you are a christian, and your mother keeps on insulting and shouting at you, what would you do?

Question

she doesn't want to see me happy. i'm 22 years old and a born again christian but with what she is doing am sure that even if Jesus came back today, i would not go to heaven. when i was 9 years old old, she left me with my grand mother and never came back until after i was 16 years old. i have now lived with her for about four years and all i do every day is wish that she never even came back because she has brought hell in my life. she treats me like a dummy because i don't argue back with her (when she is shouting at me i just keep quiet because i don't want to disrespect her - even though she does'nt love me). she took all my banking information and my credit card the moment i started doing work study in school and i don't even have a clue of what she does with my money. she is so difficult and self centered, short tempered and difficult to talk to. please help me. all i'm thinking is running away but i have no place to go. i still value my salvation and want to exercise my faith.

Answer 1

I would move out! You have done without her before, you can also do without her now.

Answer 2

OK. Let's get to the practical side first.

Inform your financial aid officer about your mother stealing your banking information. What she is doing is called fraud - that money was for your education - not for her to blow. She stole it from you - and that's a crime. There may not be enough money for you to go back to school this coming semester! So report this immediately!

Speak with your banker about this too. She's committing a crime and the bank needs to know about it. They have people who can help you recover your credit rating. Your credit rating is the same as your good name. Your mother is ruining your good name - and no amount of faith can get this back until you report this to the authoritites.

Yes, this means reporting this to the police. She is committing a crime. You need to speak up about this - Crime is crime and family has nothing to do with it.

Please understand that while we can forgive others for their sins against us, and we can ask God for forgiveness ourselves - we are NOT absolved from having to clean up the mess that's left behind. That means that even while you forgive your mother for her stealing your good name - she will still have some "answering" to do here on earth - in terms of the courts. And if she has to go to jail to "pay" for this, then that is what must be done. But her criminal activity must be stopped. If not for you - then for someone else. Jesus said, Render unto Caesar that which belongs to Caesar - and in this case it means prosecution.

Now then, as a Christian, you can only pray for her. You cannot change her. You cannot save her. Only she can do that.

Keeping silent when she rants and raves is the correct thing to do. But pray for strength enough to keep the evil thoughts at bay. That's hard to do when someone is berating you but that's what prayer is good for.

Speak with your minister about your housing situation - that you cannot live at home any more - and why - the fact that your mother shouts at you and belittles your faith - and has stolen your credit card and banking information. Ask him for help. You need: a place to live that is close to school. Maybe he knows a C-Family who could rent you a room while you find your feet.

Oh. and at 22 - you are no longer a minor. You do indeed have a choice.

God Bless

Answer 3

I think you need to talk to your mom and tell her how you are feeling. First of all, Pray to God for guidance. Second, cancel your credit cards or something. Dont let her take your money. I think after talking with your mom, it doenst work out, you should move out and tell her that you arent ready to deal with this stuff until she is more respectful of you. Maybe you could move in with a relative if you really dont have the money for a home, but i advise you to pray then talk to your mom, and if that doesnt work out, move out. You are old enough to make your own decisions now.

Answer 4

You are a grown woman. Assert yourself. People only walk over you if you allow it. Stop allowing it, even if she is your mother. There's no need to be ugly or unkind to her, but you also don't have to tolerate disrespect or her taking your money or anything else.

I'm not xian but I don't see how you could fear punishment from your diety because you don't want to have to sit and take unfair treatment. I would think your higher power would respect you more for standing up for yourself (appropriately) than allowing yourself to be used as a doormat.

Take care of you...and I'm sorry you've had the misfortune to have such an uncaring and unkind parent.

Answer 5

Take sweetera's advice and move out.You dont need her doing that to you.The LORD wants you to forgive but not be a fool. Remember that.Too many people THINK that when you become a born again christian you're to be a "whipping post" for everyone and forgive them as well,which you can do on some instances given the circumstances but he also gave us "common sense" to know when people are not going to change their behavior and remove ourselves from that situation.Walk away,thats a reason he gave you feet.

Answer 6

Ok I am onlyb14 but my Dad is a pastor and people come to him all those kinds of problems a lot. My best advise is to be kind to her and when she is shouting at you, continue not to talk back. Also I would advise that you try and talk to her. Go shopping with her, don't let her know that you are scared or anything. Let her know that you'll be ther for her no matter what. Also currently ask her how her day was and stuff like that But most of all Pray for her and talk to God about it. I also recondmend talking to your pastor about it.

Answer 7

If you are a born again Christian, how would your mother calling you names keep you from going to Heaven? If you have Jesus, that's all you need. No one can keep you from going to Heaven, but yourself. If you can't handle your mom, then stay away from her, she is a mean person and doesn't need to be treating you like that. Mom's shouldn't do that.

Answer 8

i always ask myself, what would jesus do? what would jesus do? remember what kind of person he was and what kind of person he wants us to be. he would not yell back. he would speak in a calm manner to your mother. i think you should pray about it. you will find comfort in that. tell your mom you fell contention and don't like all the yelling. ask her if you can speak to each other nicely without the yelling. she what she says. do it a loving way. your tone and attitude will have a lot to do with how she reacts. always remember to say it with love.

Answer 9

if you are a born again christian i assume you go to church. Pray for her and if that doesnt work talk to the pastor of the church you go to.maybe your mom is angry about something that happened in her life and she takes all of her anger out on you. but you are grown so that is your discision if you want to move out. you are old enough to go out and look for an apartment. (God Bless) i hope everything works out the way you expect it to.

Answer 10

You don't need her abuse. The bible says to love your enemies, but that doesn't mean let them walk all over you. Pray for her and try to find a roommate or a safe place with a family at church.

Answer 11

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