My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now and I work with his step-mother.
His older brother's wife has been expecting and had her baby today, a little girl. His brother called his dad, his dad called his step-mom, his step-mom told me and I was very excited for them because they really wanted a girl as they already have a little boy. After a while, I sent a text to my boyfriend congratulating him for getting a niece and he sent one back saying "that's f'ed up". I said "what is?" and he said "that you found out before I did". How was I supposed to know he hadn't found out yet? Now, he's upset and I don't know what to do. Can you help?
2007-06-01 07:53:49 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I saw a couple of answers asking how old my boyfriend is: he's 23, I'm 21.
2007-06-01 08:03:26 · update #1
He needs to re-direct his anger; you don't deserve to have that thrown at you. It belongs in the lap of the person who told you before telling him first.
2007-06-01 07:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by QueenLori 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good news is hard to keep a secret. Alot of times whoever is close by will hear the news too. And you just happened to be working with the step-mom. The fact that he is more interested in his "hurt feelings" than being a new nephew tells me he is self-centered. He should be happy for his brother and sister-in-law and their new-born baby. Just try to move on in conversation when you are with him and don't bring the subject up. Let him figure out what is most important for himself.
2007-06-01 08:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's kind of being a drama queen. Just tell him that and hopefully it will shame him back into reality . Isn't having a healthy baby the most important thing anyway, there is alot that can go wrong and that fact should overshadow who got to find out first .
2016-05-18 21:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres not much you can do. You didnt do anything wrong. But i can only think of two reasons why he got mad. One he is imature and needs to grow up. Or two he thinks that you are getting very attached to his family since you found out before he did, and he doesnt like that. Which is a very bad sign for you, and maybe you should start questioning him. Because maybe he doesnt want your relationship to be very serious at this point.
2007-06-01 08:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get over it. It's lame for him to get upset. Ask him where does it say he had to know before you did? Aren't you a part of his family after this long? And besides if he wants to be upset at someone, tell him he needs to talk to his step-mom about it. One other thing, he should be celebrating the birth not whining about who heard about it first. Sounds like he's the baby!!!!!
2007-06-01 08:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very immature and unreasonable and if this causes a problem between you and him then I think something else is going on and he is looking for an excuse to start trouble. Dont let him bully you into thinking anything is f'kd up because it isnt. If he wants to throw a tantrum over something so trivial then let him do it alone.
2007-06-01 08:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to grow up, it is not your problem. He's just acting like a big baby...How old is he? The fact of the matter is, he is an uncle and should be happy about it period. It shouldn't matter the sequence to which he found out. Tell him to grow up.
2007-06-01 08:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Steven R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U shud just go to him and tell him " How does it matter?I hv accepted u and ur family together. Ur family is also like mine. And I thought u always considered me a part of ur family. But after seeing ur behaviour, i hv to think again." Im sure ull b thinking on the same lines at the moment. Just b straight forward and tell him
2007-06-01 08:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by sash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a grip. There are more things in life to worry about then who found out what first. Some folks are just a little immature...
2007-06-01 07:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by Emperor Insania Says Bye! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well how stupid of him, strewth, you are a couple, what the heck difference does it make who heard first. Even if you weren't a couple, the nurses and doctors found out before him too didn't they? What a childish carry on, maybe it's time you moved on.
2007-06-01 08:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by Honey W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get over himself or grow up. Be thankful and joyful to the new addition to his family. And you did nothing wrong except spread the joy, Congratulations!
2007-06-01 08:22:28 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋