done with college even though me and her are the same age.
My mom asked me why her biological child is such a loser when her friend's adopted daughter has such a success? Even though I'm trying my best to finish school at this time, I don't think it will take the loser title from me, so yeah why same age, same gender, she has both of her parents, I have 1 (dad passed away), everything else is about the same, why am I such a loser and she's a genius from Yale?
I'm not even stupid and my IQ is above normal (tested in h.s.), so my mom wants to know why I became the loser I'm today, I don't even know myself..any idea?
2007-06-01 06:29:23 · 14 answers · asked by The Little Things Give You Away 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Unfortunately parents will always compare their children to other people's children. Naturally they will always find someone who is doing better than their children and use that anecdote as a motivator for their children. It happens all the time. The key is for you to break out of that mold of feeling like a loser every time you hear your mother (because your mother won't stop).
Rather than compare yourself to others, compare yourself to your progress towards your goal. Set up realistic goals and timeframe for achieving them. Work towards that instead of some random ideal presented to you by your mother. Remember, even if you beat this Yale graduate, your mother will always find another superperformer. I know because my mother used to do that to me. She stopped once I had kids! She has her attention on her grandkids now. :)
2007-06-01 06:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tats 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it from all angles, maybe she'll dvelop breast cancer in 2 years or MS or get hit by a car or go on to be Mayor, Governor and VP.
There are plenty of people better and worse off than you and her, dont focus on the negative, be happy that you are healthy and can work and think 7 days a week.
What an insult, just forgive the insult and move on.
You can get a job just like that with the correct connections and training, education etc.
Some people can not become doctors but almost everyone can work in a hospital and help and care
some people can not be rocket scientists, but what about the mechanic who tightens the bolts and checks the fluid levels
What about the school teacher who earns $45k and teaches and inspires 100's of students--whoi is more valuable her oir the quarterback whoi makes $500,000??
2007-06-01 06:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
But you're in college trying to better your life. Losers are people who give up on becomming anything.
BTW, your mom only sees the outside of her friend's child's situation. She doesn't know that a lot of overachievers experiment with drugs, have all kinds of psychological issues, etc. Some people have a tremendous drive to achieve because they want to get as far away from home and family as possible. Your mom should value the fact that you have a loving relationship with her and you're trying.
If she can't be more supportive, then find other people who are. Come up with a plan so you can be independent without a lot of debt so you won't ever be dependent on her.
Sorry about your situation.
2007-06-01 06:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by artsy_lovely_lady 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound like a loser at all! So what if someone else graduated from Yale and so what if someone else gets a good paying job. Every single person is different and you can't compare yourself to anyone else. Just go about your life and do what you want to do without focusing on what others are doing.
2007-06-01 06:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom intelligence is inherited! But seriously you are to be commended for trying and it takes more work for some people than others, do not worry or belittle yourself. Just don;'t quit. The people that become successful in life are the ones that perservere, even if they have less brain power.
2007-06-01 06:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE NOT A LOSER, YOUR MOM IS!! Tell her that for me would you. She is a person who should have never had kids. Listen you are going to college for a reason, to accomplish something in life. Who cares who is smarter than who, at least you are doing your best and that is all that matters. Good for you, keep up the good work.
Tell your mom she needs a therapist!!!
2007-06-01 06:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by 3peas in a pod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't think of yourself as a loser. Perhaps your "Mom" (and I use the term "Mom" loosely) should look in the mirror. Unfortunately, we all learn differently and understand different subjects at a different level. I am quite sure that you know more in different areas than your Moms friends daughter. Study hard, you'll see success. Good luck.
2007-06-01 06:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom that maybe the adopted kid had a mother that was caring and nurturing, not an insulting mean person that would call their own daughter a loser.
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2016-11-24 22:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-06-01 06:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mack L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋