For the women...Do you consider sex a chore or a joy? And why...
For the men...Do your lovers want sex or do they tend to try to avoid it? And why do you think that?
I'm curious because so many women seem to not enjoy sex, I wonder why??
2007-06-01 04:13:52 · 42 answers · asked by curiously*asking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a woman BTW...and I also love sex...I completely agree JJ...I think the upbringing is important. I also wonder if women hold back for that reason...I feel so sad for the women who are not enjoying it...
2007-06-01 04:20:30 · update #1
Most women who have begun to not enjoy sex are married and have kids. Many times the reason is after she has catered to every human being in the house and finally gets to crawl into bed she has a horney man next to her poking her in the shoulder asking "so, you up for it?". From experience I can tell you that the man who will do the dishes or spend time with the kids while mom makes dinner or help in some other way like folding the load of laundry that's waiting for her to finish everything else and NOT complaining while doing and asking her why she isn't don't with everything she has to do gets waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more sex than the man who comes home and plops himself on the couch and vegges out on the boobe tube while mom does it all with the kids under her feet. Foreplay does NOT start when she finally gets to bed it starts when he says things like "Here honey, how about I do those dishes while you go take a nice warm bath or read your book." or the winner, "Hun, after I finish folding these clothes I will put the kids to bed tonight, you go ahead and go on to bed and maybe tonight e can cuddle." And you know what cuddling leads to most of the time.
2007-06-01 04:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by charlene_mueller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. It depends if the other person is a good lover or not. If they are lame in bed and not interesting, it becomes a chore since the other person doens't get any pleasure from it. But if the sex is mind-blowing it becomes interesting and enjoyable for both. I could have sex all day and never get bored...if it's good. If your lover is avoiding sex, there's something wrong. Ask the other person what they would like and vice versa, ithat will make it fun, just be verbal about it all and watch what happens.
2007-06-01 04:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. In the past, I felt it was a chore. The guy that I am with now, it is a joy. We enjoy each other and we thrive on getting to know each other and what the other person wants. I think if you are with the right person, sex is enjoyable. If you are not with the right person, it seems more like a job.
2007-06-01 04:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by jetskichick25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way on this earth I would have sex if I thought it was a chore, it is something very special to be shared between ppl who care very much about each other which in turn makes it special.
I guess when women are empowered and able to ask for what they want then they truly start to enjoy sex for what a great experiance it is.
2007-06-01 04:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by Yoga Wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to really enjoy it but lately it has become a chore. I have 2 sons: 17 & 14 and a small house so I'm afraid of noise. Also, after being harrassed over & over, it feels more like an obligation than something enjoyable.
2007-06-01 04:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dont think of it as a chore, I think we enjoy it equally as much as men, but men think about it more.
Most of us women sometimes try to avoid it because like I said, most men just think about sex and want you in bed, but girls are more emotional and want to get to know men more and see if there's something between them that can maybe work for the rest of their lives, such as raising a family, living together, etc.. not just get in bed with you, have a baby and raise a life you never wanted.
2007-06-01 04:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by Cassandra S. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I LOVE sex - I'm not a freak or a wannabe porn star, just a woman who knows what she likes and is able to communicate that to sig. others. I think the reason some young women aren't as excite-able as others is the comfort factor. Some young women rush to the act of sex before *ahem* exploring themselves and figuring out what they like or they are too nervous to tell their partner or they have a partner who is oblivious to what their woman would actually enjoy OR they don't have a consistent partner to experiment with.
I think everyone, regardless of gender, would want more sex if they took the time to make it worthwhile for all involved. Lets face it, guys are a bit easier to figure out than women in this dept. so take a little extra time to find out what your lady love wants or figure that out with her.
2007-06-01 04:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by oimiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with women where for a while they loved sex, wanted it, wet, sloppy great sex. Say my name purrred in my ear and everything. Then after a while they stopped and the well ran dry so to speak. I think women go through stages and once they've "snatched" you they stop giving it. Also I tend to be very attracted and want it alot so any future loers beware i would do it at least once a day so help me viagra!
That and women can turn sex off men can only turn it down.
2007-06-01 04:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Russell C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, I totally enjoy sex. That probably could just be because my boyfriend is a sex god, but the only time I might consider it to be a chore is when I'm on top, when I'm trying to get myself off, that would be the only time I might feel that way. Otherwise, everything about it is super fantastic!
2007-06-01 04:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~Sweet Turtle Luver~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who enjoy sex are those that can never get enough type. They are mostly cheaters. Its neither a chore or a joy. Its something we need to give in to mens' needs.
2007-06-01 04:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by greentea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋