Seriously, how important is sex in a loving relationship?

Question

How often do you think two people should have it? Should it really get in the way and cause fights? What happens if one person has a completely different sexual appetite than the other but they are totally in love with each other for who they are as a person?

I GUESS I SHOULD HAVE ADDED THAT I AM A MATURE 25 YEAR OLD FEMALE AND I HAVE A 28 YEAR OLD BOYFRIEND. THIS ISN'T A HIGH SCHOOL TYPE OF QUESTION, I KEEP FORGETTING THAT THERE ARE DUMB, IMMATURE PEOPLE OUT THERE!!

Answer 1

I would wonder if love can be sustained between people with completely different sexual appetites, in my experience this can lead to one partner being happy in the relationship while the other gradually loses focus and their love begins to fade as a desire for a partner more understanding of their needs grows within them quietly everyday.

I think sex in a healthy relationship is fairly important especially if either partner desires it.

If two people in a relationship have different views and needs sexually than it's up to both partners to put their best foot forward and find a compromise that can allow each of them to find satisfaction.

Keep in mind as well that some people, especially men draw a great deal of their self worth from sexual intercourse as much as a woman may from being held and supported by her partner but still there's no set number of times sex should be had ultimately that's something two people have to decide for themselves it should be often enough that neither partner feels neglected.

Answer 2

Question #1:
There is no set amount that 2 people should have sex in a relationship as long as both parties are happy then it don't matter on how often or not often that it happens.
Question #2:
Sex should not get in the way of a relationship and cause fights, but usually does happen when 1 party is not feeling sexually satisfied.
Question #3:
It is not rare to have 2 people in a relationship with different sexual appetites, but there has to be a common ground. If one person wants it everyday and the other person is good with only 1-2 times a week, then they have to be willing to meet in the middle and understand each others feelings and needs. Therefore they should have it about 4 times a week.

Answer 3

Very important!! The natural urge of lovemaking or pure energy release sex is 1/3rd of any relationship. If it's not then that's one woman I will have to pass on. When a couple are "in touch" with each other and their sexual needs it's a beautiful adventure for both that can be shared without worry or embarrassment for both. Fights?? Sometimes after the dust clears a good grudge f**k can be wonderful. Sex and honesty and compassion can make or brake couples. Money is not an issue when responsibilities are in order and the man or both are wise. I have to have a passionate woman, with a high sex drive who knows what she wants. And not afraid to tell me her needs. The appetite's will "have" to be very close.....or someone "will" get hurt in the long run!

Answer 4

I don't think it's that important. How often is really determined by the couples preference. I have heard of couples having very different sexual appetites. There are ways to both get turned on and up your libido etc (try chocolate or watching romantic movies). I don't think it's something to fight about. There are many more serious issues in a relationship.

Answer 5

sex is a huge part of a healthy relationship. most people do not realize how big it is. sex is just like anything else in a marriage, you have to meet in the middle. say one person wants sex all the time and the other next to never. well one person has to make a conscious effort to have more sex and the other has to learn to have less. it's a give and take. i have seen so many relationships go bad because later on the sex is boring or they just do not want to cooperate with the other person next thing you know, you are sleeping in separate bedrooms and staying together only for the kids.

Answer 6

It is very important actually. If it's causing fights then it's time to sit down and very lovingly and calmly discuss it. If the relationship is normally a loving one then no matter how delicate the topic it can be discussed and solved. Compromise is key in this situation. Both parties have to be willing to understand where the other is coming from and respect that. Good luck, honey.

Answer 7

Sex in a loving relationship is very important to you both,its more a case of making love than pure sex,being close to each other as humanly possible is something that brings us close to each other in a mental state as well,enjoy each other as God intended.
As regards the different sexual appetites...work it out,there are other ways to satisfy your partner without committing to full blown sexual intercourse.

Answer 8

I think that being in love doesn't mean sex is necessary, but it could include it.
They should have it when they both agree to it.
It shouldn't cause fights if the two are in love and respect each other.
Then they will have to deal with it and care for each other, because love is not only a physically intimate relationship.

Answer 9

Well if one person wants it and the other doesnt want it well then that person is going to go out and about to look for another person who wants it just as much and then that is called cheating. Then after that you loose trust and then come the fights. Oh yeah and lets not forget all the fighting. Look at it this way, if your partner wants it but you dont just think that you are so irrisistible to him/her and they cant keep their hands off of you. Its just natural

Answer 10

Intimacy is important in a relationship but I don't believe that is the only thing that holds it together. Loving is give and take, honesty, respect, friendship, total commitment. As far as how often, depends on the couple.