I have tryed to slap my sons hand and tryed to spnk him(he sometimes laughs)(not hard but enough to make him realize he isnt aloud to do it) and I have tryed time out put he just yells the whole time or gets up over and over. What should I do to help him learn not to get into things that are no nos.I tell him no he leaughs as well.He is a good baby just doeant like to listen sometimes.He is 22 months alomst two years.Any advise will help.Thank you very much!
2007-06-01 05:49:39 · 9 answers · asked by mama_mandy05 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A hand slap works for my 2 year old son. Another idea I tried for a while was to warn him... "If you do this or touch this... then mommy will put your (favourite toy) up on top of the cupboard so that you can't touch it". That worked too. Then put the toy up and, when you take it down in a few minutes, remind them of why they lost it in the first place. Two year olds are "snappy"... they can remember lots of things.
After reading more posts... it is not child abuse to slap your child's hand in a controlled way. Spanking is also not defined as child abuse. I think we need some kind of definition of what a slap is...
2007-06-01 05:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by Cathy K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
22 months is definitely old enough to know what is wrong and right. Don't hit him. That never solves anything. You have to be stern with them and stick to what you are doing. If you decide to put in time out then take him to the corner, tell him what he did was wrong, and make him sit there. If he yells, than make him sit there until he stops. Ignore him while he is in the corner. He is probably screaming because it makes you still pay attention to him. The best way to get over temper tantrums etc. is to walk away from the child and let them do what they want. They usually just want attention and by not giving it to them they will finally stop doing the tantrums.
If the time outs in the corner don't work, than try to start taking away his favorite toys, or time away from his cartoons, etc. Just make sure whatever you do, do it immediately. 2 years olds don't have the concept of consequences that will happen at a later date. For instance if you are out somewhere, you cant say when we get home you dont get to play with your bike. It has to be lets stop whatever we are doing right now and lets go sit in the car until you behave.
My son is now 2 1/2 and the last 6 months were the hardest. He is now behaving a lot better. They will test you and it can be very frustrating.
2007-06-01 13:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by GEE-GEE 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but 22 months is really too young to discipline as such. l don't mean you shouldn't stop him doing things that are dangerous or innappropriate, but teaching 'right from wrong' at that age is a really big ask. As for time out, it's not really meant to be used for children under 3, they don't grasp the concept of 'staying longer if you keep getting up'. Try distraction techniques. Basically, everytime he acts up, distract him from what he's doing wrong, and lead him into an appropriate activity, this stops the behaviour, plus as he gets older he learns that (a) Mom/Dad has the authority here, and (b) this is the way l am supposed to behave. Just be persistant, and try to understand that this is normal! Good Luck, hope this helps.
2007-06-01 13:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sonja 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is just a bit too young to really grasp the concept of whats bad and not. Just always remind him in a gentle loving way what is bad and as he gets older he will start remembering what is bad.
He is only 2, his brain isn't that snappy yet:)
I also think 2 years old is a bit too young for time out. Slapping the hands is the ideal punishment, my son is almost 5 and I still do that to him.
2007-06-01 12:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by vrh4201022 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You just need to be persistant! If he gets up from his time out then without saying anything to him...you just put him back in that spot. They say to do a minute per year...so your child is almost 2...i would make him stay on time out for a minute and a half. Do not give in!!!
2007-06-01 12:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by seeso 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We NEVER hit our son who is also 22 months--he's old enough to realize that hitting is bad, so why use that as a punishment?
We have a "fussy rug" where he sits for 90 seconds at a time when he is bad. You MAKE him stay during that whole time. If he's doing something inapporpriate, we take our son and place him in time out. We also praise him when he's good.
2007-06-01 12:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Time out is a good way of stopping bad behavior. Look how good it works in Hockey.
2007-06-01 13:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mister Bald 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on what you have said, you are a child abuser. Stop all hitting immediately, period, end the discussion. You teach nothing but fear and distrust by any violence. Been there and absorbed it from an a.home mother who did what you do.
2007-06-01 13:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
lol he doesnt understand whats bad and whats not, dont hit him again
2007-06-01 12:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by inked girl 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋