looking in again. Hit it now or move on to some other girl.
sometimes rebound guy stays around for a long time...
2007-06-01 17:08:39 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to back off - rebounds are never pretty and if it gets messy you will never have a shot. See other people and just be on the edge of her life as a friend.
2007-06-01 17:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by slipstreamer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i don't think the long-distancee relationship will work. But instead of flirting with her, be there for her. Don't push yourself up on her. Give her space. Instead of trying to be her man, be her friend. Listen to her heart. Then, you can be her boyfriend, once she ready. Don't rush because she can always run back to the old lover.
2007-06-01 17:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Finally Got It 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why act like nothing ever happened ???
It's part of your history together.... right ??
Give her some time.... hang in there... be
a true friend...... listen with 'both' ears when
she needs to just talk..... be understanding
and patient................. maybe try this, what
would you want her to do if the shoe was on
the other foot ????
Good Luck !!
2007-06-01 17:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could go either way...but probably best to back off and let her sort through things.
2007-06-01 17:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow still be her friend but she will tell u when she is ready for more
2007-06-01 17:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by DSweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋