How can I convince my father...?

Question

...to buy me a car?My dad works for MTA in New York(no he isnt a bus driver), he makes very good money.I live in FL with my mom, I'm 16 and I need a car.Not just b/c all my friends have cars,I need one because my mom rushes every morning to bring me to school and then drives on the other side of town for work. I talked to him about this; I'M HIS ONLY DAUGHTER! He is SO stingy with his money. We made a deal that hes going to send me $40 for every A I get on my report card; my last one had 5 A's and he made a big flipping deal about the $200. I'm so frustrated!!! If YOU were in my place what would you do?I HELP PLEASE! I tried getting a job,but most places prefer 17 year olds(my 17th birthday isnt until September 9th). I graduate in May '08, hopefully one of my brothers can help me out :/

1.I feel he owes me a car! He's just starting to want to be a part of my life, he denied me when I was a baby after he re-married. My mom proved to him I was his; now that I get older, I notice he wants to take credit for raising me(1 ex: He tells his friends how he pays for my catholic tuition but I'm on a scholarship).
2. Doing chores does not prove squat!I do chores around the house and I dont expect my mom to give me anything. I dont live with him, like I said he lives in NY, I live in FL! (Did you people not read the whole thing?)
3. My mother cant afford a car for me right now, she works and goes to school.Thats not fair to her.My dad has been paying the same child support since I was 2. He thinks his little check can last forever. I know more than he thinks.He thinks I'm stupid by telling me that he pays my tuition. He has money set aside for college,but that wont even cover one semester,boarding or books
I just wanted to know what you would do.Im ready to give up on him.

HEYY!How dare you judge me,I'm far from a brat!
I didnt get a thing from him for my junior high graduation....hell, he didnt even show up for my junior high graduation. It was a shame. My mom has made so many sacrifices for my two older brothers and I. I wouldnt even think of asking her for a car. She said it herself, If she had the money, she would get me something just to go from home to school and back.
Im not a brat who wants a brand new 07 car, I'm desperate for a car. I'll settle for anything......

To:SummerSweet 08
Yea,he is a sorry *** father.One bro is 29 and the other is 27.One had gotten me a VW Bug (It was supposed to be a suprise) but he had to sell it b/c he had some financial problems.(He sold it before I knew). I know that kinda sucks.Oh well.The other bro WAS in the navy and bought himself a Lexxus but got kicked out of the navy last year :/ I feel bad to ask my mom b/c shes ALWAYS buying me stuff, even if I dont want it. Like my graduation ring(my school let us order them when we were juniors) she paid for it,I really didnt want one and it wasnt cheap.She felt that if all my other friends were getting one,then I should have one too :/ idk shes weird sometimes. I do get rides from my friends but sometimes I dont wanna seem like a burdent so some ppl; I give them gas money if theyre going out of their way,but you never know if people feel obligated to or if theyre really want to help out....you understand?

Answer 1

I need a car too. '07 Honda Civic SI. 197 HP I-Vtec k20z engine. 4k for greddy turbo kit and 440cc injectors to own.

pwnage.

EDIT: if you're going to settle for anything, go buy yourself a USED 02-06 Acura RSX Type-S. It's a 6 speed Manual Transmission car. 201 Horsepower with it's k20a2 engine. Just spend 4k for turbo kit and new injectors, then buy intake and exhaust from greddy and injen. Then you're all set, you'll be boosting more than 300 horsepower and you'll own all those Ricers and wannabe racers out there.

Answer 2

You don't need a car, you want one. No matter what circumstances you state it still comes down to that. If you weren't of legal driving age, then the situation concerning your mom would be the same, so don't drag that into trying to make it seem as though it's a need. Or the fact that you are his only daughter. So what? He nor your mother are required to spend any money they have on you whereas luxuries are concerned, which is what a car is.

Since your dad promised you the $40 per A then he should give you that at least without a fuss. Learn to deal with the rest. If you can't be mature enough to do that, then you don't belong behind the wheel of a car in the first place.

Additional: I still stand by what I said. You feel that he owes you a car is exactly that and nothing more. You feel that way.

I had divorced parents, too, and a tougher life than you did. I worked since I was 7 years old and had nearly every cent of it taken away from me by my mother as I got the money. Still, I knew better than to believe I was owed more than the basics in life.

Life is a little tough for you. So what? You have a lot more than most people. Quit dwelling on what you don't have and feel that you should have. Quit holding grudges, also. You can't move forward if you insist on standing still.

Answer 3

Why do you think your dad owes you a car? Get a job and save your money and buy your own damn car and don't hand me that crap about only getting hired as a 17 year old, ever hear of a paper route? Mowing lawns? Baby sitting? Stand on your own two feet! You are almost a full grown adult for crying out load! Is it your Mom who feels he owes you since you are his only daughter? Does he pay Child support on you? did you ever think that maybe your mother could put some of that money aside for a car? What about her? Did you ask her to buy you a car? Shes half of the parents too ya know, but they don't owe you a car! I bought my own car at 15 years old by working on a farm, it took me 3 years to save enough. Kids today are such impatient Wimps!!! Stop making excuses and blaming your Dad and solve your problems yourself, in other words- Grow the hell up and quit being a spoiled brat!

Answer 4

If I were going to buy a car for someone under 20, the first thing I would look at how responsibile they are. Not knowing you personally I can't say, but if you got 5 A's, then I would bring that point up. You were able to stay focused on your schooling and get good grades. The next thing I would consider is insurance and the cost of the car. When I bought my first car I was stunned at the cost of insurance. Due to your young age, insurance is through the roof. Even if your Dad is making good money, the car itself may be something he could buy, but is an outrageous insurance on it worth it?? If I were you, I would try to get a baby-sitting job or something that doesn't require an age limit, even house cleaning for someone. There are many possibilities. If your Dad sees this kinf of initiative to get a car, he may break down and buy you one.

Answer 5

GET A JOB!!! I know you said you have tried but have you really?? I am sure there are jobs out there for 16 year olds, they may not be the most glamerous jobs but a job is a job.

In life you need to start relying on yourself. The sooner you learn that the sooner you can get on with it.

And really, does a 16 year old REALLY REALLY need a car. If you are really worried about your mom having to rush around in the mornings to get you to school, try catching the bus, riding a bike or walking.

Does your dad pay child support???

Answer 6

No parent owes their child a car. If you want a car, get a job and work for it. Perhaps you can make a deal with your Dad that he'll match all or a portion of the money you save towards a car.

Don't forget to save money for gas, insurance and maintenance. A car is a big responsibility.

Answer 7

Just make a deal with him saying that for graduation he WILL you buy you a New car. You only have one year left so I'm sure you can handle it.

I graduate in '08 too and my mom is paying cash for a 2008 Scion TC for me. She doesn't have much money at all to waist away either. My brother got a New truck when he graduated so it's only fair that I get a New car.

Live With It Until Then...Catch Rides With Friends If You Want!

Why can't your mom help pitch in and pay for half of it? You're her daughter to you know.

P.S. He Doesn't Owe You Crap!!!

***Edit***

Sounds to me like he's a sorry a ss father! But hey, at least you still have yours.

How old are your brothers? They might be able to help if they have good paying jobs. But, it's really Not their problem!

***More Edit***

Yep, my brother is 26 and he can barely support himself, much less buy Me anything.

Yeah, I sometimes give rides to two of my friends because one doesn't get her license until August and the other has weird parents who Refuse to buy her a car. one lives near me and the other lives way on the other side of town. they're no trouble but it does get a bit old now and then. Shoot! I don't get no gas money from them!

your mom sounds like mine alot. she is actually Begging me to buy a ring when I really don't care to have one and she is Making me to go Prom. money is Very tight for us but she does her Best to not make me do without. hopefully after we sell our house it won't be as bad.

Answer 8

Your father does not owe you a car. And it's his money. If he wants to be tight with it, that's his choice.

At 16 years of age, you most certainly do not NEED a car. If your Mom can't get you to school on time, then you need to take the school bus or public transportation. It's time you grow up and start being responsible for yourself. You can ride your bike or walk to a job -- babysit, McDonalds, newspaper delivery, whatever!

Start learning to be independent and you will get much farther in life then being mad at Daddy.

Answer 9

you could do some research online.. find some statistics about teens with cars.. like what kind of grades they make.. and talk to him about it from a really adult point of view, you know?

just sit him down and be like.. "look dad, I'm worried about my mom because she's stressing out so much trying to get me where I'm going every day and I don't care if it's a used car, just so long as it's in halfway decent shape and RUNS!!"

then he'll listen to you... but if you whine or cry about it (or bring up past experiences with him and his money.. call him stingy perhaps?) he will just become so frustrated and angry with you that he won't listen to you again on the matter OR take your first attempt seriously.

hope I helped!

Answer 10

Lets see now.. you live in FL your dad lives in New York.. whose brilliant idea was that? Seems like you just think your dad is only good for a hand out. (No one should get paid for getting good grades!) Your mom taught you well, let her buy you the car.