Why is it that parents of girls feel that their daughters are angels and all little boys devils?

Question

I am sick and tired of sother mum's discussing how wonderful their own daughters are and how the boys at school are always misbehaving. I have three boys and sure they are full on but they are just different to girls. i am tried of feeling I have to apologize for the behaviour of boys in general. My children are not spoilt and I raise them with a lot of discipline and love and care.

Answer 1

I have two little rambunctious boys (and I'm about to have a third) and sometimes, I think they are devils! My boys are good, well-behaved, polite, but sometimes they are so busy that I wonder if they are human. I agree, boys get a bad rap. A lot of people see that energy and movement as misbehavior and many parents of girls think that boys who don't quietly play house with a friend are somehow wrong. Maybe we should set up a swap, then we could have a day or two a week of the quiet neat play and those other parents could have a football game in the hallway. I think that maybe you have to be a special mom to understand that a full-field tackle and a grunt are an awesome good-morning hug.

Answer 2

I'm the mother of two boys and I get that attitude a lot, from parents of girls. It's frustrating and a little annoying because I feel the underlying message is either 'My daughter is better than your son' or 'Look what a good parent I am!' I come from a culture that values boys over girls most of the time, and I think maybe these comments have a touch of that in them as well...

I feel that it is in the nature of boys to be a little rumbunctious every now and then - more interested in physical activity that other quieter games. However, there are girls in my son's nursery school who are equally 'aggressive' - sometimes even more so! Kids have their own natures and personalities - no need to apologise for a little 'misbehavin' now and then! :)

Answer 3

Don't apologize! Just simply say "boys will be boys!" I have a 12 year old son and a 9 year old daughter. They are both great kids but my daughter can be as a little devil as my son and he can be the angel...seems they take turns! You sound like a great mom.....quit worrying about what others say and be happy! Oh and tell those worrying about why boys are always misbehaving.. to quit worrying about your boys that's what you are there for!

Answer 4

Rowan is a boy's call by utilising custom. even nevertheless that's getting used progressively greater by utilising women, i've got not got self belief that the prepare is yet commonplace adequate for it to have the status of a Unisex call, although that's honestly heading in that direction. i've got self belief that Rowen has a female sound, so i would not decide on it for a boy. i'm liking it further and extra as a woman's call and would evaluate it for a daughter (if there have been no longer this type of large sort of female names i admire greater valuable). As a established rule I dislike boy names on women; There are an exceedingly few exceptions and Rowen is one. custom is an exceptional element to be respected, yet whilst it determines absolute rule over our options, it establishes oppression and represses creativity and innovation. historic previous tells this tale from recorded time.

Answer 5

I have three little girls, and while they are far from angels, they are very well behaved. Are they well behaved because they are girls? No, they are well behaved because I have raised them with discipline, love and respect. I plan to raise my little boy (I am 21 weeks pregnant) hte same way.
I think that, unfortunately, many moms of boys allow them to run wild JUST BECAUSE they are boys! I mean, how many times have you heard a mother say "well, that's a boy for you"? Many parents are not consistent with discipline, and blame it on the sex of their child. Is that fair? No freakin way!
So, yes, a lot of little boys misbehave.... a lot of little girls misbehave! Just be consistent with your OWN childrne and to heck with everyone else!

Answer 6

Just remember to remind those same moms that girls are angels when their daughters turn into teenagers.

Boys may be energetic, and a handfull -- but a lot of girls turn evil towards mom during the teen years.

Answer 7

I understand what you mean. I have three boys and one daughter. My three boys put together are angels compared to my daughter. She is difficult and stubborn. In my opinion boys are easier to get along with. I love my daughter and many other girls, but they have a whole different set of demands then boys.

Answer 8

I think as parents we all understand how kids are! Whether girls of boys...all kids are different. They all have different feelings and needs, different friends and different qualities. If you're tired of feeling that you need to apologize for their behavior...then don't apologize! If it's a situation where they are misbehaving...have THEM apologize! I know where you're coming from...good luck!

Answer 9

<>Don't feel bad for those comments. I, too, had 3 boys and they got into some trouble growing up, but ti was really nothing at all. I've seen the attitudes of those parents of "perfect angel" daughters when they reached their teens and wanted to date. THEN the attitude changes fast! :)

Answer 10

I think that if you expect your boys to be wild. they will be. If you treat your sons and daughters similarly, they will behave in a similar fashion. My brother caused less trouble than I did. My mom and Dad treated us the same. I played football and baseball with my dad and brother. My brother played with toys along with me quietly, and enjoyed reading books and playing house (pretending to cook, garden) etc. We would wrestle and he would later want his GI joes to play with my My Little Ponies. My mom didn't want him outside all the time yelling and playing with fake guns and never let us watch cartoons that showed muscly anime characters battling one another. (If your children watch Cartoon Network or Nick, that is what they are seeing a lot of, "manly" violence) Kids learn by watching, by reward, and by imitation. If you reward rowdy "devilish behavior...well there ya go.

There is a line between being bad and just being a kid of course. I am not saying kids should be docile. They should not terrorize other people in stores or retaurants however. They should not endanger other kids lives. You get the picture.
Energy and enthusiasm= healthy.
Unchecked violence =something is wrong

My best friends three year old boy is not wild. He prefers playing with his toys and building blocks to throwing toys and screaming. He loves to bounce around, but is capable of knowing when to do so and will listen, even if he doesn't like it and cries a little before giving in.

I think the attitude and expectation that boys be like little men and girls like little women is quite silly. I hear the expression "He is all boy, my son" and I wonder if they were afraid someone would accuse them of raising a son doomed to be gay if they didn't raise a rough and tumble kid. It sounds so defensive.

It is our cultures perception and placement of gender roles on prepubescent children that is to blame. Not nature. I think it is nurture not nature.