he s girlfriend is pregnant. I don t like that girl, i dont know how to be happy for him. I dont want to make contact with her... i know im wrong if he choose her i should be happy for her a like her but i dont, instead i feel really sad and im even crying.... is he s girlfriend but i know she got pregnat unpurpose. please some advise.
2007-06-01 04:52:07 · 42 answers · asked by lissy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sucks when you don't like your brother's girlfriend. Don't worry though, because you feelings for her will probably change once she has the baby. It is unlikely that you will want to stay away from your niece or nephew and will probably come to terms with the mother, even if you never fully like her.
2007-06-01 04:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by jamaica_yancy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie he is your brother not your umbilical cord. Get over it! he won't stop being your brother, I can understand if you don't like this girl for whatever reason, but that is not enough excuse for you acting so damm childish.You don't have to befriend this girl. just be a good aunt for the baby once he/ she is there. Whether the girl got pregant on purpose or not you need to stay out and let your brother deal with HIS OWN issues. Be supportive at all times though. Don't cause any problem adn do not become arefery either, you'll end up catching all the punches. Relationships are very weird and it only has space for two so but out of it already. Dry your tears adn work more on your WON LIFE.
2007-06-01 05:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jeenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who went through this a year ago. All you can do is be supportive of your brother no matter what. WHen she breaks his heart don't say "I told you so" or anything like that. When the baby comes and he has the baby for visitation then help him out with the kid but don't do everything. Don't stress his relationship with her anymore than it already is or will be. I say visitation because if he is anything like my friends brother and the girl is anything like his former GF then they will end up not together and he will be having to pay child support and getting visitation. He made a boo boo and he doesn't need people to tell him how he screwed up, the fact of the matter is there will soon be a beautiful baby that will tie the families together for the rest of your lives and you have to learn to get along or tolerate each other for the kids' sake. And if they do stay together be nice for your brother's benefit, he will be the one having to hear her whine about how his family is just sooo mean and doesn't like her.
2007-06-01 04:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by charlene_mueller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have good intentions for your brother you have nothing to be ashamed of. He is your family and blood and you want the best for him. There is nothing wrong about it. I know its hard to think of your brother being with someone whom you dont really get along with all that well. There are other ways of coming in contact and keeping distance. You will work things out. If she got pregnat on purpose then its her fault if things dont turn out. Be there for your brother. No one ever said that you must be there for her but with your brother and neice or nephew its different. Make the best with what you can and do what is comfortable.
2007-06-01 04:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~LiL Hectic~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing you can do about it now, its out of your hands, Be supportive of your brother and the choices he makes, even if you disagree. Be a part of the babies life and help them anyway you can, Maybe spend some time with his girlfriend, get to know her and how she feels, it might make you feel better and have a better understanding of her, which would make you feel more at ease. Good Luck!!!!! Congrats on becoming an aunt!!!
2007-06-01 04:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thin k you are just very upset because it is your brother, and now that they are having a baby, he will give you less attention and you guys won't do as much together...You two must be very close. The same thing happed with my boyfriend and his little sister...I didn't get pregnant, though. She was just very jealous and did not like me very much. She has grown up, now. Just have a talk with you and your bro and ask him if you guys can go do things together- just you and him. I'm sure you will start to like his girlfriend, too.
2007-06-01 04:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by Rebecca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 learn 2 spell n 2 u don't have 2 like who your brother chooses 2 b with just b happy 4 him
2007-06-01 04:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by Murders Princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel..........When I was 13 my brother and his girl had a baby and I could not stand her...........I did annoying things to bother her........but when the baby was born my attitude changed......... I love my nephew to death and I regret treating her badly...........But In your case, I cant say if she got pregnant on purpose but I believe that once you get over the fact that your brother is having a baby, you'll be ok...... You may never like his girl but u should be civil to her and the baby.........And only make contact with her when u have to.........
Good Luck.......
2007-06-01 04:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go somewhere where you can have GOOD cry. Then realize that your brother is a human being who loves someone-- and even if that someon, his girlfriend, IS doing something she shouldn't be doing -- that's between him and her.
Be glad your brother confided in you -- that shows that he respects you as a person -- be there for him but try to support him in his decisions. If he asks for advice, give it to him nicely. Then he will know that he can come back to you for more advice -- IF he wants to ask for more advice.
2007-06-01 04:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by aattura 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby comes first!
Accept the baby. He/she did nothing to you. Babies have a way of making people bond anyhow. It just comes natural and you two will likely end up being the really good friends.
In the meantime, be happy for your brother and let him know that you are there for him.
2007-06-01 05:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by ★Banäna . Nightmärẹ★™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋