Should I be worried that I am 14 and have never had a boyfriend before but I don't really want one?? Should I be worried that I might not get a bf in high school because I live in a small town? When did you first start dating and when did you get your first bf or gf?
I have another question: Is it weird that I feel VERY embarassed if I say "he is hott" in front of my parents? My other friends have no problem sharing their feelings about guys to their parents but I can't. I can ONLY talk about guys to my friends, it is SO uncomfortable talking with my parents about them.....will they start thinking i am a lesbian?
2007-05-31 17:36:15 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would feel embarassed about saying someone is hot in front of my parents. It is not weird at all that you have never had a bf. I wasn't really interested in wanting a bf either when I was 14. I thought that guys were hot and had crushes but never really was interested in wanting a bf. I started talking to guys when I was 17. And had my first bf when I was 18 and I am 27 now and am still with my first bf. We are getting married in April. Don't worry about boys now. You are still young and have plenty of time to explore when you are ready. No one thought that I was a lesbian. I don't think that you should worry about that.
2007-05-31 17:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should not be worried!!!!!!!! You will have a boyfriend when it is the right time for you. I liked a couple of guys a LOT that didn't like me back in the same way and I was almost 16 before I had a real, going out kind of boyfriend. My oldest daughter is going to be 17 in July and is petite and blond and super smart but has not had real boyfriend yet either.
She doesn't say much about guys in front of me, and gets embarassed if I say someone is hot or turns me on. It is just who she is! And it is okay if you don't say much about guys in front of your parents. As long as you share the fact you have a special guy when it happens.
And I've been open with my kids about homosexuality.If any of them are gay, well so what! How you feel about your sexual preferences and who you are truly attracted to is your right and only you can know how your family might react to your orientation.
Give yourself some time! Whatever is supposed to happen will come to be when the time is right. You can't rush it.
2007-06-01 01:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, don't be worried. I know several girls who went through college and never dated. They knew what they wanted out of life and were not willing to give the time to a boy who would waste it. Don't worry about getting a boyfriend in high school. If you did, he most likely would be young, immature and might not be able to give you a good future.
I'm 24 now and I dated a very little bit in high school, hardly at all actually. I didn't like the high school guys, because most of the time they acted dumb. In fact, some of the guys I knew back then still act dumb. I dated occasionally in order to find out what I liked and what I didn't like. I really started dating when I was 21, almost 22. The reason I started dating intensely then, was to find someone I could marry. The dating scene gets real old, real quick when you realize that some guys don't grow up. Now I think I've found him. He's 28 and we've been dating for four months Tuesday and I'm very sure that we're going to make it. Can you believe my longest relationship was only ever six months? I don't suffer fools lightly. So honey, if you're like me, you have ten years to go. Don't worry about finding someone now.
As to your second question, no they won't. They know you're interested. Don't overanalyze and be content with who you are as a person. You're at the very beginning of being a woman. It's a wonderful world and you definitely can't learn everything there is to know all at once.
I wish you luck!
2007-06-01 00:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Elena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am kinda happy for you that you do not have a boyfriend yet. Enjoy your friends and have fun. Boys and all that good stuff will come later. It's okay to like a boy and if a boy likes you, I'm not saying to not have a boyfriend so if the opportunity comes then if u feel like u can handle a boyfriend then go for it. And as far as being uncomfortable to say things about boys in front if your parents, don't worry about that. they are probably glad that you don't. Some parents are not ready for their 14 yr old to start talking about boys. And just because you do not have a boyfriend should not make anyone think that you are a lesbian. Not your friends and especially not your parents. So go outside, play some sports, hang out at the pool and have a wonderful summer!!!
2007-06-01 00:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by who are you anyway?? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, lots going on in this question. I will try because this one hits home. My wife and I are completely different in this one. I had already had sex by the end of high school. My wife didn't have her first boyfriend until her second year of college. She was a gymnast and just wasn't interested, nor did she have time. It is ok to not be interested. The fact that you think some guys are hot tells me you will be ok later on. No need to rush it. As for the small town bit, be patient, there is a whole big world out there, the right guy is out there waiting for you. Had I met my wife two years earlier than I did, we would have never gotten along. About the thing with your parents...mine actually did think I was gay because I never talked about girls with them. It is ok, they will still love you, they are your parents. Just be yourself and when your ready it will work out. Just know that you can talk to your parents, trust me, they will love you no matter what. They are smarter than you give them credit for.
2007-06-01 00:45:54 · answer #5 · answered by BRAD H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answering in order to your question~
:1st of all you don't need a man by your side just to make you happy
:2nd As long as you have your friends you'll survive thru high school, I live in a small town
:3rd I got my first boyfriend in grade 8 I was 13 years old
:4th if you feel uncomfortable talking around your 'rents about boys. Because there are some things you gotta keep to ya self and don't worry what others think of you
I survived thru 9, 10, 11, and now in grade 12 I think I should just be lonely for the rest of my life...
2007-06-01 00:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by Shanny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you're just fine.
My daughter show me very little interest in boys as she grew up. I only know of one real date while she was in high school. Not much changed while she attended Jr. College. At a point, I had a talk with her telling I love her regardless of what sexual orientation she maybe. She finally transferred to a 4 year college. Within 6 months, she found a job. Through this job, she found a boy friend. Within 6 months, she moved in with her boyfriend.
Talk with you parents. Whether or not, it is about a boy being hot or you want to know something. I'm sure the are willing and waiting to answer your questions about relationships.
2007-06-01 01:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't really want a boyfriend, then you should you worry about it. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable about saying things in front of your parents. If so then don't say it. I'm sure your parents love you and want you to feel confident to talk in front of them. There is nothing wrong with talking to them to see how they feel and being on the same page.
2007-06-01 00:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by TLHGSS6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For 14 it's pretty normal to think about guys and how cute they are...don't worry about getting a boyfriend in high school it's tto soon to tell. I mean when I was in high school peop;e had boyfriends or girlfriends who I least expected to actually have one. Just try to be outgoing and not so shy.
For your parents...uhhhh well if your parents don't act too weird then it should be cool, but if they're really uptight then maybe you should slowly incorporate it, let your parents know how you really are.
2007-06-01 00:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by orejitas285 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way, & I was a cute girl (now I'm a cute woman!)!
I went on 1 date in HS, w/ an older guy & it lasted all of 1 week. My crush also asked me out a couple times but he just wanted 1 thing so I quit liking him REAL quick.
My first REAL BF I was 18, in college. First guy I had sex w/ too.
I HATED talking about boys in front of my parents. It depends on the relationship. My friends would talk about guys & parties...not me. You're parents won't think you're a lesbian unless you start dating girls. ;) Your parents don't EXPECT you to talk about boys, they just want you to be honest about things that trouble you.
2007-06-01 00:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by mkt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋