family and friends are invited to my baby shower and i'm really excited about it. the only thing is that, my sister-in law ( who is invited) has a two year old child who is incredibly misbehaved and can't even make it through a family dinner without causing a lot of drama ( i, e. throwing things, screaming, etc.)
my problem is, i can't not invite my sister-in law but i'm afraid she will take it upon herself to haul along her kid. I don't want my shower to be ruined because he is there and acting out of control. how do i politely tell her that I would prefer him not attend this special event?
2007-06-01 08:13:14 · 12 answers · asked by eternity_22@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Politely ask your sister-in law to find a babysitter during the shower for her child. Don't dis-invite her, because that would be incredibly hurtful, especially since all other family members are going. Joke with her, and make her feel at ease, saying that her son is just a high-spirited child, and that he might get into some mischief, so he would be better left at home. Unless your sister-in law is easily offended and crabby, there is nothing wrong with asking her to find a babysitter for her son, as long as you aren't rude and purposely try to make her feel bad.
2007-06-01 08:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl she is family and the child is still a baby who could be going through what they call "terrible two's". No fault of the parents. You will soon find this one out with your baby. No matter how diligently you go about doing or saying it, It is going to come back at you. You do not have to sweat anything except the weather, let your sister in law handle her child at your special event. Remember you are now going to be a parent how would you feel if your child goes through the "terrible two's"? and you are ask to keep your child away from an event? Congratulations!
2007-06-01 08:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to preface this by advising you to just grin and bear it - You will be walking in SIL's shoes in 2 years. Toddlers are just that way.
So much for the sermon.
You can however, include in your invitations, a note specifying that this will be an "adults only" party -
Additionally, in SIL's invitation, you might get by with writing a hand-written note saying that while Percy is an adorable child, it might be best if he stayed with Daddy this evening - as only grownup food and activities are planned for the evening and he would most certainly not enjoy himself.
If SIL brings Percy anyway, well, the only thing you can do is to make it clear that she will be responsible for his behavior.
But beware - Be prepared to eat crow in 2 years. I promise.
2007-06-01 08:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could tell her to keep her child under control or make a special pen for kids so that they're in the party but not IN the party. telling her to just leave her child is gonna be kind of hard unless you tell everyone to leave their children
2007-06-01 08:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by CubanCutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to do it politely you would have to ask everyone not to bring children to the shower.
2007-06-01 08:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
say it's adults only i think that'll lessen up the burden about having ur shower ruined congrats
2007-06-01 09:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by Pinny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it Adults only
2007-06-01 08:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just straight out tell her. I don't want children at my shower.
2007-06-01 08:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think theirs anyway to tell someone that, but tell her that, please get a baby sitter for her kid so the party is better or some thing along those lines
2007-06-01 08:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by anicd5225 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Specify no children on your invitations.
2007-06-01 08:17:22 · answer #10 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋