My boyfriend has money issues, and problems with taking pain pills....He wants to stop and get help, but not enought to do so....Ive backed him up for months...Try to help him budget money and learn to cut down on pills....Its helps and doesnt. Im past the edge, but still dont know if I should give up and kick him out...I have no idea on how to break up with him - Usually we are a very happy couple. But I know its not right.
2007-06-01 03:10:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Understanding why you posted your question here....I have to agree with others who tell you drug addiction to "depressants" or pain pills is an extremely difficult addiction to overcome.
You have to consider what you want for yourself! Do you want to worry for the rest of your life that your boyfriend could resort to drug use again....will the temptation ever go away...I seriously doubt it.
I have been in law enforcement for over 30 years and specifically a narcotics officer for over 14 of those years. In all the time I've worked these type cases...I've prayed for devine intervention. Sadly, a small slim percentage of those I've dealt with have successfully stayed off the drugs!
There are so many good people in this world that are potentially good "soul mates," you just have to seek them out!
My suggestion is get away from this individual since he appears to be more concerned for his life of drug addiction than his love for you!
Best wishes.
2007-06-01 03:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by KC V ™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't support giving people ultimatums usually, but in this case, it sounds like it might be a necessary step.
If you think you can be happy with him should he become clean, then tell him to go into rehab or you're done with the relationship.
If it works, then great. He can get off the painkillers. If he's not in the right place to make that happen, then you tried to do all you could. He'd have to make those decisions on his own.
Sometimes people need tough love.
2007-06-01 03:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by Josh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to think of yourself in this situation. You aren't married so just tell him you can't deal with this anymore and either tell him when he has to be out or you leave, depending, of course, on who is on the lease.
Tell him when he gets himself straightened up to look you up but you aren't going to be an enabler anymore. You might also look for some support groups in your area to help keep you strong through all this.
Good luck
2007-06-01 03:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this question has what to do with law enforcement and police???Now to answer your question you cannot force someone to change they have to want to change themselves and until they want to nothing that you do or say is going to make them change.I suggest that you leave him and if he straightens up then reconsider a relationship with him otherwise you are simply wasting your time with him.
2007-06-01 03:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but he's an addict. Get rid of the druggie! Users are nothing but garbage!
2007-06-01 03:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
end it now!!! pain killer addictions are horrible and it will get alot worse trust me on this one. unless he goes to treatment, thats not something easily done by yourself.
2007-06-01 03:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot help him if he refuses to help himself.
2007-06-01 03:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wrong category.
Go to : someone that cares catagory
2007-06-01 10:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you have to think of youself is he
2007-06-01 03:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋