my daughters middle daughter has been staying w/my cousin and his wife for approx. 2-3 months on what was agreed to be a temporary situation due to financial/physical reasons & both my cuz & wife are obsessed over this child. Child had hair to her butt & they (cuz &wife) cut her hair w/out consulting my daughter. They feel since they pay for her daycare, etc. they have the right and my daughter should not have had a problem with it, but she did & they got into a huge dispute & my daughter won't let her daughter go back to their house. What do you think is right.
2007-06-01 07:14:38 · 9 answers · asked by sissytwo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your daughter should have been asked ...after all it is HER daughter. Your cuz and wife should not have assumed because they were caring for her that they have the right to make decisions like that.
2007-06-01 07:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally I think they do, especially if its a child who can't do their own hair. If the child can't take care of her hair herself whoever she is staying with is doing it, and if they feel the need to cut it to make things easier then they should. It would have been nice to call and ask but when you get down to it the mother basically gave up her child for a few months, and that includes how shes taken care of, which in turn includes handling her hair. I think thats the smallest thing to be getting upset about, hair will grow back. The mom should be more concerned about other things, on making it so she can take care of her daughter, or on how her daughter's grades and such are.
It's not like they took the girl out for a day and got her hair cut and took her home, that would be something to be upset about. But the child is living with them and htey are basically acting as surrogate parents and make those decisions.
2007-06-01 14:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did the child want her hair cut? I think it should have been up to her to decide. If she was forced to cut it, then yes, your daughter should be upset. However, it seems like this is less of a hair issue and more of a "who is raising this child" dispute.
2007-06-01 14:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hair! Yes, I agree the best thing they should have done was called and asked, but if they are taking care of her, and she has been living with them for 2-3 months, then they are helping your daughter out... no need to get all bent out of shape over something thats going to grow back.
2007-06-01 14:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by emtb9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she agreed to let her stay for that long them she should have known they'd be making some major decisions for her so why is her hair such a big deal when they are the ones paying for everything for her daughter and taking care of her in place of her mother... Be happy someone loves her and is taking care of her for whatever reason her mom can't..
2007-06-01 14:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they should have consulted with her parents first but at the same time if they were being fully responsible for that child for that length of time then that makes it more acceptable.
2007-06-01 15:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 ways to think about it. It is HER hair and it is what she does with it or wants to do with it, but she is living under their roof and is lving with them, but I think that she is younger than them and is living with them, they should have the say without asking you. Would you like a call every other hour saying, "What do you want her to eat for lunch? Which colort dress pink or blue? Do you want her hair in a ponytail or not?" So I think that yes, they do have the right.
2007-06-01 14:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Hiya 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
being the fact they did not bring her into this world they should not have cut her hair, they offered to help not become the childs parents. I would have kicked someones
a** if that was my child. I don't blame your daughter for not wanting her child there.
2007-06-01 14:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OF COURSE THEY HAD THE RIGHT TO CUT IT. THEY ARE ACTING AS GUARDIANS AND THEY ARE THE MOM AND DAD RIGHT NOW. dON'T BE SO PETTY, HAIR GROWS BACK.
2007-06-01 14:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by working hard 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋