I'm an adult, & he asked me to move in with him, only so he can use someone to pay all his bills while he's hardly ever here. Also, I'm beginning to see patterns of his abuse again. When I was a toddler, he used to beat me with metal clothes hangers, lock me up in a hot laundry room in the summer time with the clothes dryer running, & he used to shake me a lot. That might be why I'm partially brain damaged.
I thought that over the years he would've changed. I've done nothing disrespectful to him & he yells at me & he's starting to beat on me again. He steals from me & invades my privacy, as well.
I talk to my counselor, & she sees nothing that he's doing wrong, & she blames me for this problem & expects me to ALLOW him to continuously dog over me, just because it's HIS house. I want to move out, but I don't have the money & nowhere else to go. By people keep blaming me for being innocent, should I get a little naughty & stand up for myself, JUST for an excuse to get him to
2007-06-01 08:08:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
throw me out? I'm sick of his crap, & he doesn't want to let me seek my own place because he's afraid to be alone with paying his bills. It's HIS house, right? Yeah. I'm gonna show him HIS house. His house, HIS BILLS! He will be on his own, & I don't care if I live in a shelter until I get my own place because at least I'll have my money to take care of me. He doesn't want me to leave under NO circumstances. I feel trapped here.
So should I just give him a good reason to throw me out, since I'm being looked at as wrong, when I've done nothing? More money in my pocket if I can lay my hands on my own low-income apartment.
I know this sounds silly, but I gotta get out of this situation. I'm tired of him using me out of my disability checks, treating me like a slave, & beating on me.
2007-06-01 08:12:43 · update #1
& him doing that to me & being considered right for it, just because it's HIS house. I'm not gonna pay him anything this month, just so he can throw me out, & let's see who he can leech off of & use to help pay his bills.
2007-06-01 08:13:56 · update #2
I hope you have bank account, cause it sounds like he will take the cash away from you. Yes, go to a shelter, they will help you get into a place that you can afford.
No, don't give him a reason to harm you...that's not smart. You should start thinking about what you have to do to move out of HIS house, like a second job. Maybe you should get some type of proof (video) of his abuse. Or call the police if and when he hits you. Be smart and stay safe.
2007-06-01 08:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by BossLady 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I answered once and it disappeared before I could hit submit, so if you get more than one answer from me just disregard it.
Get out NOW ! I know I advised you before that a shelter could be dangerous, but you are in danger now, so leave. I hope your money is in a bank. If not put it somewhere (I think there are still lockers in bus and train stations) safe. Don't leave anything at your brother's house that you will have to go back after. Go to the post office and have them hold your mail. Don't let it continue to go to your brother's house. Do they have rooming houses in your area? That would be a good place to go - usually you can pay by the week and there is no deposit or lease. You need to get rest and be ready for school on Monday. DO NOT tell your brother you are leaving, he may hurt you. Just leave when he is out of the house.
Your counselor sucks. Blaming the victim - is that a new past time for her or her usual way of treating people?
Let us know what happens so that we know you are safe.
2007-06-01 09:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with BossLady. Don't give him a reason to harm you. You gotta be smarter than that. You need a plan of action. Look for a roommate or something. If you are paying the bills, you can afford to pay the bills someplace else. The time and energy that you spend complaining about the situation, take that energy and put it towards getting out of there. Get on the net and look for a roommate. Stop being on this site for a minute and get somewhere that can offer you some REAL help....Do that for YOU!!!!!
2007-06-01 08:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Busy Bee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you pay his bills why can't you get your own place. Sounds like this might get dangerous for you. I would try to move away from him if possible.
2007-06-01 08:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by p00756 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋