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Question

im pretty sure my brother already ask but only one person answered him. so now im asking on his behalf.
how can i ask he asked his fiance's dad for her hand in marriage hes a very strick guy and he wont even let her date and shes 21. she's still living with him until he comes home from the army, which is next month and there planning on getting married but he already know her father will not give them his blessing,he just need to know there dropping the big M word on him should they take him out to diner so if he starts to yell they could just leave its just he have no clue on how to tell him he's been dating hes daughter since she was 19 and now he wanna marry her. he hates african america and the shi t is hes black too but from the caribbean. so help my brother out please.

Answer 1

can your broher bring someone who can be his moral support? like your mom, aunt, uncle who can help him explain to the dad of his good intention. your brother needs to be a man to stand up for the dad. let the dad know that he is really sincere and loves his daughter. if dad starts yelling, let him vent it out. and your brother should just be quiet to prove to dad that he respects him no matter what.

Answer 2

I gather your brother isn't going to get a good reception from his fiances father. Hmmm...If she is 21 it is her decision but it could end up destroying her family because of it. If her father is a person who is adament about (hates) african americans./black ppl...and he's from the caribbean*..this probably won't go over well. But I would imagine the fiance Knew all of this when she fell in love with her fiance. She's wanting to go through with the wedding and her father is just going to have to accept it * or not. He may not like it..but he'll have to accept it. It is still good to ask her father for his daughters hand in marriage just out of respect.....but don't think i've come across someone say NO* you can't have my daughters hand in marriage...The daughter will then have to sit down with her father and say how much she loves her fiance and this is who she wants to marry* He will throw questions at her as to why she's hid this since she was 19....etc.....but she and your brother will have to say together that you love each other and you're wanting to spend your lives together*~ BEST WISHES* (i would suggest doing it in his home..if this is the first time he's meeting his daughters FIANCE whom he didn't even know she had a boyrfriend for the past 2 yrs let alone is getting married and to a black man.....I don't think it's fair to put him in that situation out in public..but YES be, prepared to be asked to leave. I hope it doesn't go that way for them both* i honestly hope he respects his daughter enough to allow her to be who she is and be with who she chooses to at 21yrs of age* She can do as she pleases.....BEST WISHES*to them~

Answer 3

Well Think about this what do you want and what do you think he wants but if takes it the other way and you lose your very good friendship that would be a bad thing but you need to do what you want and feel you need to do. If he trusts you about a gf then why not I've never seen 2 people so close but not that close. Don't be afraid to show that u love him its a natural emotion and im sure unless hes a major jacka** we will come back to you like 2 magnets and you don't know if he wants to get back together with you so good luck and i wish you the best.

Answer 4

Hi!!! your bro must be so nervous. Where is the girls mom? Does she approve? I would gather up all the people that approve (like family members.. her mom and siblings and maybe even your parents -and you) and have a dinner. Something at home... maybe a BBQ and then once everyone is kinds comfortable, break the news. In a family atmosphere, he might not be so quick to freak out and if he does, then at least it is not in a huge public restaurant. Tell your brother to be honest about his feelings for his girlfriend and most importantly LOOK THE DAD IN THE EYES!!!!!! Good luck.... I'm dying to know how it all ends!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

I think all the parents always want their kids meet the good person and they can take care their kids well too. However, the dad of your sister-in -law wants like this too and if your brother have a really love for his daughter and I hope he can accept him become his son too. But if he didn't want to do that you can tell your brother to talk with him that he can take care his daughter well and can find the happiness for her forever and He will give the M word to your brother.
I hope he can accept your brother.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

It's hard to let go of your little girl or 21 year old girl. He probably feels like no one is good enough for his daughter. If she really loves your brother she should be honest with her father. If she tells him how much she loves him and he is good to her, then maybe he will respect his daughters feelings. She needs to be the one really doing the talking.

Answer 7

They can get married real cheap in Vegas. They can get plane tickets for less than $100 each, get married in a drive-through wedding, and be back home in under 24 hours. Then tell the new father-in-law that he's an anal retentive medieval racist pig.

Answer 8

actually I'm not really understand what's the background of Ur story,but i wanna try to help.
you/Ur brother can find another person, which is closed to his fiance's father or maybe a member of extended family. then,you can ask his/her to talk to the father and help Ur bro's to get his aim. besides that Ur brother must do every way (any kind of way),to persuade the father,maybe with good attitude, bring something he likes, help him at his work,so on. ur bro's also must be patient and tough. dont givin up too easily.

Answer 9

If she is 21 she doesn't need her dads permission or his blessing. It doesn't matter if he hates african americans or not, he doesn't have to date them. If I were her, I'd get out of that house fast. She is entitled to her own life. He can't stop her from marrying anyone, she is a legal adult.

Answer 10

Your bro, fiance, and dad should get together and talk.
Sure the dad is strict and has race issues, but your bro shouldn't back down. his fiance and him should fight for their love and stand their grown. Of course he'll be upset, but tell your bro...isn't it worth it to be with the woman of his dreams?

Good Luck!

P.S
Your bro also shouldn't run off with his fiance, then he would be even more trouble. It's better to face his problems than running away from them