Guys & Independent Women?

Question

Are guys intimidated/turned off/unattracted by women who are independent, strong, level-headed...and women who do not ever want kids...who do not want to ever marry...who don't want to join bank accounts or anything for that matter?

I mean, why are guys offended when I tell them that 1) i don't plan on ever having kids 2) i don't ever want to marry, but am willing to 'commit' in a long-term relationship 3) don't want to join bank accounts, lease, or anything legal/monetary 4) if u can't handle that, leave now....i mean--it's called honesty, which in my opinion is the best policy

Are there any women out there who see my point of view? I just don't want the typical dream of marriage w/ kids, big house w/ white picket fence...and a golden retriever...sorry, no offense to those who have...but, are there guys out there who actually have mutual perspectives and lifestyles?

i never said i had commitment issues; i just don't think that signing a piece of paper and financially obligating and controlling each other is token of my 'love/feelings' for the person...nor is giving him a kid.

there are so many women who give their men ultimatums to get married and have kids or pack up and ship out...i'm just the opposite--don't obligate ME to marry or have kids...but that doesn't mean we can't be faithful & loving...or be monogamous. i don't see the correlation between marriage & fidelity...don't u start off as bf/gf...aren't u supposed to be faithful even BEFORE marriage?

Answer 1

Amen. I used to think that when I was young. But now I don't mind the thought of marriage and children for myself. But I hear ya girl! I want my own life before all that. A lot of men can't handle it. IT takes an equally strong man to understand a strong, willful, ambitious, opinionated, knows what she wants kind of woman. We're just not the flip your hair, buy me a diamond type. Some men can take it, but many can't. It's just how society has assigned us our gender roles and it's hard to think outside the box sometimes...

Answer 2

I'm sure there are lots of men who would like a committed relationship with no marriage or kids and especially no joint accounts. Most men worry about losing everything in a divorce and this should be an easy way out of it. Personally I think you are going to have a lonely sad life. You are saying no kids, no marriage, etc., but how can you say never till you meet the right man, you might change your mind. Love does strange things to a person. I am married and very independent and my husband loves me for it. You just need to find the right man

Answer 3

As long as they aren't a ball-breaker or overly-dominant, I like women I can respect - so yes. Some men like to be submissive, but I come from a family of argumentative, stubborn people who have opinions, so I like both rest from that and the challenge... If they only ever wear trousers, act a bit too masculine etc, then it's a turn off, personally. It's not the independence or strength factor.

Answer 4

It does depend on the guy, i could live with the commitment and no marriage.
separate accounts is fine as long as we're on an equal footing, I live with the joint account and being dictated to what i can spend and not spend no skin of my nose, however, one would start questioning commitment if you don't want to tie yourself into the relationship in anyway physical

I'd have come unstuck with no kids knowing what i know after having them.

Yep honest is the best policy, but come on have you not told any of those little white lies so as not to offend someone?

To be honest I'd have enjoyed having someone else taking control of my life in parts.

But chances are the type of guy your looking for is likely not to be monogamous, instinct wouldn't allow it commitment without physical proof is no deterrent for him not to wander, and i have to be honest all blokes would have the same problem without the vows, physical pieces and kids.

Of course the flip side is your so stunningly beautiful that my life would be a dream and I'd never question anything except where your going who you seeing, I'm coming with you. End result we can all see.

My opinion on what I think I would do, and no slight intended on those men who think they could stay faithful in these circumstances.

Answer 5

Good for you, do you get the point that you are all about you and what you want.

Did you ever think that guys might want a women that is more concerned with being nice than independant. Most men do want a family and to be a father someday. Maybe they should be more concerned that a women be a good mom than have a great job.

So don't crack on them because they won't wast there time on you.
Go find some selfish boy that want's pus** with no obligation and you be set.

Answer 6

I think it would be cool to have a completely independent woman, that wanted nothing from me financially and was willing to be commited to me without having to be married. How cool would that be. Unfortunately you would not want me as I already have two children. But i do not have any intention of having more childrens. I love the ones I have but do not want more.

Answer 7

Only weak men don't like strong women. Or the very old fashioned type. I like strong women and it seems that the only ones I have chemistry with are strong women. They are either my greatest friend or my greatest enemy but, at least, either way, they are strong and lively and therefore interesting.

Answer 8

sounds to me like you don't want a relationship at all, you just want friends. if there is no future in store than i don't think any one would want to date you. it would be a waist of time. at some point a guy wants stability. it good that you are honest and i'm sure there is someone out there that just wants a booty call. seems like that is all you want to offer. (you did not have that on your list).

Answer 9

depends on the guy