They're really bad parents, and I really don't like them.
My ceremony isn't going to be to their taste at all, and I'm worried that they might ruin it. I've decided to let them have a renewal ceremony for them and all of their friends to see. How can I put it delicately that I don't want them at my wedding?
2007-06-01 02:21:28 · 21 answers · asked by Olivia! 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I didnt want my parents at my wedding either, but I still invited them. They are my parents for crying out loud. No matter how much they make me angry or I dislike them at time, I'm not goin to exclude them from my wedding day. You'll turn around some day and regret it. I'm going to assume that you're only like 18- or 19 yrs old and are just being rebellious and are just looking for a way to pizz your parents off.
Since you ask about rave clothing and piercing your face in other questions, yep, you're only about 18ish.
2007-06-01 02:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by mannasox 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There is no delicate way to tell your parents you dont want them at your wedding. If your relationship with your parents has been strained for some time they may be expecting to be omitted. The fact that you would be willing to invite them to a renewal ceremony may indicate that you have some hope for the relationship. You have two choices. Just dont invite them or sit down with them and explain why you have chosen to exclude them. Be prepared for an explosion but hey, you have been dealing with this for sometime so you know what to expect.
2007-06-01 09:28:42 · answer #2 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't do it delicately... honestly, this is going to be a fight. But it's one that you deserve to stand your ground on.
"I am arranging two separate ceremonies for the wedding. One is very personal and will not be something that I think you will support -- therefore, I'm holding a separate second ceremony so that you can help us celebrate our marriage in a way that's comfortable for us all."
Keep in mind, if one set of parents is invited and the other is NOT... you're looking at a long-time fight and long-term resentment. You might be better off having your personal ceremony be extremely small, and inviting everyone else to the renewal -- if everyone is excluded equally, no one can get very hurt about it.
2007-06-01 09:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A wedding is not for the parties involved. but for family. That has been society's rules, weddings is the ceremony where both the bride and groom's families and friends meet each other and accept each other in a mutual acknowledgment of this relationship through the hapless bride and groom.
All you need for yourself is the legal portion of it, and can be achieved at city hall etc, or go to Vegas.
You have "decided" to let them (your parents) have a renewal ceremony? All of their friends to see? That is nonsense.
Leave them alone and just go do your own thing.
2007-06-01 09:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not if you don't want them for the right reasons, but hopefully you won't regret it.
A vow renewal ceremony usually isn't done until the 25th wedding anniversary, though sometimes couples do it on the 10th anniversary more recently.
I think you have the wrong idea of what it actually is. You only have ONE wedding.
2007-06-01 10:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, just tell them that you are getting married and leave it at that. I didn't invite my parents, but I did tell them right after the ceremony that we were married. Sometimes you have to think about what is best for you. Your wedding day is your day, don't allow no one else to ruin it for you.
2007-06-01 09:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT'S YOUR DAY! so if you feel that you don't want them there and can put up with maybe the aftermath of not having them there. Then don't invite them! I just think they will have really hurt feelings. You might find that anything you do wont make you happy, that you might feel guilty (even though they are bad parents)for not inviting them. I totally understand though.Good luck 2 u. One more thing don't spend your time stressing out over whether to invite them or not,make a decision (either way) and think about all the fun/exciting things.
2007-06-01 09:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The only way you can do this is if you aren't inviting anyone to ceremony who knows them. How old are you? Are you really sure that you can't invite them to your wedding?
2007-06-01 11:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please...
I don't want my mom to be at my wedding either. Trust, it will be so much better if you run off and do it. What I am going to do is have a very non-traditional wedding. I want the fat Elvis to marry me in Las Vegas and the reception will be at the closest strip joint! I want to hear "Love Me Tender" and "Can't Help Falling In Love With You". What happens in Las Vegas......
Get the picture?
I love my mom with all of my heart but she is too judgmental. She's not too excited over my fiance anyway. My mom won't know until she looks at my left hand.
2007-06-01 09:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Heaven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will most likely feel very hurt. The best way to avoid that is to have a very very very private ceremony- where no one but a handful of witnesses will be present, so they can see that you weren't just excluding them.
2007-06-01 09:31:39 · answer #10 · answered by Edith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋