has anyone ever lost a 1st love and thought they would never love again? but then they found someone better?? how long did it take to let go of the 1st true love?? im finding it so hard to let go....
2007-06-01 08:41:43 · 23 answers · asked by Fahion_Gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Live by the motto, "If you love something let it go. If it returns, it is yours forever....if not, it was never yours to begin with". Some people aren't worth loving. Try your best to let it go, the right one will come along....
2007-06-01 08:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by Amy R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people have gone through this. I have. People will "let go" at different times, and some may never let go. I still think of my 1st love from time to time, but I am happily married to the love of my life and my best friend. I shared some great times with the 1st love, and there was not a bad break up. I think that made it hard to let go. I was heart broken, but the truth was we weren't meant to be together. Our lives were taking different paths. Your 1st love will always be a part of you. They made a difference in your life. That chapter is closed though, and you've started a new chapter. Just take it ONE STEP and ONE DAY AT A TIME. You'll make it!
2007-06-01 23:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by pottersclay70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my sister did, her first love kind of slapped her in the face with marrying another woman in less then a year of their breakup (and my sister was engaged to this guy). She cried over this guy for over 6 months before moving on, the second guy that she cared for she didn't care too much for, but the 3rd guy (the one she's with now), it's like she's a different person, she's crazy about him and doesn't really think of her first love too often.
Me on the other hand, I still care for my first love, it's been almost 2 years and I have had may other boyfriends 2 of which I really cared for, the guy I'm with now is great, I do love him a lot but not as much as my first. I know that you are looking for some positive answers but the truth is it isn't the same for everyone, just because someone finds another, better love right off the bat doesn't mean everyone else does, it takes time and it is something I am STILL dealing with. I wish that I could give you something encouraging but I can't, I'm still working through this myself.
2007-06-01 15:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by Z ben 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My first love was in high school and i loved him so very much!!!! SO I THOUGHT... That was until I started dating my husband.. we were friends all thru high school but never dated until a year after we graduated... It took a while to get over my first (a month or so) but I really knew everything would be OK once my husband and I got together.. We was everything my 1st wasn't plus more... It also really helped that we were such good friends for so long before dating..
Good luck to you... It's tough but EVERYTHING happens for a reason.. IF i had still been with my 1st I wouldn't have my two WONDERFUL children i have now...
2007-06-01 15:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have had that happen. I thought I was going to have to kill myself after one love ended. She was almost perfect. It took fifteen years but I found another, and she is better in many ways. There are still sometimes that I think about the first, but I am very happy with the second.
2007-06-01 15:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband got over his cheating whore of an ex-wife but it did take some time then he found me and he tells me all the time he never thought he could be so happy with someone he always talked about how he thought he was happy until he met me and found out what true happiness was. so it will happen you just ha to find the right person. you will find the right person it may take longer that you would like but it will happen
2007-06-01 15:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I lost my 1st love, only to find them 14 years later, we are married now, just over 2 months, and can't be happier
2007-06-01 15:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by cones2210 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over somone is to fall for someone else. Remove all of the crap that reminds you of them from your everyday life. Take some time to yourself to hang out with your friends and family and then start dating and eventually the pain will go away. Everyone's different, but out of sight, out of mind helps. You will always have a soft spot for them, but eventually the attraction goes away, given that you don't get back together.
2007-06-01 16:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by DJM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A relationship ended, and about a year later, I met my husband. I now see that the first relationship was hamburger and the man I married is steak. I'm so glad I didn't cling to the first relationship. Moving on meant moving up.
2007-06-01 15:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, i have. i thought i would never love again but now it's like i know how to love more. you just got to let go and work on your self. don't go looking for love, let it come to you. it may take a while but that's the best kind of love.
2007-06-01 15:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by pink_keg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋