2007-06-01 04:05:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hit it den fogit it!
2007-06-01 04:08:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....I could say that I'm in a similar situation right now...lol. I think that if you really like this chick it should not matter. It was before you met her. Should she leave you if she found out you slept with one of her friends before you met her? It is a very small world ya know, especially if you guys know some of the same people. I do think that if it makes you feel uncomfortable, you should definetly let her know. If you feel that it is gonna bother you or you may look at her in a different light, maybe you should call if off.
Ask your self the following questions:
1. How long ago did this happen?
2. Is she still sleeping with this guy?
3. Did you know her back then?
4. Would you want her to hold your past against you?
5. Does she have a bad rep?
I do understand that situations like that can sometimes be sticky, but honestly if it has been years, then you should have nothing to worry about. The decision comes down to how you really feel and how you think you can handle this situation in the long run.
2007-06-01 07:28:44 · answer #2 · answered by cristiana d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes u stay what the hell does it matter it is her past...I used to date this guy most of my adolescent years...I moved to a different school we remained friends b/c we were only 20 mins away from each other I met my new BF in ninth grade and she is still my BF to this day and we're 26 neways I used to tell her about my BF well our junior year she moved to the same city I came from and she ended up meeting this cat she called me and she said I met ur ex I was like cool blah blah blah then they started dating...broke up...dated again...and so on now they are together he is 28 she is 26 and they have a baby together and we still hang out...them two w/ me and my fiancee...and we all know that me and my ex have slept together but it was in HS and we are past that stupid immature BS noone cares if she has slept w/ your bud trust me...if it bothers you don't hang out w/ your bud when she is around....
2007-06-01 04:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? Everyone has to get on with life and pursue life as he or she sees fit. Don't you do that too? The past is past. Teh only affect the past has is to help shape you in the present.
The real issue is whether this girl is someone special to you and whether she can meet your needs. If you get along well and have a good relationship it makes no difference what you or she may or may not have done in the past. All that really matters is how well the two of you get along and how happy you are together. If you can't be happy together then split up. If you are happy together then stay together. The past is irrelevant.
2007-06-01 04:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by Shutterbug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't really fault her for sleeping with someone before she met you. However, you should take into account how this might affect your relationship. Is this a really close buddy of yours? If so, how does he feel about it?
Did the relationship/ one-night-stand end badly? If this is a close friend of yours, you need to realize that it might be awkward to hang out with your buddy and this girl he slept with. And depending on how the relationship ended and the maturity level of the people, you might have to listen to them putting each other down.
You need to figure out whether your buddy/ girl cares, whether they're going to say bad things about the other party, and if so, if you can put up with hearing unpleasant things about your friend/ girl. My advice would be to talk to both your friend and the girl your dating, and be completely honest about your reservations. Hopefully, they'll be honest with you, too.
2007-06-01 04:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you buddy mind? Would you be able to live withthe fact that your buddy has had her? Is your buddy mature enough not to brag about it or tell the world so that if affects your happiness?
Those are the questions you should ask yourself and if you don't mind those things and you really like her and your sure she no longer has interest in your buddy then stay.
2007-06-01 04:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should make no difference at all. My question would be: how did you find out? If he told you, he's not a buddy and you should drop him like a rock. If she admitted it under duress, you need to lay off. And if she mentioned it, think twice about a relationship.
2007-06-01 04:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfriend had broken up before for the same thing. He found out that i had slept with one of his friends, he had asked me a few times before and i always denied it (big mistake), the guy actually told him that we were together more than once. My boyfriend blew up and broke up with me. But now we're back together, so eventually he forgave me, but of course it's not for gotten.
So it doesn't really matter, it was before you=]]
2007-06-01 04:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Horror the position they're going to scare you.. trust me shell be as p.c. as a lot as u as a probability and afterwards you'll have issues to communicate about.Plus it is going to likely be fairly exciting. you need to SEE SCREAM 5
2016-10-18 12:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not if yu really like her? How did she know she was going to meet you? The question is, does she still sleep with yur budd? If that's the case, dump her.
2007-06-01 04:08:43 · answer #10 · answered by M S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on how much you like her. The fact that she slept with your friend shouldn't affect your relationship with her.
You have to consider your friend to. If he really likes her then you will be jeopardizing you friendship with him.
Stay as long as you can with her and see what happens with her and your friends.
2007-06-01 04:09:41 · answer #11 · answered by Chris R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋