I met this lovely man from an online dating service, we have met, and clicked, my worry is his profile is?

Question

still active, and Im sure he is chatting with other women, I have confronted him, he tells me hes not, what do I do?

Answer 1

I met my husband the same way. His was active for a while, too.

The best thing to do is to stop looking. Guys are a lot sloppier than women when it comes to this sort of stuff. When we find Mr. Right, we almost ceremoniously take down our profiles and consider it taking the relationship to another level. I remember exactly when I decided to take mine down after being with my guy for a while, and my active one wasn't even on a site he knew about.

You should trust your gut about the guy in other ways. If everything else is fine, don't press the issue. If something smells like $hit, he's probably full of just that.

In my husband's case, I think it was just a combination of carelessness and maybe a tiny bit of desire to still feel free and in control of his options should anything go wrong with us.

Answer 2

I had the exact smae problem.

And when i confronted him about it - he said he couldnt remember his password to remove his listing.

So a month went by and I checked it again and it was still there... So I set up a new profile with a different photo and contact details etc.

Anyway, he took the bait and contacted the 'new me' and when i confronted him about it again, he told me that I was sneaky and untrustworthy and that he didnt want to see me again.

I pray that you are not in Sydney and are not with the same guy!

If in doubt - do what I did. All you need is a new hotmail address and a photo to put up.

Sneaky? NOT AT ALL - you just cant trust the internet!

Answer 3

With some online services you pay ahead for your account. His may still show active because his membership has not run out.
Or he may be leaving his options open. You have just met and he may not be sure about how things are going to go. He could be sending the standard- I've met someone and am pursuing this relationship-kind of answer.

Relax, enjoy his company and see where things take you!

Answer 4

Have you discussed your desire for exclusivity?

You can't assume that because you've "clicked" means he thinks of you as his girlfriend. He might feel he likes you a lot, but possibly isn't sure.

Maybe he is chatting, but only cultivating friendships.

Maybe he isn't ready to make any commitments, or get into an exclusive relationship. Maybe he wants to date several people for a while to see who's out there.

These are all things you need to talk to him about.

Answer 5

Well, it is called dating. Of course for now he is chatting with other women ( for now), What gives you the right to confront him? You did not say how long you have dated. Relax, if your the one he will not date the others...Enjoy

Answer 6

First I know a lot of people like to keep their profiles up "just in case." Kind of like a back up plan...in case you guys don't work out, or because guys are very selfish, just in case there is something else better out there. Depending on how long you guys have been seeing each other....I would just tell him hey you still having your profile up concerns me, and I feel that you aren't completely happy with what we have. And that you don't have yours up. Just make it about your feelings, and don't accuse him of anything....

And if he still doesn't want to take it down....he's either just not into you or he doesn't want to be tied down...get rid of him

Answer 7

Umm.. You either each commit to a relationship or you don't. I met my hubby online & neither of us took down our profile, we just ignored it, I'm sure they were activel ong after we quit checking in.

My advice would be to trust him until he gives you a reason not to. An old profile on a dating site is not grounds in my opinion.

Answer 8

My goodness if you just met him, he is allowed to talk to and date other women. You aren't engaged or even serious yet. You are going to drive him away. Until he knows you are the one for him, why not chat with others, there is nothing wrong with it. You have no attachement to him.

Answer 9

This is very common in online dating. People lie all the time.

We all want to be happy and still find numerous reasons to stay unhappy, this definitely is one of common reasons.

I would suggest, you donot get serious at all. Since he is still chatting with other women, he is, actually, exploring his options and will take the best one avaiable.

Hope this helps you.

Good Luck.

Answer 10

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