Is it proper for the father of the bride who is hosting the reception to leave the non-smoking ballroom and go to the bar one floor down for a 45 minute cigar to celebrate the marriage.
During this time he will not be accessable to all guests at the reception. He looks at this as part of the celebration.
2007-05-31 18:24:21 · 21 answers · asked by weddingmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
After the father daughter dance and toast there isn't a lot of things that he would be needed for. It may seem like a really long time but 45 minutes can whip by especially over a drink or smoke. Let dad have some alone time. He'll be much happier when he gets back than if he stays there all night and doesn't smoke at all. Plus men have to process their happiness in different ways than men sometimes.
2007-05-31 19:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not appropriate to do unless the bride and groom have already left for the evening. He should wait until this time to do this. Besides, if he goes down for his super long cigar break before the happy couple has departed, he might miss something that he can never get back, such as the cutting of the cake, the garter or bouquet toss, a special song request, the bride and groom's departure, etc. I think it is a great idea to do the cigar at the bar, but only after the bride and groom have departed for the evening.
2007-06-04 15:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kirky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think 45 minutes is reasonable to smoke his cigar.
It's probably a 5 hour reception and it's a non-smoking ballroom so let the man have his cigar.
2007-06-01 01:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by cut-it-out 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let that poor man have his cigar! He raised a good girl, he's giving her(hopefully!)to a good man who's taking his baby off his hands, and if he's hosting the reception, I imagine that means he's paying for it, and I can bet he's paying a grip! Get all the important stuff out of the way, father/daughter dance, special speeches and toasts, and so forth, then let him do his thing. Besides, he WILL be accessible to all the guests--each time they stuff their faces, drink the liquor, or dance the the DJ he's paid for so his little girl can have her dream, special day.
2007-06-01 02:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by lanakael 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think once all the speeches, toasts, special dances, announces, meals are through; everyone should be let free to socialize as they wish. Once the dancing starts everyone should be up and socializing. I've been to weddings were I couldn't even keep tract of the bride or groom, b/c they were off in every direction. Once you spotted them, they were gone somewhere else. They were dancing, at the bar, chatting in the lobby, getting some fresh air outside
I don't see the problem, the poor guy probably paid for most of it anyway. He should enjoy it anyway he wishes.
2007-06-01 01:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to tell you the truth, I'd rather he smoked those big smelly things as far away from the wedding reception as possible. However I do think its rude to leave the reception for that long. Perhaps he could change to a smaller one, just for the day? Or have two smaller ones at different times so that the absences are not so long?
After all its only one day.
2007-06-01 01:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he's paying for it so he should get to go and have a cigar to celebrate. So what if he is not totally accessable to all of the guests. they know where he is and if they want to be with him then can go be with him. He and his pals want to celebrate with a smoke in the bar so what? leave the man alone to celebrate the way he wants to do it. He is right it is part of the celebration. Lighten up sweetie life is too short for this nonsense
2007-06-01 01:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i could see smoking a cigar to celebrate, but not for 45 minutes. there is so much going on at a wedding reception that people would hardly know that he was gone. however, 45 minutes is a bit long.
2007-06-01 01:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i dont see a problem with it. the bride and groom are the stars of the reception, not the father of the bride. if he wants to have a cigar, then let him. its no biggy.
2007-06-01 08:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by jenn_sr03 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO. If he plans to do that he should do it for 20 min or less and do that after the reception has been going on for 2 hours (after caking cutting and all important dances)
2007-06-01 23:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋