Do the guy pays or should the girl pay?
2007-06-01 06:15:24 · 48 answers · asked by latasha_samuel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the guy should pay
2007-06-01 06:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by sweetart993 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Traditionally, the guy would always pay in the past. When the Women's movement started in the 70's this started to blur the roles because some women saw being "treated" as putting themselves in a position of submission. When you get the woman to pay for anything where you are the beneficiary this actually can put you in a position of power and is a very positive Indicator of Interest. The result being that you should immediately reward her with a touch on the hand or the face or some non- invasive sort of physial connection.
The way to approach this question if you are really not sure is to say "How do you want to handle this?" when the bill comes, even though you should always be prepared to pay regardless of her answer.
If you do not know her very well this will act as an early indicator of her character( and yours) by putting the decision making in her hands and allowing you to adjust accordingly.
2007-06-01 06:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by SONG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only one time did a female pay the bill for a meal we had on a date. She said something like "I don't want to owe you anything at the end of the night." We still consumated our relationship, but she felt she wasn't just paying me back for dinner. I have also been on a few dates where we have gone "Dutch".
Every since I have been a full-grown man, I have paid all the bills related to dating, no exceptions. Not sure I'd know how to act if a woman actually offered to pay.
Ricky
2007-06-01 06:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by RICKY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a female and I think that both should pay for their own individual meal. It's nice when a guy offers to pay, and it's nice to accept, but if you like the person and want to see them again it's a great way to solicit a second date by saying, " Well, ok you can pay this time but next time I'm treating you."
That shows me that the guy is clearly interested in seeing me again and if he really does insist on paying next time it also shows he's honest and apparently able to support himself.
2007-06-01 06:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by 636lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally it is the man who pays. But, today nothing is really formal..so either could pay and either could pay for there own...but the "date" part..generally if he asked you out...he should pay...if you asked him out...then he still should pay..but offering to pay for yours is always good...and can always say no I have it...If he's a gentleman. Depending on your age....this also makes a difference. First date should always be paid for by the boy or guy.
2007-06-01 06:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by queenofsiberia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no matter who asks about going on a date, the guy always pays for the date! the girl should never pay even if she is the one that asked.. and if she insists, still DO NOT LET HER PAY!!
2007-06-01 06:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by ffpdfirefighter2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoever made the date, needs to be prepared to pay. It's nice for the other person to offer to chip in, whether the other person agrees to it or not.
If a couple have been dating a while, then both should pay...either alternate now and then, or both pitch in together for the bill.
Guys shouldn't feel obliged to always pay, but it's the new millenium, most women earn their own wage, so it's acceptable for them to pay or offer to chip in as well.
2007-06-01 06:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person who initiated the date should be responsible for paying the bill. If the other feels uncomfortable have them pay the tip or drinks.
2007-06-01 13:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your going out for the first time whoever asked should pay, but if your boyfriend/girlfriend i think its also be the guy unless the couple agrees from the beginning to take turns or each pay half. im old fashioned i wouldn't be going out with a man who didn't pay
2007-06-01 06:45:24 · answer #9 · answered by lsp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy should always plan on paying. If the girl insists go ahead and let her pay but then treat her to something later so she doesn't think you are cheap.
2007-06-01 06:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by karen l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the guy should pay for something like a first date, but after you get to know each other better the guy doesnt need to pay everytime, only on special occasions, other than that the bill should be split
2007-06-01 06:19:32 · answer #11 · answered by aj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋