we have dated off and on for 7 years
2007-06-01 09:06:40 · 24 answers · asked by baby_rost 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like others have said, it's comfort. The relationship has reached the point that it's so comfortable you ultimately don't want to give it up. You fear that you will never find someone else that you have that feeling with, so you continuously come back to each other. I think when you have dated someone that long, you fear that you will be lost and lonely without them.
2007-06-01 09:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by Michele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are gluttons for punishment? Some sort of dependency on each other? Better the devil you know (each other) than the devil you don't (new partners)?
Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship or one with a worthwhile future. At some point one of you will likely decide they've had enough, and move on.
This life is too short to ride such an emotional rollercoaster voluntarily.
2007-06-01 16:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you probably care for each other a lot but my guess is that he is screwing around with other women while the two of you are broken up. I know a lot of guys that will break up with a girl so that they can have sex with someone else and think that "technically" they aren't cheating. Even worst they will act a certain way so as to annoy their girlfriend so she will break up with them and then go screw around and come back to her and not do those things that he knows irritate her.
I very much doubt that he doesn't go screw other women while you guys are on a break. Ask him. If I were you I wouldn't stand for that. He is playing you sweetheart, wake up and realize it.
2007-06-01 16:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Z ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because as dysfunctional as it is, it's comfortable. this is what you have been doing for 7 years, so it's easier to go back to even though you know it's not going to work, than to move on. it's hard leaving someone that you have known for that long. no only do you lose a lover, but you also lose your best friend. that and the past and how much you have been threw keeps people together.
2007-06-01 16:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've dated the same guy on and off for 2 years, and I think we're finally off for good. If you're like me, it's because you think you can move past all the problems and start over. I've learned you can't do that if the other person isn't willing to change.
2007-06-01 16:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason that we break up and go back out is because we think maybe this can work out or something in our relationship might change that would make it work. At least that is what happened to me or we are not ready to let that person go.
2007-06-01 16:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by Heather Capps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. thats how love is! maybe ur not mature enough 2 settle down and u want more from ur life, but still u need each other! a fight isnt a gd reason 2 brake up with someone.. its like 1000% sure that ur going back with this person if u really love them!! i think u should talk it over and then get married!! xD {it would stop ya from braking up all da time!!} lol
2007-06-01 16:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the song Break up to make up that's all we doooo First you love me then you hate me that's a game for foolllllls. Sounds like love to me.
2007-06-01 16:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are comfortable with the familiar. Its safe for the both of you. You know what to expect and how it goes. Trying something.new would be scary. Good luck!
2007-06-01 16:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by hcw_07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you guys are used to bein with each other and dont want to start up w/ sum1 new my sis n her bf have ben on&off for 5 years cause of that
2007-06-01 16:10:32 · answer #10 · answered by ♥BitterSweet♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋