I wanna have true emotional sex with my girlfriend but when we do its like I am the only one that enjoys the whole idea. I mean she want to have a orgasm but every thing from licking her to toying, and actual humping she never has a actal orgasm. she is honest with me. she wants to have one but she dont know how to reach one. What do I do for her? Or is it for her to do for herself if so then tell me what I can say for her to do?
2007-05-31 17:54:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best way women have told me is to give it to herself. Alone at first by masturbating and later try with you. Women can become anxious and literally destroy the climax. Tension that they are not use to. It is better for her to explore her own body and determine if she is concentrating more on the "climax" rather than the pleasure alone. IT SHOULD COME NATURALLY--THERE IS NO SET METHOD OF REACHING ONE...IT JUST HAPPENS WHEN YOUR BODY IS READY.
To describe it to her: You get a pleasure from kissing...another type from breast stimulation...yet another type from outside stimulation of the v-jay v-jay (as Oprah Winfrey puts it.)...and still another from the canal itself. Each pleasure builds on top of the other and eventually, YOUR BODY OVERFLOWS!
If she really cannot accomplish this on her own or with you, and she feels it is important to do so, she should seriously seek sex therapy. It is invaluable for people who are not functioning sexually to THEIR satisfaction. Some insurance polices will also pay for the sessions. NO, THEY DO NOT DO THE NASTY TO HER!
2007-05-31 18:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she needs to b more educated about sex first. as far as i can see it, i think she doesn't know much about sex, coz if she really knows how it happens(the feeling of it) then i bet she wil enjoy more n she wil ask u for more too. usually most indian girls hardly know much about sex, ask her to read in some educaitonal sites on the net or she can visit parenting.com or some sites like that where in she has the whole idea of how to have it or things like that coz i kwn its her first time with u.
yes, so thats the first step of the whole thing,after she is done with that then i think u guys can go for it, when u guys r ready for the D-day then i think a lot of foreplay is required n then once she has the orgasm then i bet now she wil b ready for it coz she knows wat exactly to do n wat happens hence forth.
i also think may b she is apprehensive abt having sex,for her own reasons like getting pregnant n stuff so have safe sex n u better talk it out with her wat her exact problem is, since u said she is very frank with u,(thats very nice of both u) so u guys should talk n i sware things wil b fine.
try this out n i think everything wil b alright,dont worry but all u have to do is educate her a little more abt sex either u talk to her abt it or let her read some stuff abt it (which is the better way), dont worry dude u guys wil definetly enjoy it n hope u have long lasting relation with her, all the best!!! Have Fun! Cheers!!!
2007-05-31 18:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by gul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two suggestions:
1. Try stimulating her clit while you are having sex.
2. Some girls just honestly don't know how to have an orgasm. By using ben wa balls, a girl can "learn" how to have more orgasms. http://www.edenfantasys.com/ProductDetails.aspx?pid=5727&view=&lpres=toys#pcode-3V1
(I own this exact kind... they're amazing!)
2007-06-04 04:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the foreplay! Ask her what she wants and even if it involves a little role playing do it! You could even try asking her if there is something you are doing wrong or if there is something wrong with you (physically).
Well, Good Luck!!!
2007-05-31 17:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by DJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her in the mood first. Take her to a all you can eat sea food resturaunt.
2007-05-31 17:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like me so if you use your hand to hold you up and the other to stimulate her while humping as you call it she will and wow will you be her hero...........
2007-05-31 17:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest with you maybe you need to try harder....and you should really ask her what she likes....it will be easier for you if you know,and you should ask her to tell you when you do something that she likes that should really help....hope every thing works out for you...
2007-05-31 18:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to Sue, www.talksex.com
Good luck!
2007-05-31 17:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only 2 percent of girls can actually orsgasm duribg sex. it sucks right?
2007-05-31 17:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try watching porn during sex. That might get her off.
2007-05-31 18:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by tonysmith53214 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋