how can i convince my mom...?

Question

to let me get my tongue pierced? The only reason she doesn't want me to get one is because its "euuhhh so gross". So I think I can convince her.. I said to her something along the lines of, "Mom you just think that cuz you grew up when it WAS gross, but now its so common and I think its really cute". I also told her I just want it for me, not to impress anyone or fit in or anything. then she said she would think about it. Oh I also told her it was the least painful you can get.. she let me get my bellybutton pierced when I was 13, (now i'm 15) but she told me at the time that I couldn't get anymore piercings or anything til I"m 18. But recently I've been going through a lot and I"m not gonna be able to have a party or anything for my sweet 16 so I think she's coming around so that I can have SOMETHING eventful for my birthday. So I think its a convinceable thing, I'm just not sure what else I should say to do it. Oh and, does it hurt?

i would pay for it myself, fyi

to surreal_survivor, the whole job thing is the exact reason why I would prefer a tongue piercing over a tattoo for my birthday because believe it or not you can take it out.

Answer 1

It doesn't really hurt, it's short and swift!..lol. But anyway, I would just let your mom know that getting your tongue pierced isn't something like getting a tattoo. It isn't permanent. You can always remove it if you wished to do so. The aftercare is really important though as you would know since you had your navel pierced. Just make sure that you have a fresh cup of shaved ice right after wards to suck on and it won't swell. It's a secret I learned when I got mine done that works wonders every time. And you're right, getting your tongue pierced isn't gross, everyone has their own opinion but it's all in personal taste. I say you should go for it, just tell mom that you want it to be something for you and her to experience together a mother/daughter moment ....lol. Good Luck Hon!

Answer 2

Here's what I would do. First of all, asking her a million times will make her agrivated. Try a more mature route. For example, have you taken good care of your belly button piercing? Point that out. Do your research about after care on this one too. Good for you for paying for it on your own. Make sure she knows that. Since last time you got something pierced, she told you no more until you're 18, you're going to have to work harder to convince her. You can try telling you won't get anything else until you're 18, but since she told you that earlier, I don't think it'll work that well. Maybe make a deal that if she'll sign for you, you'll pick up some more chores around the house? Or something else equally important to her. You can also tell her that you plan to do it when you're 18, but that you'd feel much better if you had her permission. Also, tell her you want her to be there so she can double check on the cleanliness of the place to make sure you're not just overly excited. The last part may not be entirely true, but it'd give her a good reason to want to take you, and she'll feel like she's still a part of your life, etc. I'd save the "it's something special/meaningful for my birthday" as a last resort. Don't guilt her into it if you can help it. The two of you will end up with a much better relationship if you don't guilt her into it which can lead to her seeing your side of things more often later in life. Trust me when I say, that'd be a good thing. :)

Now absolute worst case scenario: she still won't let you. As much as you want this, back down respectfully. Don't hate her for it. If you can show you can be mature about it, and not whine and complain, she'll be much more likely to let you do it when you ask her again a few months later.

Answer 3

From a professional, don't do it. Wait until you are older. Yes it is a temporary thing, and you can remove it whenever you get tired of it, but just wait. I refuse to pierce anyone under the age of 18 even with parental consent if it is anything other than ears, and I have my reasons.

First off, to answer your question about "does it hurt?". Yes tongue piercings hurt, more so than belly buttons. The tongue is a muscle, with an abundance of nerve endings.

Here is a link to BME's page dedicated to information about tongue piercings, it gives a complete run down of everything you could need to know, the risks, the procedure, everything. There is a good bit of information there including the background of the tongue ring and everything, which may aid you in talking your mother into this. I still say you should wait, but if you must, at least you want to do it professionally instead of at home like an idiot...

Heres the link : http://wiki.bmezine.com/index.php/Tongue_Piercing

Answer 4

well first the easiest part to answer-you are taking a needle and putting it through your tongue, don't ask if it hurts-that is a redundant question, ask how much it hurts. that is a reasonable question.

how about being responsible and getting info on how to care for it after it is done, this will show your mom that you are being responsible about this and you are taking it seriously.

i would really stop using the word cute to describe it, cause that sounds like it is just a trend that you are following. try researching it and see where it started, what it's significance is. let her know that you are serious, and that this is something that you really want. don't say how your friends have it, don't remind her that you wont be having a party or anything-don't try using guilt to get your way.

sit mom down and give her the info you have, where it came from, how to care for it, the reasons that you want this for yourself(not just a trendy thing) and then say that you will respect her decision no matter what it is, and leave her to make it. and stick to it, don't whine if she says no. be an adult, and let her see that.

Answer 5

All I can say is just keep at asking her. Thats what I did when I was thirteen, for a nose piercing and also this year when I turned 16 for a monroe. But seriously, I think you are kinda young for a tongue peircing, my mom said I had to wait until I was 18 too.

Answer 6

LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER!
If she doesnt want you to do it because she does not like the way it looks.
Like it or not, you are a reflection of your family. WHat if your mother decided to dye her hair purple and come to the school and pick you up with that hair and a mini skirt on...? How would you feel. Maybe your mother feels like that about the tounge ring.
Just because you cant see it, that is HER reality and you should respect it. furthermore, just because it is 'common' is not a very good reason to do it.
Having a baby at 15 is getting pretty common these days and it is my hope that you dont choose that! Part of growing up is realizing your actions do impact others. If your mother feels that it would look bad, she thinks that it would also reflect your family badly. How many times have you seen something on someone and made inferences about family and homelife?
Have you ever seen the kids that wear the goth clothing? Dont you feel a certain way when you see them? what about spiked hair or golden teeth?
As far as the pain>
I would imagine it will hurt
how could it not! Have you ever bit your tounge (after going to the dentist for example? it hurt like hell when I did it)

Still thinking about doing it?
How about your mom with purple hair in the mini skirt with NO PANTIES and hooker boots!

Answer 7

well, it may sound 'cool' right now at your age but you really need to think about your future and if this is something you want when you are older ...ie ... when you are job hunting etc. i don't think it will go over well with businesses or companies you want to work for. imo ... tongue piercing is a fad ... please think it over ... there are a ton of things you can do for your Sweet 16 ... a totally new hair style or color/highlights etc. something that you won't regret later on in life. Choose something that will accentuate YOU and not make you stand out as someone 'different'.

Answer 8

Tongue piercings are most often pierced with straight barbell style jewelry. Due to the amount of action and movement that the tongue is involved with (speech, eating, kissing, etc...), jewelry size and comfort is especially important.An uncommon version of this piercing will be close to the tip of the tongue, and a captive bead ring, may be worn in it. This placement and jewelry choice is uncommon because it is much more likely to cause discomfort and damage the teeth and gums.

A tongue piercing is a piercing through the tongue. A single piercing in the center of the tongue is the most common form of this piercing, but multiple piercings are also possible. When done with the correct equipment, the piercing itself is not as painful as might be expected: like most piercings, the pain, while it can be quite intense, is fleeting. A mild degree of soreness afterward can be expected to last up to a day. However, a large amount of swelling in the (3-7) days afterwards will occur and can be extremely uncomfortable.

Recently expert shown that tongue piercings may cause the stabbing pains in face just like electrical shocks that lasted 10 to 30 seconds and struck 20 to 30 times a day. Here is a history of a teen girl who had tongue piercings:

Her doctors diagnosed trigeminal neuralgia, a nerve disorder sometimes called "suicide disease" because of the excruciating and dispiriting pain it causes.

Doctors tried painkillers, then stronger medication, but in the end, a cure proved more simple:
The young woman removed the metal stud from her pierced tongue.Two days later her pain vanished.

Here indicated some life-threatening, linked to tongue piercing.Other problems include tetanus, heart infections, brain abscess, chipped teeth and receding gums. One woman developed so much scar tissue that it resembled what she called a "second tongue."

In the newly reported case, the young Italian woman's mouth jewelry apparently irritated a nerve
running along the jaw under her tongue. That nerve is connected to the trigeminal nerve, one of the
largest in the head.

"There are people who have been dropped to their knees" by trigeminal neuralgia, said Alana Greca, a registered nurse and director of patient support for the Trigeminal Neuralgia Association. "That's
how intense and how horrendous the pain can be."

The teenager is lucky her pain disappeared, Greca said."Certainly, this was an isolated case, an extremely rare complication of this kind of piercing," said Dr. Marcelo Galarza, a neurosurgeon at Villa Maria Cecilia Hospital in Ravenna, Italy, who reported the case to the journal.

The tongue is "a particularly dangerous place to pierce" because it is rich in blood vessels that can spread infection to major organs and because it is near important nerves and the upper airway,
he said.

Jeanne Fritch, owner of Personal Art, a piercing and tattooing studio in Lake Station, Ind., said
she has not heard of a similar case in her 21 years in business.

Fritch recommended people interested in tongue piercing see only professional, experienced piercers and use only "implant grade" metal jewelry. Good mouth hygiene while the tongue heals also is important, Fritch said.

Stefania Fraccalvieri, the patient in the report, is now 21 and a student in Rome. Her advice to people considering tongue piercing: "Don't do that. My experience was so bad. I was so sick and now I feel much better."

The piercing has a tendency to heal a bit crooked as a result of the frenulum's placement in the
exact center of the tongue. This is usually undetectable by anyone except the piercing's owner, but in some cases it can be quite pronounced.Tooth and gum damage are risks, but they can be minimized by proper placement, the use of properly-sized jewelry, and avoiding playing with the piercing. A bar that is very large-gauge or too long can greatly increase the risk of chipped teeth or gum erosion, and excessive impacts of the metal against the teeth can cause micro-fractures in the tooth enamel.

Answer 9

Wow, you are selfish. 20 minutes is hardly any time at all. Just coz u wanna be near your mates, you are willing to put your mum through hell selling a house when she doesn't have to? Heres my situation. I live in town A and i go to school in own B. town A and B are 30 minutes away. I love love love living in town A, although all my friends live in town B. It doesn't bother me at all, although there are times when i wanna be closer to my friends. Overall i don't mind living further away. It's a little thing called public transport (trains, buses etc) that helps me through holidays and stuff. Try putting yourself in your mums shoes and remeber that there are people who live further away from their friends than you and they manage fine.

Answer 10

write her a note saying really bad stuff like mom ive been dating this guy for a couple years and we gor drunk the other night and he got me pregnate oh and im failing all my classes and so i droped out with this guy and now im living with him in a trailer park love you bye..




then wright

p.s. im kidding see a tounge ring isnt as bad as things an get


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