Parents throw their children -- at any age -- out the door without concern on a daily basis, and never looking back.
The divorce rate is roughly 51%, which is more than half. If someone suggested that you undergo a surgical procedure that was successful less than half the time, you'd probably give great pause before deciding to do it.
Is unconditional love a pipe dream yet to be achieved among humanity?
2007-06-01 02:03:04 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am afraid so.
2007-06-01 02:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Two things:
1. Your first statement about parents is a generalization, and not a very good one. Maybe yours didn't, but most mothers definitely have unconditional love for their children, as do many, many fathers. I know my mom loved with with no conditions and has ALWAYS been there for me when I needed it, even at the expense of her own time, health, or even finances. Her love has been so unconditional that she is lucky I love her back enough not to take advantage! She has been less lucky with some of my sisters.
2. The divorce rate may be 51%, and that is not good, but what about the other 49%? I'm willing to bet that SOME of that 49% are couples that SHOULD probably get a divorce, no doubt. Certainly not ALL of them are like that. Look in your newspaper for a few weeks and see how many 30 and 40 and 50 year anniversaries are announced. It happens all the time. I, for one, am in a healthy and happy marriage. My wife and I both love each other unconditionally. Well, not totally. I have been informed that if I ever murder anyone, she'll dump me. :-P
I am 100% positive that you can easily find numerous other examples. You see it all the time. Your surgical analogy is a weak one, meanwhile, and doesn't prove a thing, because surgery is often a necessity, odds or not. Meanwhile, people play the lottery every day, knowing they have little chance of winning. The consequences of success are SO great that they throw their money away anyway. Love is kind of like that, but your odds of a successful marriage are actually pretty darned good in the overall scheme of things, because you have an impact on what happens. That makes it MUCH different than your surgery analogy OR my lottery example. In other words, you usually get out of a relationship what you put into it. I'm willing to bet that a lot of the people in the 51% didn't find unconditional love because they didn't supply it. It takes work and effort, and all too many people are not willing to put in that effort. What is sad, however, is when one person does and the other does not, but that is irrelevant to the question.
The thing is that your question is: Are humans truly capable of unconditional love? If there are any examples at all in all the world of unconditional love, then the answer is obviously YES. Humans are truly capable of it. I know I am. That said, being capable and actually accomplishing it are two different things.
2007-06-01 02:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I guess perhaps it's how you define love that is truly the heart of the question. The love between a child and a parent is different from the love between spouses, and the love between friends is different from both of those. The love between man and dog is different still. I personally do feel dogs are capable of love in some form, but it will never be the same as the love that exists in other kinds of relationships. There is no more or less, just different. I find that the relationship I have with my dogs is closer than any other relationship I have in my life. (primarily because I am not married and do not have children) I find one of the biggest reasons for this is because the canine species is far more observant than the human one. I also believe that the roll a dog plays in a persons life will dictate the kind of relationship a human has with that dog. Again, no relationship being more or less, just different. I don't feel dogs make any kind of choice to love unconditionally, I think it's the only way dogs love because the reasons humans conditionalize love are just plain irrelevant or unconsidered by dogs. I find love to be far more concerned with how a person feels about a relationship than how it is technically defined. A person can very easily feel loved by someone who, if you asked them flat out, would not necessarily say they love them. In my eyes, that doesn't take anything away from the fact that the person FEELS loved. Most importantly, I don't feel it's anyones place to tell someone they are not loved. I see no harm in a person feeling that way. I think it's much the same as telling someone they are wrong in regards to believing in god. If nobody is being harmed by their belief, it is not the place of an outsider to pass judgment. Until we can ask the dog if he loves us, feeling loved by a dog is truly a matter of faith.
2016-05-18 04:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe some people are Deke
I know that the situation I am in right now , I could only be in due to unconditional love
or I would have walked a long time ago
sadly , like anything else ...... we always here the horror stories about the love stories
the bad is always louder than the good
2007-06-01 02:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it is not a pipe dream. I love a woman with all my heart and would do anything for her, and she does not feel the same way about me, and I could care less. Because she is a spectacular person and worthy of my love. This is unconditional love.
I love my children unconditionally. When they are bad or good. I would love my child no matter what they said or did. I have no doubt in my mind on this matter at all. If my son turned out to be a sicko serial killer, I would still love him. I would not be too happy about his hobby, and I would turn him in to get him some much needed help, but I would STILL LOVE HIM.
2007-06-01 02:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by linehancomputerservices 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Capable of unconditional love?
If given the right setting...absolutely.
Love is built upon mutual admiration and respect, and a COMMITMENT toward working together for common goals.
When pressure is placed on people, as we see now in the business world where few are given their just payment for working hard, then this filters down and eventually corrupts the family unit and the little children as well.
Given a different environment where both parties have a job to do, and that job is defined as it once was, then it's conceivable that unconditional love as fostered by the traditional vows one gives in a religious ceremony...will be adhered to.
Given current conditions where business knows one thing, and one thing only, to downplay working people and to squeeze them in every which way...I expect increases in divorce/crime/dysfunction and general societal breakdown to escalate.
2007-06-01 02:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so, but people put too many rules on it to make themselves happy. Unconditional love comes with a lot of pain and anger. Real love happens even through the hard times.
My children can always come home. Of course I want them to make their own way in the world. But they can ALWAYS come home. That's what makes it home.
There are days I could cheerfully kill my husband and dance on his grave. But I get over it. We want more for our kids and for each other then to divorce. It takes two to be married and we know that. It sucks sometimes and there some MAJOR fights along the way. But in the end we do love each other and we both have to give something up. That's just life. Its not all about us and we know that. You can't be "me" oriented and live with people.
I think we can give unconditional love, we have just forgotten how. We aren't willing to put ourselves on the line to be hurt, get hurt, and deal with all the emotions that go along with it.
2007-06-01 02:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by ~Heathen Princess~ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I say
Everything we do we want something in return
or atleast anticipate
so unconditional love is difficult
Parents throw their children what is the rate and how many really dont care of children
2007-06-01 17:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by The More I learn The More I'm Uneducated 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'm more optimistic than I thought but I see unconditional love as genuine care and concern. Wanting the best for others even if it goes against your own beliefs, hopes,etc. I do think that is possible, just not likely.
2007-06-01 02:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by Aria 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unconditional love has been shown by a few humans. It is possible, but the ones who could did not have much sense of self - they overcame their personal egos.
How many are willing to give up their life story and ego?
~ Eric Putkonen
2007-06-01 02:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The divorce rate drops to less than 1% for couples who read the bible and pray together.
Unconditional love is not natural... it's SUPERnatural- it's source is from God. From God through Jesus. So it is that Born Again people (John 3:3) can learn to walk in that selfless self-sacrificing constant love towards others. Otherwise- it's not to be found... although mothers with their children comes staggeringly close at times.
Thanks for listening.
Ps. Larry Lombardi
www.wordoflove.org.nz
2007-06-01 02:06:58 · answer #11 · answered by baronbago 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋