My son is 19 months old. I realize he may be whining in some cases because he is trying to communicate and is getting frustrated by that. But there are times when it seem's like he is just trying to push our buttons. For instance, he will whine and point at a toy, we give him the toy. He then drops it and whines pointing to another toy. When he has all the toys, he just starts whining for no reason. Is there a way to discourage this behaviour?
2007-06-01 05:54:59 · 9 answers · asked by DC2000 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Sorry..I should have added that the toy is out of his reach :) That is why we hand it to him.
2007-06-01 08:29:08 · update #1
silkcurtin, not all toys are out of his reach, but if one is on a shelf or something he will always want that one. He has a bin of toys in his room well within his reach. All toys are recommended for his age range. Thanks for your attempt anyway.
2007-06-01 10:59:04 · update #2
Distraction sometimes works well. In most cases this is basically just a sign sign of boredom. They want something to do, but they can't really think of anything so they point & whine and nothing satisfies them.
I usually remove them from that area and try to distract them with a game, song, book or something else I know they enjoy.
weeder
2007-06-01 06:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by weeder 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just ignoring the behaviour, and perhaps trying to distract him from the whining with something other than the toys he's pointing too ['ooh, look at that bird -your child's name-' 'how about you come over here and help me paint a picture?' - you know the drill] is probably the best way to discourage him from all the whining. And also realising that the behaviour will almost certainly settle down once he learns to communicate properly - my two year old son isn't speaking fluently yet, but since he picked up the little vocab that he has, I've noticed that his little whimpering routine has died away completely!
2007-06-01 07:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just about everyone has this issue at some point or another with their children. We have 4 little ones and what I have always done is, when they try to whine, I tell them very calmly that I don't understand what they are saying. I keep encouraging them to use their big boy/girl voice. If they drop whatever it is they received and want something else, then I still tell them that I don't understand them, until they speak properly. It is tiring, but in the long run it really works because none of my kids are whiners now- even our 2 year old doesn't do it anymore. He went through that at around 15 months of age, but I did what I just mentioned, and it worked! Sometimes when they are just "pushing your buttons" and keep asking for other items, you may just have to tell him he can only have one thing at a time, and if he keeps asking for something and becomes upset, try to either find a new activity for him so he forgets about the items or give him something else to do in a completely different area of the house.
2007-06-01 06:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by FLmom3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-30 12:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you place toys out of his reach? hes almost 2 and i assume he walks? well, he can have all his toys in a play area and choose which he wants to use can he not?
also i want to ask you if these toys are too complex for his age perhaps and maybe he is overwhelmed and does not know how to use them or maybe he needs mom and dad to play awhile with him as well as allowing playtime alone? ask yourself these questions ok? i do think 2 year olds get bored easily and throw down toys quickly . they get whiny too sometimes no matter what you do. but i think getting a toy each time he wants it is making him to passive and dependant upon you to furnish it for him so give him a few and place them in a play area for him to select and use as he wishes. he may need you to interact with the toys together more . try it and hopefully it will work. also maybe get him a play time partner . another two year old or maybe play group . they learn to interact later on but they will play along side one another in a group. i keep wondering why you place the toys so he cannot get them anbd then complain when he whines? it seems as if you have created this game of keeping them out of reach and thereby forcing him into whining to get each one. after hes got them all the game begins anew. if he has the toys , all of them to begin with , there no longer is a game so if he whines still maybe he wants you to help him play with the toys? right now hes just playing the game you set up and created for him which is to plavce toys out of reach and he throws them down, whines and you furnish the next one and so forth til they are all with him, then of course the toys are all gone . its a learned behaviour you taught him . ask yourself why you are doing this please? this seems a bit mean to the child. are you trying to control his play or what? it sounds as if you are frustrating him . he is not learning to play with his toys as he wishes and manipulate them in ways he chooses so much as learnin g to obtain them from his all powerful parents it seems to me!
2007-06-01 10:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by silkcurtin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't reward his behavior by picking up the toy. Help him pick it up, while explaining to him that he needs to pick it up himself. If he continues to whine..Or worse, starts to throw a tantrum, take him to his room for some alone time until he can get control of himself.
2007-06-01 06:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play a lot of Mozart, which balances him off. Proven technique. Also, give him a pad a non toxic crayon to draw.
2007-06-01 06:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore him when he whines and/or tell him you can't hear him. If it doesn't get him what he wants he will stop (eventually)
2007-06-01 06:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give him the toy. let him get it himself. he needs to learn to do things (within reason, of course) on his own.
2007-06-01 07:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by menotyou 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋