My parents have disowned me for something so stuped??

Question

I moved to London two years ago to be in this band that my mum and dad thought had 'great potential' (i was only 18 at the time) and because we had rich management who were already a part of the music industry, thought that we were going to get signed. The songs were very good, poppy, charty (girl band by the way) but we were treated like absolute ****. I became very unhappy last year, as did all the rest of the girls in the band, so we broke up two weeks ago. Since then i've been so happy and everything has started to look up for me and my boyfriend whom i live with. My parents however, have completely disowned me, wont talk to me, think iv chucked away my only chance of being anything. I have had a really sore pain in my chest over the last couple of days, got it checked out today, turns out its something quite bad, txt my parents and told them about it, not a single text or phone call. What should i do? I really need my parents support right now and they have completely shut me out

stupid, my apologies

Unfortunately i live 400 miles away from them. they live in scotland. and they wont answer my calls.

Thanks for the support guys, you really have made me feel better. Love to you all!!! xx

Answer 1

Surround yourself with friends that are supportive and positive. Your family may or may nor come around. Try not to dwell on bad thoughts.

Answer 2

Honey, don't text them, either telephone, write a letter or why don't you just go and see them? I know the latter would be the hardest thing for you to do, and basically whats the worse that could happen? they have a rant and rave and shut the door in your face, then at least you'll know for definite where you stand with them. The music industry is a very fickle one, I've known people with exceptional talent, not getting anywhere, but hey, at least you've tried. I can't quite understand your parents' reaction towards this, they do seem very heartless, especially after hearing that you are quite unwell, and not contacting you. In the long run you say you're happy in your life now, and yes, having your parents around would make it much better, but in the long run, its them who are going to miss out on you, not the other way. My mother has basically ignored everything I've done/achieved over the last 20 years, and whilst I can say that its not upsetting at times, it does get alot easier. Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you x

Answer 3

That hurts. Have you got a relative - the sister or brother of either of your parents - that you can talk to? or, failing that, a grandparent or one of your parents' close friends? or a sister or brother? I think your best hope is to approach one of them - your heart will tell you who's most likely to be supportive of your case and listened to by your parents - tell them what's happened, say how much you miss and need your parents at this time and ask them to speak for you.

They may not have got in touch because they're feeling ashamed of the way they've treated you, but I doubt that a true parent would cut you out of their life forever.

I hope that your health problem clears up soon. Lots of love.

Answer 4

For starters, how your parents are acting is completely out of order but it seems to me like you are going to have to be the one that changes this situation.

First of all are your parents the stubborn type? It sounds that way. It has probably gone on that long they feel like they can't back down now and maybe they think that you are just saying you are ill to get their attention.

You need to go to them and speak to them face to face, that way they will see how serious and upset you really are. I know they live quite far away but they are your parents and this is important isn't it.

If this doesn't work, cut your losses. They aren't worthy of calling themselves your parents if they wont stand by their daughter.

Hope you are okay and have plenty of friends around you.

xx

Answer 5

aaawwww sweetie, Your parents probably thought you could make them rich by yiur sucsess. It sounds like they don't believe in you but all that matters is that you believe in yourself!!! You'll see that someday.I'm sure your boyfriend is loving and supportive so hold on to that. What you need to do is proove your parents wrong!!!!! totally. it may take some time to find a new nich but I personally believe you will succeed. If you had the ambition and motivation to move that far away from what you've always known, to do what you love, you will be just fine. believe in yourself, do the right things and good things will happen for you! Keep your head up sister!!!good luck.

Answer 6

Your parents were just there for the potential money you may be making. I garntee if you were to get in another band theyed be back. You have your family with you. I wish you the best and i am sorry you are sick. All I can say is just pray for Gods will to be done and if they truely are to be a part of your life if not it wont happen just remember you are not alone you have God your boy friend and us you can email me if you like. God bless.

Answer 7

I agree, you should call them hun. Its a shame, but it normally takes something stupid for family to argue, but something extreme to bring them back together.

If you talk to them, face to face if possible, and explain your situation then they will be able to put things into perspective. Nomatter what, in almost every case, your parents love you deep down. Thats why they feel hurt when they think that you are making a wrong decision (even though you know you are making the right one).

Its easy to misplace a text message, or misread it, but they cannot misread the expression on your face or the sincerity of your voice. They will know this is your hour of need and theyre instincts will urge them to just hug you and tell you "Its all going to be ok."

I hope all goes well for you.

Answer 8

You leaving a band does not mean that you cannot do something else rewarding and worthwhile surely your parents can see that? If not then they are being silly.
It is your life not there's...you do what you want.
Sorry if you have a health problem. Hope it gets sorted.
You have done your bit.texting your parents...now it's up to them.
If you were my daughter then wild horses wouldn't keep me away from supporting you,
take care

Answer 9

Wow!!! That does sound kind of petty, it would seem like they would be fine with it because the decision was one that made you happy. I don't think you should continue to stress yourself out about the situation, I understand they are your parents and you want them there but the stress of it all can only make your condition worse. I think you should just focus on getting better, because I am sure there are others (like your boyfriend) who will be with you to help you through this time.

Hope things get better for you!

Answer 10

Wow, it sound as though your parents were hoping for fam and fortune through you. They are sorely dissappointed, give them a couple of days to cool off. Then just show up at there door, and demand there attention. Explain to them your seriously ill and that you need there support. You love them and it means alot to you that they approve of your life but at the same time you will not do something that makes you very unhappy. We only get this one life so you choose to make yours a fulfilling one.

Answer 11

First of all , I think I would get on my knees and talk to Jesus, and ask Him to open the door of your parants hearts, to love you like they should. Only Jesus can restore both of your relationships. It is hard to please are parent's. For they have one way of looking at things , and we have another. Try to be the one that shows them love no matter what and they will come around. The Bible states a soft answer will turn away wrath. I have tried it, it does work, keep looking up, and watch what Jesus can do.