what is to soon, I would'nt on the first date! but what would be considered to soon for a guy to not have respect for you & consider you easy?.
2007-06-01 05:25:40 · 41 answers · asked by on-point 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep him waiting. If its on a plate he will assume that plenty of others had a easy ride. He will help himself and move on.
2007-06-01 05:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by tempest 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm gone put u up on a little game first of never make a man wait for months if u are not a virgin but if u really like the guy make him wait about a month or less but make him wait some guy u can have sex with on the first day and they dont think like u easy but other will and will go tell the homies
2007-06-01 05:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by lillovin 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no solid answer to your question, it depends on the situation and person. There is no reason you can't on the first date or the 10th date. A guy isn't going to lose respect for you just because you sleep with him. He either had it for you to begin with or not...it has nothing to do with having sex.
Many guys will only give you between 3-5 dates, and if it's not clicking by then, they move on. Again it's not about the sex, but the connection.
2007-06-01 05:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer is different with every person walking and where you live. If you live in a small town in Nebraska then a few months. If you live in LA then 20 minutes or less. Respect is in the person not the act. If they do not respect you after then they didn't respect you to begin with. And yes I have done it within the first 20 minutes and have great respect for the lady, still.
2007-06-01 05:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I think you should wait till you get married. I am not saying that judgmentally - I didn't wait. I wish I had - I had a lot of issues that I would not have had, if he had been my only one.
I think all the arguments that 'you need to explore, you need to gain experience so you can be better for your spouse' are a bunch of bull - you're going to have to gain experience somehow, why not explore with your partner? With all the books out there, there is no limit to ideas you could both try.
Anyway, I would say wait until you know you're going to be with them for a long time. Otherwise, it makes sex cheap - which is not what it was meant to be. Sex is something precious - don't give it to just anybody. There is no set time limit.
And I think a lot of couples stay together longer than they would, just because they're having sex. That's an extra bond they have - and without it, they would more quickly realize they are not right for each other.
Why waste time on someone you can't see yourself with for life? I'm not saying that you have to know right away that you're going to marry them - but once you know that there is something to prevent you from marrying them, why waste any more of your time with them?
When you have sex with them, you are bonded to them in a different way... so sex messes a lot of things up.
2007-06-01 05:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I dated my fiance for about 3 or 4 months before having sex w/ him. That way we really knew each other and were completely comfortable. I think waiting that long really made him respect me. I know he was dying for it, but I wanted to wait for the perfect moment. And when it came, it was all worth it. We have been together for about 7 years now and we are still very happy and intimate.
2007-06-01 05:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
When you get to know the person and know that they are just not using you for pleasure especially don't do that on the first day because then he will tell all his friends that you are easyand you don't want to be portrayed as an easy girl so please take your time and know what you are doing
2007-06-01 05:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by Flawless 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 months after their last new sexual partner (or 6 months after that partner had a new partner) and then after a blood test for STDs.
It really depends on a lot of things. If you and he were friends for a long time before dating, then you probably know each other well.
Only you can determine when you feel ready.
-RNG
2007-06-01 05:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by Reformed Nice Guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In general anything less than two weeks is too soon. Personally a month is always respectable, without seeming frigid.
2007-06-01 08:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whenever you feel comfortable. For some it's on the first date for others marriage and of course everything in between. Ultimately if both parties are consenting why not dance the horizontal mambo it's fun!
2007-06-01 05:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Joseph 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends on you, the guy, and your age. Third date is typically the normal minimum in adult relationships, I believe, and significantly longer in teenage / young adult relationships. Essentially, the right time to have sex is when you're both ready and you trust one another.
If you knew the person for a long time before you actually started dating, 3rd, 2nd, or even 1st date wouldn't be unheard of.
But if it's someone you just met, It'd probably be better to hold off until you knew them better.
2007-06-01 05:29:48 · answer #11 · answered by smashcruiserarc 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋