2007-05-31 17:29:37 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
How rough is rough? If he is leaving bruises then I would recommend talking to him about easing up some. Otherwise, calm down, its good for them to rough house some. My father did it with my sisters and I all the time when we were younger. It was a bonding experience. You have to trust your husband to keep your son safe. Dont worry about the horsing around until he actually gets hurt, then you both know that they have gone to far. Keep in mind this time is preperation for playing baseball, basketball, and football when he gets older. If he cant take some roughing the other boys are going to tease him and that will be harder to deal with than watching your husband play a little rough. Let the boys enjoy their fun and know that you get to bond with your son in different ways and that they are equally special to him. Also, know that every woman he dates he compares to you and thats a high standard for them to live up to. Enjoy your son while you can, he wont be little for long.
2007-05-31 17:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by Beth W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't watch.
Playing rough with dad is the best thing a son can do. The rule is, 'don't break anything'. If they end up with a cut or a bruise, fantastic, that's part of rough play!
Don't molly coddle your boys; their wives will not thank you for it!
There's not enough rough play between dads and boys, we've replaced horsing around and bonding with XBOX and big tvs.
Let them be.
2007-05-31 19:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is how boys are, men do not usually fully mature until they are 40 years old. As long as it remains play, and the child is not screaming for him to stop (which is when any parent should), or hurting the child. Then there is nothing to worry about, look at it from their point of view, join in on the fun, then you can see for yourself it is really quite harmless.
To dustyseedling- there are young people who use this site, have some decency about you, that language is appalling
2007-05-31 17:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' think it is a big deal UNLESS the child says 'no' or 'ouch' and he doesn't stop. If the child tends to get hurt alot (playing rough, someone usually gets hurt), then I would talk to him. BUT he is the dad. If he was an uncle, someone that was not a parent, then your parenting rules are first and foremost, but since he also is the parent, you can't do much if the child is having fun and has control and respect as to when he/she has had enough
2007-05-31 17:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be really non-judgmental and step back and really view the situation. If he is just playing a little rough (often dads play rougher than moms) and your son seems ok with it, don't worry. If it is scaring your son, if he gets hurt, always crys with the playing or if he really seems bothered by the play, then you have to be your sons advocate and put a stop to it.
2007-05-31 17:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
as long as no ones is ending up with a bunch of cuts and bruises and it's just playing it's actually good for little boys to be rough houseing with daddy.
guys are soo much diffrent from girls and thats how they show affection. it will help them bond.
just make sure your husband knows the limit's and that you don't want to see it go too far
2007-05-31 17:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by kblondelover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm how old is your son and how rough is the play... because rough play is NOT ok... it is dangerous and teaches children (especially boys) that to be a man means to be macho and ego based...
I have a friend who's son almost died because of horseplay...he ended up with a ruptured spleen and in ICU for a long time...all because of mimicking the wrestling movies from tv and some of the fight scenes from super heros and other violent shows... he was 10 when it happened and spent a year unable to do any activity at all after his injury...
it is ignorant to have the attitude that boys will be boys...
it is our responsibility as parents to teach them to find the fun in safe play and in using their imaginations...
violence is not a game and rough play is violent
2007-06-01 11:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberlie H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as they are all having fun, and your sons understand that it's something to be done with dad and not to any kids that walks by, it's all good.
Don't watch! GO somewhere else in the house and enjoy a bit of quiet time. As a mom I know there's never enough quiet time. So enjoy the break while you can.
2007-05-31 17:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Мəəĸά 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Father and son play rough all the time
As long as your husband isn't like beating him he it is alright. Roughhousing is sort of male-bonding between them
2007-05-31 17:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by a person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem.. as long as no one is playing too rough, no one is getting hurt and nothing is getting broken...
I suggest you just not watch.
Boys (including the Daddy boy) play rough, it's how they bond.
Tough to see though...
2007-05-31 17:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by SweetElf 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋