2007-06-01 01:07:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is immaturity on their part (which may be why you split up with them). I find it kind of sad, because every second the person spends pining over what they lost is time wasted. I can understand making one attempt to get the person back. Call them, have a talk, and see what happens. After that, it is time to give it up. Sure, it hurts, but why waste your time perpetuating the pain? There are other potatoes out in the field. Take a short mourning period to be alone, and then occupy yourself and keep busy. The sooner you get out there and get active in doing things, the sooner you'll get over it. The sooner you get over it, the sooner you can start looking for the right replacement. A billion self-help books and therapists all say the same thing, so it is not like this is uncommon knowledge. So I have never understood why people are so obsessive.
Huh. When I read over this, I guess it basically comes down to this: I don't know the answer to your question! :-)
2007-06-01 01:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how long since the split up...
Most do move on after a "mourning" period.
Some, however have an OCD like compulsion to stick around. Which some feel flattered, others annoyed. Depends how you perceive it.
2007-06-01 08:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex harassed me for months after I left him, calling me at two in the morning, calling my parents to try and talk to me about leaving him for someone else, promising me things and just not accepting that it was over. Then about three months later, met up with me to sort some financial things out, I told him we would do that when he calmed down, and told me he was thinking of ending it anyway! Talk about saving face! I think it is just human nature, when we are not ready to let go, we try and hang onto it for as long as possible. I suppose I would have been the same if the tables had been turned. Acceptance is hard when you are not ready to let go.
2007-06-01 09:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way they will move on is if their ex is out of their life for good, no phone calls, no emails, no contact at all.
I am learning this the hard way, I just split up with my boyfriend and I've let him carry on living in my house while I moved out and have tried to stay in contact and stay friends. Big mistake - the sooner you are out of their life completely the sooner they can move on
2007-06-01 08:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a very complicated question...... when a person falls in love ( that you reather die with then live without), he will give a portion of his heart aspecially to that person he love (as how the saying goes "she/he stole my heart"). when that bond is severed, the persons heart will leave a dark mark that represent that event (the stolen portion was not return properly). it will never go away. EVER. that's how it is. so be carefull of giving the crutial answer of "yes or no" because you could be thieve if you dont return "it"..... it preaty much answer the question right? ........he will get used to the pain ...somehow... (ask him to mail me some time, i help him somehow)
2007-06-01 08:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by beyzta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats because the person still has feelings for his/her ex.
If theres no contact w that person at all,it MIGHT help.
Cus not thinking abt that person equals to feelings fading.
If the person doesnt have feelings for his/her ex anymore,that person will certainly move on.
If not,that person will still be thinking of his/her ex alll the time.
It happens really often.
2007-06-01 08:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not the fact that they don't move on they just got used to you being there in there lives for so long that is what it is my brother split up with his girlfriend after 6 yrs and he didn't love her but missed her only because he got used to her being there.
2007-06-01 08:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by baby dust for me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I often thought it was because I'm hung like a grand national winner, but now I just think it's to do with my chauvinistic charms and good personal hygiene.
2007-06-01 08:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Basil Cheesewrench 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person and how long they have been going out. If its a mutual break up this doesnt usually happen. If this is about you its not your fault your good looking and a brilliant person.
2007-06-01 08:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u mus never wore the shoes before dont worri u will some day everybody plays the fool at some point in life.
2007-06-01 08:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by getlowrgetlower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋