I truthfully don't know why. After they found out I got a boyfriend, half of them started to ignore me. One of them looked shocked when someone told him and asked me about it afterward. Another guy asked me out right after it and wants to "talk" to him and has been asking for him, but won't talk to him while I am around. Many others just won't talk to me. It's not because I am a whore, I don't sleep or makeout with anyone I am not going out with. I heard a few of them liked me, but I didn't believe it. Do you think this is why they are ignoring me? If it is, what should I do? I hang out with only guys and life is pretty pathetic without them around, alot of them were like my brothers. (About 6 of them are "angry" with me.)
2007-06-01 09:26:07 · 25 answers · asked by Pilot 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason I don't hang out with girls besides my closest friends are because they are way too catty. Many of you are saying I lead them on, but I didn't. They had an idea I liked him and were fine with it.
2007-06-01 09:32:59 · update #1
Nothing a guys likes to hear more about the girl that he likes "thinks of him as a brother". When a guy hears that he is thought of as a brother most will take it as an insult. Guys will take it even harder when they are all trying to win your heart(in a half-assed way in my opinion) by being your friend, and then you find a person outside of that circle. I bet they wouldn't have minded if another guy int he circle was chosen. I think that because they are probably buddies and an individuals success, in this case, equals the groups success. By dating outside of you circle you haven't just rejected them as individuals, you rejected the group.
Don't know these guys, don't know you, but that is my guess.
2007-06-01 09:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy "freinds" aren't really your freinds. Some of them might be, but take it from a guy's perspective. The possibility of me befreinding any woman I wasn't attracted to is slim, you dont hang around with people who bring your social status down, typically you hang out with people who are as attractive as you are. If I do befreind an attractive female, I would jump at the opportunity to sleep with that individual given the chance. All these guys that you hang around with have some sort of attraction to you. By you dating someone else, especially if its someone outside the "freindship circle" you are causing a feeling of betrayal. They've been your freinds for so long, now they hardly ever get to see you. They have had to listen to you whine and complain and talk about so and so and like oh my god then she said this and he did that, and they don't even get make out with you.... raw deal. It doesn't matter anyway, your new boyfriend may develope an insecurity about you hanging out with your guy freinds and not spending all your time with him, you'll either leave your bf, or ditch the freinds temporarily. Good luck kid.
2007-06-01 09:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by etotri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are angry for you, I would ask them why. If they can't give you a reason then it's probably jealousy, and you should be thankful you found out now and can find friends who are happy and supportive of you when you find someone to date. But, they may feel like you have blown them off, or that the guy you are dating is a jerk. If they are real friends, listen to what they have to say, because it is a valuable perspective which you may not have considered.
2007-06-01 09:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only honest thing you said here was that you dont sleep around.
You cant tell me you didnt realize you were teasing them, or that you didnt know they liked you.
In fact, as a man of some serious games with my friends that are girls (before I got married) there is no gray lines in all htose things- and if you thought there was thats your own fault.
You should have handed them the reality check immediately- that is, we can make out or whatever, but this doesnt go any further than flirty fun. I'm not looking for a boyfirend, you arent the one- because if you were we'd be already togeather. Got it? now lets make out.
Thats the way it was for me, thats the way the friends that were girls approached it, and I dont think you "didnt realize" or "didnt know"
2007-06-01 09:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by The Bagman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These guys are not your friends they just want to be with you so now they're jealous. Not that men and women can't be friends but the situation has to be right, like your brothers wife. Something that's off limits. Or hanging out in a big group in high school. Otherwise, there's not one straight guy who doesn't want the girls he hangs out with.
2007-06-01 09:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u are their friend (and a girl) theyre very protective of u. they probably htink of u like a lil sis 2. so dont get offended - juss talk 2 them and ask them why they are mad @ u.
besidez they probably arent really mad AT u, just mad at the fact that u got a bf. thats how guys friends are, u kno them a looong time adn then u get a bf, they start getting protective.
hey, be thankful u got guys lookin out 4 u, cuz if ur bf ever does anything bad 2 u, u kno theyre always gonna have back ur back and beat the crap outta him
2007-06-01 09:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by ilovesoccer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably thought you liked them too. The same thing would have happened if you would have choosen one of them, they all would have been mad at the one guy and you.
They also might be insulted that you never said you liked this other guy and you were supposed to be good friends with them. Yes we don't want to hear how you're in love with them but you can say you like someone...it's just something that friends do.
2007-06-01 09:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These guys hang out with you because they want more They are ignoring you because you have a boyfriend, Dump him and they probably will come back. Why do you only hang around guys?
2007-06-01 09:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Give her the most EGREGIOUS disgustingly, pink flowers ever (that'll show her!) 2. Get over your mind block that the free will of others is unacceptable (she'll be hot!) 3. Tell her that you don't know where you'd be without her! 4. Tell her that her hair is something that only an average individual of society could love! 5. Use reverse phsycology by giving her her favorite candy, even though you hate her (she'll be SO confused)
2016-05-18 22:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl yeah i think that is the reason maybe they had interest in u. they probably had the hope that one day u would like them back. that is a hard problem just try to talk to them n if they ignore u act hurt and star ignoring them too. i kno it sounz dumb but do what ur heart tells ya
2007-06-01 09:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by chapina_girl666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋