I am just curious to what your opinion on spanking children is?

Question

in particular a sassy 6 yr old girl...usually i do timeouts and they are usually effective or taking away something fun she was going to do...please give me some insight...thanks!!

Answer 1

A smack or two on the fat part of the bottom, with an open hand has never hurt anyone.
It is how most of us "older" folks were raised, & I raised my 13 year old son the same way. He is fine.
Never be angry when you spank, learn to control yourself before you dicipline a child, that way nothing will get out of hand.

Answer 2

I would say it may be more effective early. NOT BEATING a child as some seem to think when they hear spank. Just a little slap on the hand and a "NO"! Spat on the Butt and a "NO" It not need to hurt, but, more of an unexpected surprise. As they get older really there should be no need if they a true part of a person's life. Talking and Doing things together. When a child want to show us something and we reading the Paper, lay it down and go see what they got. Usually they have made something and some praise and encouragement will go a long ways, not only for helping the child feel loved, but, also for the child/parent relationship.
Now, daughters got into the Crayons on everything but coloring books. 5 and 6 years old and in my opinion too old to spank, they understood words. So, I let them see me throw the crayons in the trash. About a month later I buy them more. Same thing with the walls and such. So, again, I said, "well you not old enough to know how to use colors", so, again they see them go into the trash. Wait another month and bought some more. They became the aspiring artists I knew they would be! Three boxes of Crayons was all it took. No real hurt feelings or Butts. Then the encouragement began, first just for knowing "where" to color.

Answer 3

I don't think spanking really resolves anything. Try taking something away that they really like....that is very effective. My sassy 6 year old made me mad one day and I told him he would get TV taken away for 2 days. He kept it up and I made it a week without TV. I didn't turn the TV on for a whole week (it was actually kinda nice...spent more quality time with my 2 boys). I stuck with what I said and it was very effective. I haven't had any problems since and now that 6 year old is 12. I can't say that was what made my 12 year old a great kid, but I think taking something away for a reasonable length of time is enough punishment and gets the point across to make your children listen and respect you.

Answer 4

Wow HEATED SUBJECT!!!

I have 5 kids and well, I used to smack my daughter on the hand or bum when she was little (around 3 and up), then I had my son, and smacking him that way did NOTHING so I gave up, and started putting him in time out. (often having to drag him there)

Now I have 5 kids, ranging from 6 months to 10 years, the three youngest have never been smacked, though I did once smack the 5 year olds foot in defence when she kicked me accidentally in the face once)

smacking wouldnt work on my older children because there are more effective ways to make them pay attention, they lose pocket money/tv privillages/playstation/grounding/not having friends over etc.

my 5 year old and 2 youngest dont really do much, but I find with the 2 yr old that diverson works very well, if hes doing something naughty, I just sort of ignor it and start him on something new and he just stops doing it and joins in.

I think at the end of the day each child is so different you have to work out what works best for them. I have met a few kids in my time where Ive thought they needed a good smack (Throwing rocks at cars etc!!), but yet their parents do nothing. which is in my opinion worse than a smack on the hand.

Parenting can be tough, NZ is about to bring out a no smacking ban. My biggest problem is, theyre saying if you smack your children you could go to jail, but theyre not helping parents with other ways to deal with the kids, and parents are losing their confidence and soon will be scared of their own kids... I do worry about future generations, when I was a child you never spoke back to parents yet these days you see kids callng their mum and dad some awful things that just shocks me!

yes, I can go on for a long time.... but I wont!!

Answer 5

Time outs are great and grounding is good. Taking away something some times works, but to be honest sometimes you have to take the subject in hand. You have use the rod, so to speak. Remember: "Spare the rod, spoil the child"! Now the rod is a symbol of spanking with your hands. Not with a iron rod or anything else. Show love by hurting even your own hand a little.

Answer 6

I think if u need 2 spank her spank her. But I have learned that timeouts and taking things away makes the most difference. Not to say I am against spankings if it is needed at that time the so be it

Answer 7

I personally believe it depends on the child. I have a son who, when you get on to him, cries to no end. all I have to do is threaten a spanking. I make him sit on his bed and think about what he did, and he cries the whole time. ten minutes for each time his teachers get onto him and tell me. he punishes himself. and I would be mad if someone told me to spank him. he's had one spanking in his life, and that's because talking didn't work, and I was at my wit's end. and it has worked perfectly ever since. my daughter is in a completely different area. spankings every day, and she's only three. telling her not to do something does not work. so I pop her on her butt a couple of times and make her sit on the couch for five minutes. nothing too harsh, and age appropriate.

I was spanked as a child, and I do not necessarily like spanking my daughter, but I look around at children who are not disciplined, and I know that if I don't get a grip on her behavior now, I will be ready to BEAT her later. I can't stand being around kids who are not disciplined, IE my nieces and nephews. neither parent wants to be the "bad guy" and they get away with "didn't I just say not to do that?" no discipline, no timeouts, no spankings. and I'm thankful that a couple of swats on the butt is all my daughter needs to straighten up. and my son just needs a threat.

look around, and I can tell you firsthand, if you get a look at a wild child with no discipline, you will be glad to give her a few swats to keep her in line. when all else fails, give her a few swats, nothing to hurt her, just let her know you will not put up with the antics, and she will straighten up soon. children need discipline. my generation got spankings, not beatings, and we all turned out fine. (think about that old saying, "if I had done that, my mom would have torn my butt up!")

Answer 8

A lot of it really depends on the child. I have a 6 year old that spanking does absolutely nothing for, so I do not use it as a form of punishment. And there is a line there that does not need to be crossed regarding spanking in my opinion. Also, I have a friend who's child does respond to spanking, so she uses it as a form of discipline. So really, I believe it all depends on what is effective to the child.

Answer 9

People get hysterical about this issue. But I have read, and I already sensed this, that a lot of us younger parents are getting sick of all the bratty kids and the Super Nanny nonsense and are spanking more than the prior couple of generations.

It works for me, and I believe that , if done right, it is almost miraculous. I did some research on all the non-spanking research and found that it is basically a bunch of baloney and there is actually some good stuides that confirm that spanking is the MOST effective way to get kids to comply with their parents' wishes. I wrote a summary here:http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-GgIFACYzfqWx8YwvtspSWVmWzA--?cq=1&p=793

Answer 10

It's fine and so is hitting as long as you don't put the kid into a coma, knock it out, break bones, or kill it. If you do any of those things then it is very bad. It is also bad to spank a child 1 year old and under. A light tap on the hand is ok for an infant but don't hit it upside the head because it wants attention. Spanking is not illegal in the USA either thought in California there are some people who are trying to make it illegal to spank a child 3 years old and under.

Answer 11

Spanking is a very ineffective way of teaching a child to behave. Mostly, it teaches kids, that you get what you want by hitting other people..... not a very good lesson. Every kid can drive you crazy, but getting into a routine of hitting to change behavior can lead to all sorts of unwanted results. A gentle clop on the rear end, done without anger and very rarely, may not be so terrible to put a quick end to sassiness in a young child,,,, but it's a tricky business and bad if it becomes a habit. I've got 2 10 years old's, one with asperger's ...... they can really get to you, but I've never found a need to spank........ Recognize that every parent feels like murdering their kid once in a while..... just let it go..... and resist the urge to turn those thoughts into physical action.