brutal honesty or just plain mean?

Question

When breaking up with me, my last girlfriend told me that one of the reasons for the split was that my p3nis was too small for her.

I did ask her if she was happy with our physical relationship, so I sort of opened the door....

so mean!!! so embarrassing....

Is such honesty really necessary? what should I do?

Answer 1

Don't worry about it. She was just angry and you set yourself up for that low blow.

Answer 2

Only dire situations call for brutal honesty. Sometimes some people need a wake up call, and brutal honesty is a last resort. There's a place for it, but most of the time we can be truthful while choosing our words with care. My husband (may he RIP) was encouraged to be "brutally" honest when I wore something that made me look ridiculous. I always thanked him for his truthfulness. So when I got a compliment from him, I know it was for real.

Answer 3

I've never said anything like that in anger or ending a relationship. If we are in a good spot in a relationship and I have some changes I would like made in the physical side, I'll bring them up and discuss them. There is no need to be nasty though. Sorry you had such a heartless, weak b!#@ of a girlfriend.

Answer 4

Forgive the errors - my spellcheck isn't working properly.

Well, despite the fact that you asked for it - she was indeed quite blunt.

While "size" does play it's "part" in a physical relationshp, I truly suspect that there were other "larger" issues in your relationship that bothered her more - and that they were serious enough to her that she was willing to insult your "manhood" to end the relationship on a really sour note.

I would move on and not worry about your "natural gifts."

However, you should reflect on what probably truly bothered her about your relationship.

Were you more involved with yourself and your buddies than with her?

Were her problems at work, home, family, friends, etc. too "trivial" and "girlie" for you to even listen to them?

Did you give as much as you got - in that you spent all your time at her house eating her food, using her shampoo, dirtying her towels - but not offering to buy groceries or do the dishes or laundry?

Was the relationship one sided - in that she should be at YOUR beck and call - and whatever YOU wanted to do was what got done - and HER idea of a good time was "boring" but she should be delighted that you and the fellas should gather at her place for poker and cigars every Wednesday?

Were her dreams and aspirations - stupid and immature - or did you think her childhood dream of going back to college for her master's or getting her commercial pilots license a good thing - and even encourage her to pursue those dreams?

Look back at what really soured the realtionshp - and I would bet that your "size" was really not the issue at hand.

Maybe you will have learned something from this -

Answer 5

That was a really mean thing to say. I think she said that because her emotions were off kilter with the breakup. I've actually said and done some mean things to an ex immediately after our breakup. I didn't mean them....they were out of anger.
I'd shrug it off and move on. It's summertime - the perfect season to meet someone new!
Good luck!

Answer 6

She is being mean. She isn't being honest. Women don't break up with a guy because of that and if they do, they're shallow and worthless. She might be in that category already.

Answer 7

Mean

Answer 8

Just plain mean.

Answer 9

no, that was the worst thing to tell you, move on she is not worth the letters you typed here about her.

Answer 10

well you did ask but she was just being a b*tch and trying to hurt you don't worry about it