He and I have been living together for about 2 months but I'm beginning to see that it's probably not going to work between us. I attempted to move about 3 weeks ago but on the day before the move I allowed myself to be talked out of moving.
2007-06-01 08:52:50 · 27 answers · asked by S*W*F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Candy Licker..We work at the same place...
2007-06-01 08:57:12 · update #1
You need to be honest with yourself and with your boyfriend. If you are adult enough to choose to move in with someone, you would be adult enough to tell him that it's simply not working out the way you wanted it to. It doesn't mean you are a bad person and it doesn't mean he is a bad person. You need to tell him that you want to move out and move on with your life or you will get stuck in this and grow very, very bitter towards him. Be confident in your choices. If it's not working for you, then simply admit that to yourself AND him. You will be happier if you choose to move out and allow yourself to be with another person, and it allows him the chance to move on with his life as well. He deserves that and so do you.
2007-06-01 09:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, there's this small matter about the lease. If you signed for half of the lease, then you need to get him another roommate or pay half the rent until the lease has expired.
I hate to bring that up, because it's obvious that you don't belong there. But in the future, you might consider finding a place about two doors down rather than moving in with the next guy.
Lady Bird Johnson [wife of the President] said, "I wouldn't have a joint checking account with the pope."
2007-06-01 16:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to move , just wait until he isn't there and pack your bags and hit the road. It'd best you find out now , that you wouldn't be happy married to him . If you don't go now , you may wind up pregnant and then that is hard to get out of. Have a trail separation and see how you both do and if you feel your happy , stay gone.
2007-06-01 16:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets see hmm ask yourself who's paying the bills.you or him. my guess is both, so with that in mind .. hmmm you have already tried once to move out, and failled because your a sucker for sweet talk,and he knows it. your best bet is to not advertise the fact that your moving out , save enough money for your next place of residence, wait for him to be at work and then just leave, baggs and all...as old snagglepuss would put it " exit stage left , faster even" you need distance and peace of mind. so a clean break and a fast getaway is what you need....
2007-06-01 16:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Back Attcha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out when he is at work - plan the day off - keep it quiet - have some friends help and MOVE - If you have this feeling already - you need to LEAVE.
Be STRONG - do NOT let him talk you out of it.
Go with your gut feeling - Good Luck.
2007-06-01 15:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by Perfect_Brat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he can talk you out of it, don't talk.
Grab a bag and a few days worth of clothes and go over to a girlfriend, parents house for a few days. It is easier to "move out" if you are already out of the house.
2007-06-01 15:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a spine, pack your things, and move out. Choose not to "allow" yourself to be talked out of it. It's your life...why stick with a situation that isn't working for you? That just seems foolish and a waste of time...this life is too short for that.
2007-06-01 15:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are not happy then you should move on. If you have planned on moving out for sometime then it's probally been bad for sometime. Its hard to leave a relationship but it only gets harder the longer you drag it out so just move out and move on. Your happiness comes first.
2007-06-01 15:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by ASHES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fyou feel it in your gut, and you were talked out of it before.... just go for it. Pack you sh*t and get out when he's at work or something. Make sure it's what you want. Don't stay if you don't think it's right. Stand up for yourself and go. If not you will regret it later.
2007-06-01 15:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same mess for 5 years and he always said something, did something, lied etc. so now i am done, i told him it was over. if you are on the lease i dont really know what to tell you, because you are responsible for paying the rent. i would def. get out, dont let him talk into staying with him.
2007-06-01 15:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Juillet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋