wat type of grades do you expect from your child?

Question

do you get mad if they bring home a F? D? C? or even B? wat do you give as punishment? if you child gets a A then what do you reward them with?

Answer 1

The only reason I would get mad if my child were getting D's and F's was if they were not trying. Because I do homework and study with my children, I am well aware of what they are capable of, and if that's all they are capable of...you can't be mad....but I would be mad because in no way have my children demonstrated that is what they are only capable of.
There are some things my children are just NOT good at...my daughter is terrible in Art, so of course she needs to try her best...and my son is terrible with literature, interpreting books, etc.....but they should be able to get at least a C with the proper help right?

I think it all comes down to effective parenting...if you are aware of what your children can do and help them achieve success, you won't have to worry about that ever happening...if you do see them come home and are shocked...you don't have any right to be mad because obvisously you weren't there to help, and you weren't involved enough or it would've never gotten that bad.
And part of every parent is accepting the good and the bad.

So no, it would be very hard to get mad no matter what the grade if they were trying and you were helping

Good Luck with your child!

Answer 2

When your child brings home a F or a D, you first ask them what happened and why they received that grade. Your reaction should depend on how they answer that question. If they answer it with an "I don't know", then you have all the right to get mad because how can they not know why they received a bad grade. C or B is acceptable depending on how difficult the class is for them. Your child can't always get A's in everything because most of the times it depends on the grading scale of the teacher. Some teachers grade on a curve and some teachers just don't care about the student unless they're a teacher's pet. As punishment you make your child study 2 or more hours on the subject they received a bad grade in. If your child gets an A then encourage them to keep up the good work, along with a hug and treat them to something they like depending on your financial situation.

Answer 3

My daughter has learning disabilities and has been homeschooled for the past three years, but as she is planning to return to school this fall, this has been the topic of many recent conversations.

What I can say is that I have learned that for many kids, testing is simply not a fair or accurate way to gauge what they know. I also know that for some kids (and I was one) I could pour myself into something and the effort did not always translate into an improved grade. We are all good at somethings and not so good at others. For me, higher math was a nightmare. I spent hours on the homework and studying and worked with a tutor twice a week and could never get my grade above a C. The equations just never made sense to me and I couldn't keep the steps straight.

So, taking all of that into consideration, we have basically developed the belief that her effort will carry as much weight as the letter/number grade. An "C" in a class she has struggled with and put huge amoounts of effort into will get just as much applause and admiration as the "A" in a course she loves and sails through. Punishments come when there is no effort...not completing assignments or doing homework, not studying, lying about grades. Rewards are always verbal. Both my kids get praise when the report cards come home and we plan a special meal to celebrate all the effort and learning that has taken place.

Answer 4

My daughter has ADHD and developmental delays so she is always behind. When she brought home her report card in March, she thought I was going to be mad until I showed her how she had made at least a half grade improvement in all her classes. They were still C's and D's but they were C+'s and D+'s so I was very proud of her and once she saw that yeah she had taken some steps forward, even though they were baby steps, her self esteem was better and she vowed to try and bring her grades up a whole step. I know she'll never bring home A's and B's but I've got to be proud of her for trying and not giving up. And yes she gets rewarded for her achievements however small.

Answer 5

The only reason I would get mad if my child were getting D's and F's was if they were not trying. Because I do homework and study with my children, I am well aware of what they are capable of, and if that's all they are capable of...you can't be mad....but I would be mad because in no way have my children demonstrated that is what they are only capable of.
There are some things my children are just NOT good at...my daughter is terrible in Art, so of course she needs to try her best...and my son is terrible with literature, interpreting books, etc.....but they should be able to get at least a C with the proper help right?

I think it all comes down to effective parenting...if you are aware of what your children can do and help them achieve success, you won't have to worry about that ever happening...if you do see them come home and are shocked...you don't have any right to be mad because obvisously you weren't there to help, and you weren't involved enough or it would've never gotten that bad.
And part of every parent is accepting the good and the bad.

So no, it would be very hard to get mad no matter what the grade if they were trying and you were helping.

Answer 6

F's & D's are not acceptable.....you didn't learn anything in those cases. "C" means it's not your topic or sometimes a teacher conflict but you have the concept! A's & B's are great!

Consequence depends on the age of the child. If they will flunk a grade, then there you have it....if young and not a flunkable offense...grounded until they read on it, write a report and read it to me. If math they do a sheet I make up and must score 80%!

Success is it's own reward. A special dinner they want is good though! Dessert too! They say what it will be!

Answer 7

I think one needs to reward the process and not the product.

I reward my children (10 and 5) each night with some sort of treat if I see them doing their schoolwork to the best of their ability. In fairness, can anyone expect anything more from someone?

Let's say that Running was a class, and to get a "A", I had to run a mile in under 5 minutes. Well, at 41, my best running days are behind me, so it doesn't matter how much of a reward you put in front of me. I'm not going to be able to get it.

On the other hand, if in the same class you said, "You have to beat your best time", i might be able to do that.

Answer 8

I expect the best they can do. Generally that's A's & B's for my daughter. However, there is one subject she struggles with, so as long as I know she's trying her best, there is no punishment for a bad grade.

In our home, the idea is that her quality of life is relevant to her behavior, and her work ethic in school. So if she's slacking in school, I'd remove priveleges - TV time, afterschool play time, something like that. And instead that time would be spent studying, and bringing the grades back to where they should be. When the behavior is improved, the privelege is returned.

Answer 9

I don't *expect* anything from my girls. I know what they are capable of and I know that they try hard. 2 of my girls bring home mostly Ds and Fs, and yes I'm disappointed but I know that they try their best and this has always been the case with them, so I know it's not a behavioral thing but more of a comprehension with their school work. 1 daughter brings home pretty good grades, As, Bs, Cs. If she all of a sudden started bringing home Ds and Fs, I would be concerned because I know what she is capable of. I encourage them to try hard all the time, but try not to bribe with rewards because 2 of my girls have a hard time in school and it isn't all their fault so it wouldn't be fair to them.

Answer 10

As are encouraged. To encourage As, let your child go to enrichment camp during the summer at the local college. Put them in Honors courses at school if they are capable of handling it. There is nothing wrong with a challenge if they can handle it! Tell them about college and the types of jobs they can/can't get without a college degree. Bs are accepted. With a C, get them a personal tutor to help them with all of their homework if you are not able to help them daily. Make sure you allocate time for them each evening to do their homework. Encourage that, and don't make it a negative thing. If a D or F happened, I would get them counseling because something must have happened that shouldn't have... If your child is involved in sports, clubs, etc. at school, they have to maintain at least a C to participate, so that usually helps get their grades up. Reward them with a lot of verbal praise and a special dinner out for their good grades!