I'm 11 and I turn 12 tomorrow. I keep saying that I want to have an abortion but I really want to keep my baby. My parent know and said I can choose what I want. Is it wrong for me to want to keep my baby?
2007-05-31 15:46:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It's not wrong, but understand that the baby will probably have a better life and a better chance if he/she was put up for adoption where they will have 2 parents that love him with a home. You still need to finish school and live your life, you're still a child.
2007-05-31 15:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry you got raped.
This shows that you are a responsible young woman who can see that the worst of curses can turn into a blessing. No, it is NOT wrong to want to keep your baby. Do not have an abortion or give it up if you really want to keep your child. If you do, you will regret this for the rest of your life...and that's a lot of years of regret.
It is best to consider both sides. On one hand, there is the responsibility of feeding, bathing, and all that. Having a baby can possibly hinder your education, social life, etc., not to mention all the mess and noise! However, there is a bright side. Listening to their laughter, playing with them, teaching them. Your parents will stay by your side and help with the baby. At least you are not all alone. Some girls your age get pregnant because they ran away, and have no one to turn to.
I suggest talking to a counselor about this. They can help you sort through the confusion. A female counselor with kids would be best. She will also help with anger, depression, or whatever. Talk to someone besides your parents - the stress will crush you if you don't get some serious help. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-05-31 16:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it isn't wrong but you need to think of many things like, can you support the baby, can you finish school with the baby. I wouldn't recommend an abortion since there are many many people out there who want a baby and either can not have them or in my case are told by a dr not to have anymore. If you can't keep the baby give someone else the baby to love. And not all adoptions are closed ones, if you find the right people you could get pics and updates all the time. Just think about what is best for everyone. Keep Your head up!
2007-05-31 15:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear that you were raped. I hope that you are receiving counseling to deal with it.
No it is not wrong for you to want to keep your baby but you are awfully young to be a mother. Keeping a baby will change your life drastically and you need to make sure that it is the right decision for you, not only for right now but for 5 years down the road because you are responsible for a baby until he/she reaches the age of 18. It is not easy raising a child and your age will make it more difficult.
If the idea of an abortion bothers you, you could consider adoption. There are alot of families looking to adopt babies.
Good luck in what you decide to do.
2007-05-31 15:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by LT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all it is about the attitude that you have about the whole situation. If you are confident that you will hold no harsh feelings toward the child in the future and that your husband is supporting you 100% in the decision to go forth with keeping your child everything should work out. I am not suggesting you should not go through with the pregnancy, but adoption could be another option--if you feel uncertain of how all of this would work out. If you feel good, your husband is good with this, then you should be honest, up front and let the child know at the appropriate time the situation. God makes each child differently, I have a child who does not look like me or my spouse, at all, but he is ours and we don't get questions. People might just think your child is adopted--there is nothing wrong with that. For that matter biracial children are very common in today's world. The bioloigical make up does not determine how good a Father will be--He decides to be a good father, love the child unconditionally, regardless of the biology. It is up to you and your husband to love the child, build his/or self confidence as he grows up and understand that there are differences and that, that is ok. Best wishes for a happy, healthy baby that will bring joy to your lives!
2016-05-18 01:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sooooooooo not wrong. When u get back to school in fall, Ur parents can take care of the baby. U will have an early start. When Ur 22, the baby will be about ten. But living the teen live will be hard. Have a close friend take care of it but make sure the baby knows its mommy. Go to www.knowledgeisimpowering.com
2007-05-31 15:59:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that it is wrong for you to want to keep your baby but you do have your whole life ahead of you still and I hope that your parents are willing to help you through this and I dont just mean the pregnancy. I was also raped at 14 and although I didnt end up pregnant I still carry that with me so I hope that your parents have gotten you some counseling to deal with the rape so that you dont resent the baby later on because of how it was concieved.
2007-05-31 15:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by mel w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is your child. it is apart of you. you are in a very difficult situation. you are very young, this is part of you, and this will also be a reminder to a very bad situation. take your time and decide what will be best for YOU. Keeping your baby is not wrong and giving your baby up is not wrong either. Your parents sound great and very supportive. thank God for that. only you can make the right decision fo ryou. if you are having difficulty may i suggest speaking tto a church counselor or a school counselor or some other qualified person to help assist you? good luck.
2007-05-31 15:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong at all! This baby is the silver lining :)
If your parents know you want to keep your child, and they have said the choice is up to you...it sounds to me like they are very supportive and plan on being there to raise the child while you finish growing up. If that is the case, you have wonderful parents!
2007-05-31 16:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not wrong. But since you're so young you may want to see if your parents would adopt the child to keep things easy on you, let you enjoy the rest of your childhood yet still let you watch the baby grow. But instead of you being its mother in it's eyes you would be it's sister? Something to consider.
2007-05-31 17:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by Dani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋